To be jealous of my work colleague?

Agreed.

Karma doesn't exist. It's just easier to think it does.

Honestly, you are looking for silly excuses to justify your hate/jealousy. Other posts saying there might be something dodgy happening in her private life are wrong, she might well live a “perfect” life and I highly doubt it she is that nasty otherwise she wouldn’t be so popular and liked by the rest of your colleagues. In my office there’s someone that sounds a lot like you, she is well known to be looking for faults to badmouth and gossip about other people but at the same time she is very lonely and not much going on in her life so I always made a point of being nice to her as I felt sorry. She the asks me for a cleaner recommendation and my cleaner starts cleaning for her, she then lets me know she keeps pestering her for info about my house, how many bedrooms, what’s my decor like, what does my husband does for a living, etc. After that I slowly cut her off and I am sure her story is very similar to yours, how I am so arrogant and mean to her for absolutely no reason (I’ve seen her telling the same sad story about other people). Stop wasting energy focusing on her and focus on your own life and you too could achieve nice things and progress in your life. There will always be someone prettier, richer and nicer than you, so no point in dwell on that!

Well the good news is you'll get some respite when she's had the baby? Some workplaces like the NHS as someone mentioned, have very unpleasant hierarchy and political gubbins going on.

I suspect she'd still treat you with distain if you were her level. Some people need an underdog.

In the meantime I suggest the kill her with kindness approach. If she knows you resent or dislike her, it'll fan the flames.

Don't assume all is as well as it seems in her world. People like this often have some awful men at home.

But not her personality!

Some very revealing replies here. OP take no notice.

She's senior, so she is above you.

If you want to be on her level, you need to get her qualifications & experience.

She sounds like a prize dickhead to be honest.

However her behaviour kind of grates on me. It’s like she believes that the world revolves around her. She doesn’t treat me particularly nicely. She recently bought drinks for her and my other colleague but didn’t offer me one,

You need to find someone with a better personality to be ‘jealous’ of.

Call her out on stuff like this! And the buying drinks! Even if its uncomfortable she needs calling out imo

I don't think you are precisely being unreasonable. and I loathe the "resilience" thing but its something that you are going to meet in life and for your own mental health you are going to have to learn to not let if affect you. Stay away from her when you can and be professionally polite when you can't.

I really love this! It makes a lot of sense and reframes the narrative in a positive and powerful way.

That's a long conversation I need to have with the therapist I don't have because I have no money.

I saw him as a brother figure when I lost my dad and I have some kind of weird trauma feeling of wanting him to like me 😕😂

These are important things to get your head round as an adult: karma's not real (in this sense, anyway), and life's not fair. Sometimes absolute pricks will just have nicer or easier lives than you, and you have to learn to be okay with it because otherwise you'll become resentful and bitter. I'm sure there are absolute saints who have a worse life than you, too, you know?

Karma as in, "you get the energy that you put out to other people back to you" is real. It's not some cosmic rebalancing of fairness, it's just that if you're nice to people, generally they're inclined to be nice back.

So maybe this woman doesn't deserve any special favours from you, if she's not nice to you.

But in the same vein, if she senses that you clearly resent her for being more senior and better-off financially, she might not be particularly inclined to be nice to you. I wonder how clear you make that resentment, and whether that might be playing a part.

She sounds bad mannered and rude. I wouldn’t be at all jealous of that op,

I actually think some posters are jealous of her, just the sound of her, attractive, successful wealthy good job, good lifestyle, kids, popular. Just the idea of hee pisses them off. There is definently a rush to judge her, from some, and to downplay the ops own words.

You’re human OP. If someone is a dick to you, you’d be weird to still wish her well really. There’s nothing wrong with that. ‘Thanks for holding the door Jane hahaha!’ Kill her with kindness.

I don't think you sound jealous. I think you sound resentful towards someone who is a dick to you and makes you feel like shit.

Why would you ever go to his house?!?

Op a true test of someone’s character is how they treat people who rank below them eg more junior colleagues and people they interact with such as waiting staff in restaurants and courriers who deliver to the office.

If she is treating those she considers inferior to her badly, she isn’t a good person, and if she is having to emphasise her so-called superiority by doing that, you can bet your bottom dollar that she is massively insecure or has some issue in her life making her feel that way!

If her behaviour continues to be poor, her popularity won’t last, so focus on your own career and play the long game.

There is a thing called common courtesy. You don't have to like a person not to spit in her coffee, figuratively speaking.

Yes, well said.

As for awful people having a hard time- that can sometimes happen simply because if you have a tendency to treat people poorly it will inevitably have an effect on how those people in turn treat you. Thats not karma, thats simply consequences of actions. Harvey weinstein is a good example of this - his actions eventually caused him to face a reckoning. Its not Karma though, its because his victims were finally able to speak up and that encouraged other victims to come forward.

Yeah I’m unsure why too, it says disinterest, or dislike, but not jealousy, whereas the op is all consuming jealous on every part of her.

I’m not sure why that suggests jealousy, rather than just not feeling particularly friendly towards OP.

Perhaps she’s picked up on OP’s antipathy towards her. Perhaps OP is reading far too much into every little perceived slight. Perhaps they just don’t gel. It’s oftentimes just as simple as that.

it sounds that your dislike comes from her treating you badly.
Ask yourself if you would treat people the same way? I certainly wouldn’t go out with 2 people and buy one of them a drink.
I think it’s quite natural to be envious of people who appear to have a good life. Her life is unlikely to be as great as it appears. And where it’s natural to feel envious, I would never show it or let anyone close to them know.

Letting doors slam in people's faces IS mean and rude.