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IcyPlumShaker · 04/03/2026 19:29

So Hamas started this did they?

I suggest you read some history. Start I. 1947 and work forward from there..

hazelnutvanillalatte · 04/03/2026 19:16

IcyPlumShaker · 04/03/2026 18:57

Please tell me you’re not serious.

So it’s not a genocide because it could be worse. And because it’s not worse that proves it’s not genocide?

That’s some seriously faulty logic you have there.

Genocide is defined as the intentional, systematic destruction—in whole or in part—of a national, ethnic, racial, or religious group. That hasn't happened. What has happened is defense and retaliation against the most brutal and deadliest terrorist attack in Israel's history.

What I'm illustrating to you is that, if genocide were the goal, it would not be continuing to this day.

Putting aside the fact they started this war by murdering and kidnapping thousands of innocent people, Hamas never even surrendered and was the one rejecting peace deals...that is not the behaviour of an area undergoing genocide.

But it's a really obvious and transparent tactic to attack and then run away crying genocide when the target retaliates. I love asking people like you what Israel SHOULD do to defend themselves. What WOULD be deemed acceptable. There is never any response...

LucyWestenra · 04/03/2026 18:59

Ihatetomatoes · 04/03/2026 18:45

Don't let people drive you away.

Threads often get hijacked by people and veer off.

The comments made by the Green Party Spin Person are disgusting. Rape deniers are disgusting.

Im sorry you are going through a difficult time at present. I hope things improve.

Thank you for your kind words ❤️
I won’t go because I haven’t done anything wrong.

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TheKeatingFive · 04/03/2026 18:58

Manxexile · 04/03/2026 18:42

Women like the Green Party.

In the university town i live in each city council ward elects 3 councillors and my ward has elected three apparently nice women from the Green Party for as long as i can remember. (Not the same three women each time)

I assume they are committed environmentalists and don't necessarily accept all the other crap the party now is associated with.

But maybe they do. It is a bit of a lefty "progressive" city

It's likely they haven't given it a second's thought.

A huge problem in itself. When will these women wake up?

IcyPlumShaker · 04/03/2026 18:57

hazelnutvanillalatte · 04/03/2026 18:33

Israel is a nuclear power and Gaza is tiny. If Israel wanted to commit genocide it would have been done within the space of a few days. If this genocide is occurring why on earth would it be continuing years later?

Please tell me you’re not serious.

So it’s not a genocide because it could be worse. And because it’s not worse that proves it’s not genocide?

That’s some seriously faulty logic you have there.

OrdinaryMagicOfAcorns · 04/03/2026 18:53

Manxexile · 04/03/2026 18:42

Women like the Green Party.

In the university town i live in each city council ward elects 3 councillors and my ward has elected three apparently nice women from the Green Party for as long as i can remember. (Not the same three women each time)

I assume they are committed environmentalists and don't necessarily accept all the other crap the party now is associated with.

But maybe they do. It is a bit of a lefty "progressive" city

I’m a woman. I joined the Green Party once years ago, when they were environmentalists. It’s true that some women still stick with them. The councillors near me - I wonder if it’s the same town? - openly agree if you say that you’ll vote for local councillors with a proven long term historical interest in ecology and environmental matters, but that the national leadership now is barshit crazy.

I have got to the point now where I won’t even vote for those locals any more. If I can be bothered to go out and vote any more, I didn’t last time, it would be for a local independent or Monster Raving Loonies. Because that’s all politics has become.

Manxexile · 04/03/2026 18:47

Firry · 04/03/2026 13:45

He doesn’t own it any more than his father did, and if his father did it would have been subject to IHT and it wasn’t.

Tell me something, if there was an easy way to raise buckets of cash that didn’t do staggering amounts of harm to the economy, why aren’t Keir Starmer and Rachel Reeves doing it? It would be wildly popular, no? Could it possibly be that we are rinsing ‘the rich’ for as much as we possibly can, and trying to take any more from them would be economically stupid and cause real harm to the tax take?

Speaking as someone who works in the sector, Labour are doing h what they can and absolutely everything that comes from the Greens mouths with regards to tax is 100% bunkum, but as long as enough fools fall for it, that’s ok!

didn't the Greens have a policy at the last election that they were going to increase income tax for anybody earning over £50k?

£50k is still quite a lot of money but it was sufficiently low for it to be a real vote loser

Ihatetomatoes · 04/03/2026 18:45

LucyWestenra · 04/03/2026 17:34

I’m sorry, I’m going to sign off now.

i honestly meant no harm

Don't let people drive you away.

Threads often get hijacked by people and veer off.

The comments made by the Green Party Spin Person are disgusting. Rape deniers are disgusting.

Im sorry you are going through a difficult time at present. I hope things improve.

