What is the point of my life?

Having a hobby can be a great way to meet people you have something in common with. It can broaden your life considerably. Is there anything that you particularly enjoy doing that could become a regular activity? The more you have in your life, the more purpose you tend to find. I’m at the opposite end of life where I sometimes look at people my own age who have achieved enormous success and wonder where I could have done things differently when I was younger to have had a similar life experience. Now I just look at the smaller things I enjoy doing and am grateful for them. I love walking in the countryside. I find it exhilarating to to alone or with company. I also enjoy growing things. Both have given me enormous pleasure in life and become a part of the point of my life. There’s bound to be something special you also enjoy too that you can find pleasure and enjoyment in doing.

The problem is that life doesn't come to you, you have to create a life for yourself. It's kind of easier when you have children because you have a group of people with things in common immediately - i.e. other parents at the school, at clubs, etc. And you always have your kids as a focal point. If you DON'T have kids or a partner then it's a bit harder as you need to go out looking for things to make your life feel full.

Hobbies are fantastic. I love reading, gaming, walking, writing. I also go to a hobby group twice a week so that's a group of 30 friends immediately with something in common. Try a book club, a sport, a knit and natter group? Whatever fits with your interests.

It can take a while, and it takes a huge amount of courage to try new things, but ultimately that's where you're going to get your fulfilment in life.

Volunteering is a great idea - I have made friends that way.
Or you could sign up for a night class - you might find your passion.
Or could you sign up for something else? WI, netball, a choir group, yoga/pilates, am dram, camera club, flower arranging, history club…. Anything really, to get you out meeting people

I don't have any words of wisdom because I'm the same but just wanted to send you a cyberhug. It's pants.xx

I think the point of one's life is to live it fully. I am single, childless, most of my friends are two hour drive away. I find enjoyment elsewhere - hikes, crossfit classes, dance classes, drawing, reading, thinking nice thoughts, planning holidays, cooking nice meals. What is it you enjoy?

I’m so sorry you’re feeling blue.
My first thought is might you consider getting involved with volunteering? There are so many incredibly worthwhile charities and causes that would love to have some help. In return you might find it brings you some purpose, structure, connection and a boost to your battered feelings of self-worth?

If you love dogs, how about volunteering to walk the pet of a poorly or elderly person through The Cinnamon Trust?

Or how about volunteering with the RSPCA or a local dog rescue?

I wish you well x