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My beautiful mixed race dd worried about war.

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malificent7 · 03/03/2026 13:27

Dd is half iranian. Iranian Dad is not around. In Uk btw running a business but not really involved. She is worried about anti Iranian feeling which is so sad as she was just feeling so proud of her iranian/persian heritage. We were doing persian cookery I've already had a few anti iranian comments this morning at work. I havn't mentioned dds ethnicity.
How do I deal with this?
Obviously I will carry on the cooking etc.
Please be gentle btw.

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TheFilliesWillRiseAgain · 03/03/2026 13:48

What were the anti Iranian comments you heard? I just can't imagine anyone except for extreme religious type people saying something negative about Iranians?

faithfultoGeorgeMichael · 03/03/2026 13:46

What anti Iranian comments have you heard at work?

Springisnearlyspring · 03/03/2026 13:45

What type of anti Iranian comments?
I’d have thought most people if commenting in a uk workplace would be along lines of hoping things now improve for Iranian people especially women.
Is she perhaps worried she’ll get questions re her extended family eg how her gran or cousins have found living there and her experiences visiting and it puts her on spot with her limited connection with her dad.

AnneLovesGilbert · 03/03/2026 13:45

I've already had a few anti iranian comments this morning at work

Like what?

Tulipsriver · 03/03/2026 13:40

I'm sorry she's feeling worried, it must be tough for you too Flowers

I'd keep celebrating her Iranian culture with her. Food is great but maybe also look for some inspiring people to look up to.

How old is she? If it's comments from other children she is worried about, practice some responses with her (maybe something about being proud to be half Iranian because of how brave the protesters were to stand up for their freedom?)

EasternStandard · 03/03/2026 13:37

HeadDeskHeadDesk · 03/03/2026 13:31

Actually I am not aware that there is much anti Iranian sentiment among most British people. Anti-Iranian Islamist fundamentalist regime yes. Anti-Iranian, no. Probably quite the opposite.

Agree

youalright · 03/03/2026 13:36

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Skybunnee · 03/03/2026 13:33

If it was me I’d just keep quiet about heritage and if she dresses in western clothes how would anyone know.
btw I only feel sorry for Iranians -don’t see why there should be animosity as it has been an evil ruling regime in the wrong not the people.

HeadDeskHeadDesk · 03/03/2026 13:31

Actually I am not aware that there is much anti Iranian sentiment among most British people. Anti-Iranian Islamist fundamentalist regime yes. Anti-Iranian, no. Probably quite the opposite.

TheFilliesWillRiseAgain · 03/03/2026 13:31

Very few people will know that someone is half Iranian on sight and from what I've seen most people are sympathetic to Iranians, especially girls.

Unless you mean Islamists like the group of Pakistani men who attacked a car in London because it had the Iranian flag on it?

Why would anyone else be anti Iranian when we all know the regime is despised by the majority of Iranians?