Twiglets1 · 04/03/2026 18:43

IcyPlumShaker · 04/03/2026 18:34

I’m not the one saying that Israel has committed genocide. The UN commission are the ones saying it.

why are you finding it so hard to accept?

BBC:

The commission said its latest report was "the strongest and most authoritative UN finding to date" on the war. However, it does not officially speak for the UN.

The UN says it cannot make a legal determination as to whether a situation constitutes genocide under international law. It says a situation is referred to as genocide only after a competent national or international court has declared it as such.

The International Court of Justice (ICJ) is currently hearing a case brought by South Africa that accuses Israeli forces of genocide, but it could take years to reach a conclusion. Israel has called the case "wholly unfounded" and based on "biased and false claims".

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c8641wv0n4go

Manxexile · 04/03/2026 18:42

SwirlyGates · 04/03/2026 14:26

The biggest mystery is why they have women standing as candidates. It is possible that women voters are unaware of the trans bias in the party, and the erasure of women's rights, with attempts to remove women-only services, but the candiates must surely know the party's position on this.

Women like the Green Party.

In the university town i live in each city council ward elects 3 councillors and my ward has elected three apparently nice women from the Green Party for as long as i can remember. (Not the same three women each time)

I assume they are committed environmentalists and don't necessarily accept all the other crap the party now is associated with.

But maybe they do. It is a bit of a lefty "progressive" city

LucyWestenra · 04/03/2026 18:39

Tikitaka20 · 04/03/2026 18:30

That is such a flippant comment. How can you know what genocide looks like? It’s a really specific term and not something to just be thrown around willy-nilly.

From what’s been said on this thread, it’s unclear as to whether Israel have committed genocide. Just because you think it’s the case, that doesn’t make it so.

Agreed.

And you know what? If the choice is between Israel and Hamas or Israel and Iran I would always choose Israel.

I wish people wouldn’t pretend they’re remotely the same.

Try being homosexual in Israel vs Palestine/ Iran.

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LucyWestenra · 04/03/2026 18:34

Yes.

Just this.

I apologise if my terminology was ‘childish’ but I honestly started this thread in good faith.

Because after all the Jewish community have been through, they don’t deserve to put up with such ignorance.

💐

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IcyPlumShaker · 04/03/2026 18:34

Tikitaka20 · 04/03/2026 18:30

That is such a flippant comment. How can you know what genocide looks like? It’s a really specific term and not something to just be thrown around willy-nilly.

From what’s been said on this thread, it’s unclear as to whether Israel have committed genocide. Just because you think it’s the case, that doesn’t make it so.

I’m not the one saying that Israel has committed genocide. The UN commission are the ones saying it.

why are you finding it so hard to accept?

hazelnutvanillalatte · 04/03/2026 18:33

IcyPlumShaker · 04/03/2026 18:31

Ok, so we can agree that Hamas raped and murdered Israeli women in Oct 7th. I have no problem at all with agreeing with you on that.

Can you agree with me that Israel has committed genocide in Gaza?

Israel is a nuclear power and Gaza is tiny. If Israel wanted to commit genocide it would have been done within the space of a few days. If this genocide is occurring why on earth would it be continuing years later?

IcyPlumShaker · 04/03/2026 18:31

Ok, so we can agree that Hamas raped and murdered Israeli women in Oct 7th. I have no problem at all with agreeing with you on that.

Can you agree with me that Israel has committed genocide in Gaza?

Tikitaka20 · 04/03/2026 18:30

IcyPlumShaker · 04/03/2026 18:14

Hmm. Who to believe? The UN commission or some random person on the internet?

I saw the Tv footage of Gaza being bombed. Looked like genocide to me.

That is such a flippant comment. How can you know what genocide looks like? It’s a really specific term and not something to just be thrown around willy-nilly.

From what’s been said on this thread, it’s unclear as to whether Israel have committed genocide. Just because you think it’s the case, that doesn’t make it so.

LucyWestenra · 04/03/2026 18:30

Tikitaka20 · 04/03/2026 18:24

Thanks for your post about what got you interested in Judaism. I started to become more and more interested in it early last year.

I then lost a close relative very suddenly, and by complete chance, I found the below Jewish prayer online, which I’ve learned is recited after someone dies:

God, full of compassion, who dwells on high, grant perfect rest beneath the sheltering wings of Your divine presence, among the holy and pure who shine as the brightness of the firmament, unto (insert name of the deceased) who has gone to his/her eternal home. Author of mercy, bring him/her under the shelter of Your wings and let his/her soul be bound up in the bonds of eternal life. May you be his/her inheritance and may his/her repose be in peace. Amen.

It brought me huge comfort at that time - and still does - even though I’m not Jewish and do not believe in God.

