Anger at museum for tiktok of staff member

Crimestoppers? Wtf! No crime has been committed!

It has opened my eyes though and I approached the topic of deleting TikTok but DH seems to think this is an overreaction

I agree with you and I think your husband is being naive.

Delete TikTok ASAP.

What has the man himself done wrong in the scenario you've described? Your son is following this man's account, but it doesn't sound like the man is following your son's account or has interacted with him in any way, is that right?

The man being cringy online isn't illegal or something he deserves to be reported for. Your son can choose to unfollow and block the account, as it appears he has now done.

It would be different if the man was following your son's account or trying to talk to him online. That would be inappropriate. Does your son post any of his own videos or have any chats online via Tiktok?

There are so many ways in which Tiktok is harmful to kids and I won't let mine have it. You're right to monitor closely and supervise carefully, but in this case I don't think there is any basis for contacting the museum.

Can you not do what pp suggested and link accounts and I am not being snarky but learn how the internet and algorythims work, do you not have social media ?

OP either your son is “a child and completely vulnerable” and he is not allowed TikTok or he isn’t. Because why would you allow him access to a platform like TikTok when he is a child and completely vulnerable? Why do you want to have it both ways? The reality is you can’t clean up TikTok from all the creeps and the dangerous people praying on young people so I would instead focus on controlling things a bit closer to home.

if you had the location active on your phone and then used eg that can put the 2 together

I don't get the impression that the OP would have a clue if this was official or not, or would even know how to delve further. She's just seen a middle aged man and her mind has gone straight to grooming...

Okay so I am a social worker and I know, like most people that Roblox is a nonce’s playground.
Forget the TikTok (though he shouldn’t have that either) Roblox is far more dangerous.

Also, is the museum officer AI? There are a hell of a lot of AI videos out there and some are very convincing

I don't think this account could be linked to the museum itself somehow, actual official sm accounts are usually marked as such or you can guess from the content they put out that this is one of the official pages.
Block the man and move on, I think he was just farming followers using hastags and geotags and that's how his page got recommended to your son.

My 13 year old is not allowed to use Tiktoc or any other social media account. My friends with 13/14 year olds also have the same view point.

You say that your son is childlike and vulnerable, so I would suggest you also don’t allow him to use social media or interact with strangers online.

However one week after this visit my sons account was "following" a man in his 50s

Your son followed this guy. This guy didn't follow your son. You're being ridiculous. Parent your child and leave the museum and this guy out of it.

Thirteen year old children do not need access to tiktok.

If he is in a museum uniform doing odd things, then contact the museum as it does affect them. Just get your DS off Tik Tok. My DD never had it and still doesn't , by choice, aged 17.

No responsible parent allows their child access to Twat Tok, for that alone OP YABU.

@DeepLemonBeaker please can you clarify exactly what the problem with the video is.

Is it that
The Museum allowed your child to follow the account
That it is an official Museum video and not appropriate in some way
That the man is independently making inappropriate / offensive / harmful videos while wearing a museum uniform

You've let your 13-year-old son have TikTok, and he's chosen to follow a stranger.

Delete TikTok. There's nothing at all to report the man for here.

It's everything to do with the museum if he's wearing their uniform in his videos.

What on earth are you talking about OP?

You want to complain to the museum because you let your 13yo son have a tiktok account and didn’t supervise him properly?

As far as I can see this man has done nothing wrong and it’s entirely possible your son followed him or even that he unintentionally followed your son - it’s very easy to hit follow instead of like if you’re not paying attention.

The bottom line is that if you let your child go on an adult social media platform then there is a risk of him interacting with adults. You can’t police how other adults use tiktok because it doesn’t fit with your parenting choices.

youre going to complain to the museum that your son followed one of their employees who also has a TikTok account?
good luck with that.

this is a parenting issue, not the random man issue, you gave your 13 year old TikTok, where he can stumble across videos like this, and he’s the one that followed him, what do you want the museum to do about this?

In short you think you're better than other parents because you didn't allow tiktok, then you allowed tiktok at the minimum age requirement, now want to report a guy for having an account that your son followed because you weren't keeping an eye on his account, despite him being vulnerable?

This is entirely on you. Nothing to do with this guy at all.

It is almost as if the op doesn't know what tik tok is.