Nice guy in hospital turned weird

• I'd send him a short, polite text saying it was nice to meet him but you're not interested in pursuing a relationship with him. Then block him. He's a creep.

When my dad was in hospital really poorly ..

• and you were understandably worried and a little vulnerable -

.. a guy next to my dad was really kind and friendly with my dad ...
- you'd caught his eye so he wanted to give your dad a good impression -

.. my dad got discharged and swapped numbers with this gentleman ...

• let me guess whose idea that was! -

..Well he’s texting my dad saying he fancies me ...

• cringe -

..And can he take me out..

• do you usually require your dad's permission to go on a date? And notice he didn't ask whether you're interested in him. He seems to have taken that as a given -

...and he’s literally acting obsessed with me..
- OMG

... Sounds awful but would you block him? ..

• I'd send him a short, polite text saying it was nice to meet him but you're not interested in pursuing a relationship with him. Then block him. He's a creep.

Yuck, why would he think a younger woman would be interested in him?? Sleazy fucker

Block him. Why are you even asking this?

Is he messaging you or your dad?

Then if he’s ’bloody creepy’ why on earth do you think you’d be unreasonable to block him?? <unbelievable>

Why wouldn't you block him? You don't want contact with him so what choice do you have? Put up with it??

Op you need to think why you're prioritising his comfort over your own, why it feels mean.

I promise you, reflecting on this and digging out the internalised misogyny and conditioning NOW will set you up for life.

Seriously OP, quite apart from blocking him immediately and making it very clear to your dad that he must do the same, you really need to think about why you even felt the need to post this.

Women are often socialised from birth to ‘be nice’, to not assert boundaries, to never show anger, to be kind and not hurt anyone’s feelings. This makes us vulnerable to being pushed into uncomfortable and even dangerous situations, especially where predatory men are concerned. You need to consciously unlearn this behaviour, find your rage and stop questioning your right to push back on unwanted attention from arseholes like this.

He’s not ‘nice’, he a creepy manipulative old gimmer who’s perving on you. It’s not ‘mean’ to tell him to get in the fucking bin, and you don’t need a public forum to validate your own instincts.

Do you seriously need to ask the Internet this?

Jesus. Hope your dad hasn’t given out his or your address or workplace to this utter weirdo.

Ew block. Creepy bastard

What does it matter whether the kids are real or not?

He's creeping on her, she doesn't like it and she should block him.

I’m surprised your dad told you about this. That seems a bit silly on his part. This man is not in contact with you I assume so there’s nothing to do. But I don’t think being nice and finding women attractive are mutually exclusive. He can be nice and still stupid.

Exactly this.

do you like him?
do you want to go out with him?

How is this even a question?

What’s the alternative - and why would that be your choice? What’s the benefit to you if being perved over by a worryingly persistent manipulative creep?

Do you often put the feelings of strangers over your own?

You owe this man nothing. Block him

So he's texting your dad? Then your dad needs to block him immediately. I strongly doubt your dad really enjoys getting messages from someone who's desperate to fuck his daughter, frankly.

If your dad was stupid enough to give him your number, then obviously you need to block him as well.

I can't believe you need to ask about this. Why would anyone even entertain the idea of letting this weirdo carry on messaging?

Block him immediately, I've heard of men doing stuff like this and turning in to full blown stalkers. Don't take the risk.

Of course it's not unkind - it's rational and self protecting.
Don't just block him if he's somehow got your number but ensure that your Dad doesn't unwittingly collude with him. Make sure he knows that the only answer to the creep is NO and that he mustn't have any conversations with this guy about you.
Your Dad will be the weak link.

The fact that you are asking if it’s mean, you are exactly the type of woman these creeps target. Why on earth are you even questioning it? Do you really need someone to give you permission to block him?

OP, why would you think that you shouldn't block him? I mean, what on earth would keeping his number add to your life?

It's a shame you think like that. Not all men are, far from it

OP, how do you now know he wasn't that ill & he doesn't have kids?

Sounds awful but would you block him? Or is that mean? Thanks.

Why do women do this to ourselves? feel the need to placate horrible men to the detriment of our own boundaries and feelings.

You owe this guy absolutely nothing - instead of feeling guilty, get angry at the fact that he took advantage of your kind nature during a stressful time, when you were visiting your father in hospital.

Block the cheeky fecker. Stay safe OP