I’ve also got a lot of comfort from the words ‘may his/her memory be a blessing’, which I think is also often said in Judaism of someone who’s passed away.

This is beautiful, thank you

Crying here 😭❤️

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Ihatetomatoes · 04/03/2026 18:24

IcyPlumShaker · 04/03/2026 16:28

Surely we can avoid childish terminology like ' making Israel the baddie ' ?

As another poster has said, surely we can be objective and factual about this?

Yes, Hamas carried out an appalling attack on October 7th, kidnapping and killing hundreds of Israelis, including people who were at a music festival. I don't know whether any of the Israeli women who were there were raped, but I wouldn't be surprised if that was the case.

Also yes, Israel has carried out a genocide against the Palestinian people, settling on land that was agreed to be theirs, conducting violence and intimidation against them, and - most recently - bombing Gaza to absolute rubble.

Both of these things can be - and I believe are - true at the same time. You don't need to make one side or the other the ' baddie ' . We're not in kindergarten ffs.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-middle-east-67629181

Captain Maayan

Israel Gaza: Hamas raped and mutilated women on 7 October, BBC hears

The BBC has seen and heard evidence that Hamas fighters committed horrific sexual violence in Israel.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-middle-east-67629181

Tikitaka20 · 04/03/2026 18:24

LucyWestenra · 04/03/2026 16:38

I also have no connection to Judaism or Jewish people, but I have had an interest in it since my teenage years.

Of course growing up in Germany played a role; on a class trip we went to Dachau Concentration Camp and that has stayed with me and is still vivid in my memory decades later.

I love crime novels and at some point I came across the books written by Rochelle Majer Krich (she sadly passed away last year 😭)

Her books were about a LA Detective who discovers she has Jewish roots and starts embracing them and I found it really fascinating.

As someone who comes from an abusive childhood home and who has suffered with depression since I can remember I found it oddly comforting to read about this person finding solace in a religion she didn’t know she was a part of.

Im sorry, I’m probably waffling now, but I stand by what I said, which is that the Jewish community has conducted itself with so much grace in the face of all that hatred.

Love, not hate ought to be their slogan.

Not the Greens’.

Thanks for your post about what got you interested in Judaism. I started to become more and more interested in it early last year.

I then lost a close relative very suddenly, and by complete chance, I found the below Jewish prayer online, which I’ve learned is recited after someone dies:

God, full of compassion, who dwells on high, grant perfect rest beneath the sheltering wings of Your divine presence, among the holy and pure who shine as the brightness of the firmament, unto (insert name of the deceased) who has gone to his/her eternal home. Author of mercy, bring him/her under the shelter of Your wings and let his/her soul be bound up in the bonds of eternal life. May you be his/her inheritance and may his/her repose be in peace. Amen.

It brought me huge comfort at that time - and still does - even though I’m not Jewish and do not believe in God.

I’ve also got a lot of comfort from the words ‘may his/her memory be a blessing’, which I think is also often said in Judaism of someone who’s passed away.

IcyPlumShaker · 04/03/2026 18:14

HappyFace2025 · 04/03/2026 17:07

No it is not semantics at all @IcyPlumShaker so stop spreading misinformation. There has been no genocide.

Hmm. Who to believe? The UN commission or some random person on the internet?

I saw the Tv footage of Gaza being bombed. Looked like genocide to me.

hazelnutvanillalatte · 04/03/2026 18:09

magneticclocks · 04/03/2026 17:14

No not at all. If the other poster had said that there were women all over the world being forced to do things rather than choosing, then I would have agreed. But they didn't, they mocked the idea that anyone could choose to wear modest clothing. They were wrong. Also, my comments were based on real discussions with real Muslim women and real Jewish women, as well as watching footage and interviews and reading personal accounts. So not "luxury beliefs".

This is like defending anti-choice legislation by saying 'but some people want to have babies.'

You can have unlimited sympathy and tolerance for oppressive regimes from your safe distance and feel oh-so-untouchable, but kindness to the perpetrator is cruelty to the victim.

LucyWestenra · 04/03/2026 18:00

Twiglets1 · 04/03/2026 17:49

Well done @LucyWestenra we support you x

Thank you all 😭❤️

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LucyWestenra · 04/03/2026 18:00

OrangeAxolotyl · 04/03/2026 17:47

Excellent, @LucyWestenra ! 👏

Thank you.

❤️

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LucyWestenra · 04/03/2026 17:58

millymollymoomoo · 04/03/2026 17:46

The whole Green Party is disgusting

bunch of Islamists and delusionists

Careful, you’ll be accused of ‘trashing other cultures’

🙄

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LucyWestenra · 04/03/2026 17:56

HappyFace2025 · 04/03/2026 17:46

Yay! Well done @LucyWestenra

😊❤️

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