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Nice guy in hospital turned weird

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TheOpalFox · 03/03/2026 13:56

When my dad was in hospital really poorly a guy next to my dad was really kind and friendly with my dad, my dad got discharged and swapped numbers with this gentleman. He’s in his 60s
Well he’s texting my dad saying he fancies me
And can he take me out and he’s literally acting obsessed with me.
Sounds awful but would you block him? Or is that mean? Thanks

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Happyjoe · 04/03/2026 14:24

Block, make sure your dad didn't tell him where he lives (as he knows you visit daily) and think nothing more of him. Ugh!

raspberets · 04/03/2026 14:17

It’ll be your dad who has to block him seeing as he has your dad’s number.

BiscoffCheesecakes · 04/03/2026 14:15

nomas · 04/03/2026 14:09

I said most abusers are men.

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I know

Skybluepinky · 04/03/2026 14:13

Block him, obsession never ends well.

outerspacepotato · 04/03/2026 14:12

Block him and ask your dad to not pass on anything. You owe this creeper nothing. He's harassing you.

nomas · 04/03/2026 14:09

BiscoffCheesecakes · 04/03/2026 14:08

Of course they're allowed. But most men are not abusers

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I said most abusers are men.

BiscoffCheesecakes · 04/03/2026 14:08

nomas · 04/03/2026 13:12

Is this really the time for NAMALT?

Given most abusers are men, if women want to say men are disgusting creatures on a women's forum, they should be bloody well allowed to.

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Of course they're allowed. But most men are not abusers

CruCru · 04/03/2026 13:51

nomas · 04/03/2026 13:02

It’s upsetting OP too, who is the target of his lasciviousness. She is allowed to be angry.

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What I mean is, if this man does not have the OP’s number then she can’t block him. Because he isn’t contacting her directly.

Blodyneighbour · 04/03/2026 13:25

Do you want to go out w8th the man? Are you the same age?
You said he was kind, he obviously thinks you are too. So its up to you really.
I think there have been some nasty comments on here about the poor bloke.

Newyearawaits · 04/03/2026 13:15

Block

nomas · 04/03/2026 13:12

BiscoffCheesecakes · 04/03/2026 12:27

Most men are definitely NOT like that

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Is this really the time for NAMALT?

Given most abusers are men, if women want to say men are disgusting creatures on a women's forum, they should be bloody well allowed to.

BunnyLake · 04/03/2026 13:09

Block without a second thought.

nomas · 04/03/2026 13:02

CruCru · 04/03/2026 12:57

We are not told that this man has the OPs number. The way I read it, this man and the OPs dad have swapped numbers and this man has told the dad that he wants to take OP out. And the dad has told the OP about this.

If the OP hasn’t been contacted directly by the man then I am not sure that there is much for her to do. Whether this is upsetting her dad is another question.

It’s upsetting OP too, who is the target of his lasciviousness. She is allowed to be angry.

nomas · 04/03/2026 13:01

Or is that mean?

It’s depressing that women are still putting politeness to random men over their own feelings.

OP, message him to say: STOP CONTACTING ME OR I WILL CONTACT THE POLICE.

CruCru · 04/03/2026 12:57

We are not told that this man has the OPs number. The way I read it, this man and the OPs dad have swapped numbers and this man has told the dad that he wants to take OP out. And the dad has told the OP about this.

If the OP hasn’t been contacted directly by the man then I am not sure that there is much for her to do. Whether this is upsetting her dad is another question.

runadun · 04/03/2026 12:52

BMW6 · 04/03/2026 08:55

WTF?

Why isn't your Dad telling the creep to Fuck Off since he's messaging your Dad?

Why don't you tell him to Fuck Off Grandad?

Urgh.

This?

DorisTheFinkasaurus · 04/03/2026 12:50

He sure has shown you exactly what he is: manipulative and deceptive.
He saw a loving, giving caretaker in you and called Bingo.
God, some men are always on the make, aren't they?
Thou shalt not wipe this man's ass in old age.

BiscoffCheesecakes · 04/03/2026 12:27

WinterBlues26 · 04/03/2026 09:39

It's a shame you have to bring up NAMALT when it's becoming bleeding obvious most men are.

OP. Block the creep. He was only nice so he could get your number. Agree with pp that your dad needs to block him too.

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Most men are definitely NOT like that

waterrat · 04/03/2026 10:35

Im baffled why you would give this a second thought beyond blocking him?

Christmasinmecar · 04/03/2026 10:34

Some women need to stop with the being so nice and kind shite. Use their voices and use a mental 'fuck off' sometimes and act accordingly.
No wonder men try this shit on because of girls and women being told to play nicely, be quiet, be kind [bleugh] and don't question anything, certainly don't have any common sense as you don't need it - a man can think for you - it's all complete shite.
So many girls are being raised as future doormats for men to wipe their boots on.
No wonder so many hold the shitty end of the stick, they don't know any better. Boys see this 'weak' behaviour and those that don't know any better treat grow up and treat women badly, so the circle goes on.

InterestedDad37 · 04/03/2026 09:46

Block him, get your dad to block him.

Squirrel60 · 04/03/2026 09:45

Block the weirdo immediately.

Creepy texts could easily lead to something far worse.

WinterBlues26 · 04/03/2026 09:39

BiscoffCheesecakes · 03/03/2026 14:20

It's a shame you think like that. Not all men are, far from it

OP, how do you now know he wasn't that ill & he doesn't have kids?

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It's a shame you have to bring up NAMALT when it's becoming bleeding obvious most men are.

OP. Block the creep. He was only nice so he could get your number. Agree with pp that your dad needs to block him too.

BiscoffCheesecakes · 04/03/2026 09:14

Thesnailonthewhale · 04/03/2026 08:00

What does it matter whether the kids are real or not?

He's creeping on her, she doesn't like it and she should block him.

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It matters to the OP or she wouldn't have mentioned it

BMW6 · 04/03/2026 08:55

WTF?

Why isn't your Dad telling the creep to Fuck Off since he's messaging your Dad?

Why don't you tell him to Fuck Off Grandad?

Urgh.