Nursery teacher dating my sons dad

I might be inclined to find another nursery.

I assume you are taking the piss because no one would seriously think this.

Well they can, they can take it back to court, you seem to be playing fast and loose with the law here.

Both parents have PR, school choice is one of the issues that both need to consent to. If he doesnt care or doesnt have a view thats different but both parents need to seek the other's consent for schooling choices. Its not the same as haircuts or after school club choices.

Could you have a conversation with her as adults, she should be a nice enough person if she works in the nursery. Explain it makes u feel a bit uncomfortable ? She might be a really nice girl. No need to cause conflict around your son where there isn’t any

@TheBestThingthatAlmostHappened That's legally not the case as Father has PR. Share of care is in fact irrelevant. It's why I would always urge unmarried mothers to think very carefully before adding Father to birth certificate.

Taking a child off site without permission is kidnap isn't it? He needs to be moved

Yeah I can 100% understand why you're annoyed/worried about this. If nursery aren't responding to you I'd formalise and escalate it. And yes, potentially I'd move nurseries. It would be one thing dad dating nursery worker if the nursery had handled it appropriately and acted early and clearly to avoid any potential conflicts of interest. It's quite another when they're not handling it well at all.

As the parent with majority care, the courts will consider that she's within her rights to pick a nursery. However, Dad doesn't have to take him to the nursery she picks. He could, in fact, simply re-enrol him for that nursery on his days and continue to take him to that one, provided he has the same days every week. The courts will not care.

Even with homeschooling, it only takes one parent to send a de-reg email and the other parent can't really do anything about it.

@TheBestThingthatAlmostHappened Legally she has to have consent of the other parent with PR. If she does attempt to remove him without consent, Dad has every right to go to court.

I'm also slightly concerned child is only 4 and both parents have new partners...

Oh right, well yes, she can. Dad can object but nursery won't seek his approval before removing him from roll and a new nursery won't need his consent for registration. Courts won't get involved either.

@MyLittleNest Again, she can only move him with Dad's consent.

Move him. Find a neutral option. This has already become messy and could likely become much worse if they break up.

As everyone else has already set out, when you sign up for nursery, its within the agreement then because they have the care of the child that day. Its not reasonable to expect them to phone 20 parents to 'double check' when they see its sunny outside and say, right coats on we're going for a quick stroll in the park

Given that he's 4, and will be leaving the nursery in 6 months anyway, I wouldn't move nurseries unless he was unhappy where he is. But I would definitely be insisting on a change of keyworker.

@TheBestThingthatAlmostHappened You said Mum can move him.

That's what I said.

As others have said, I would look for a new nursery / childminder although I read he’s 4 so will surely be starting at school in September? Meaning only around 6 months left, it may not be worth disturbing his routine. I would definitely request a new keyworker.

The nursery don’t need to speak to you first though.

@TheBestThingthatAlmostHappened She can't unless Dad agrees.

Well no, as the child has two parents,

You can move him but I don't really see why.

Nursery should have obtained parental consent before taking him on a trip but are you sure they didn't get it from his Dad?

You can't block her from seeing him or picking him up if he has given permission.

I think being taken out of nursery but seeing his keyworker still as his Dad's gf would be more confusing that her being his keyworker and his Dad's gf.

Hang on so you don’t even know if your son knows or she’s ever present with your son at weekends?

habe you spoken to your son? I am really surprised you’re bothering the nursery when you don’t even know if she’s there when he is. The nursery will have info and feel it’s fine.

i think this is fine, and I wonder if maybe you’re a little jealous.

@SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius I imagine Dad gave consent which is of course equally as permissible.