What's your upper age limit for having last baby

30 - I had my first at 27 and luckily we settled on just the one. I wanted to travel to far flung places with my child, I consider showing him the world an absolute privilege and I wouldn’t miss it for anything. I didn’t want to be 45 and still doing the school run.

I had mine at 32 & 38. I did not want children in my 20s. 40 would probably have been my cut off. Only you know your body, if you are fit and well, there's nothing to stop you trying.

My personal cut off was 40, but I’m 39 now and have just started ttc no 3, so 2 cycles left to conceive and have the baby still born in my 30s.

In reality, I can’t see myself stopping ttc if it hasn’t happened after 2 cycles - given my age I’d be surprised if it did - but if it hasn’t happened in 6 months/if I have another mc then I think we will stop. But I have 2 lovely kids (born when I was 30 and 33) - it would be different if I was trying to have a first baby.

ETA: I’ve had lots of mcs in the past but was blessed with straightforward easy pregnancies and fantastic quick births, and am in good health now - id think again if that wasn’t the case.

Yeh but you aren’t fully free compared to child free people you still have adult children no matter what way you look at it . Plus backpacking and travelling in your 40s is never going to be as much craic as your 20s that’s my opinion.

My cut off was 36.

Didn't happen - relationship blew up.

Ended up having my first at 43 - happened naturally, first month of trying, no problems whatsoever, was energetic etc not having been worn out by previous parenting!

IMO there are no rights or wrongs, no shoulds or oughts, do what works for you in your circumstances and preferences, understand all the factors - and hope that things work out as you wish.

Mine is having the baby (which would be our second) by the time I'm 40, but as others have said this is mostly driven by the age gap with our eldest child (already way bigger than we'd hoped) and the amount of time, money and energy we've spent on trying to conceive. It's been something we've been very actively considering because of the circumstances we've found ourselves in - I'm currently pregnant with #2 at 38 so hopefully we won't hit the point of having to decide to be one and done, but having had prior miscarriages I know the odds of success aren't improving with time.

But as others have said, in different circumstances I could see having made different choices - if we were trying for a first baby I think I'd be a lot more torn about it all.

45. But I don't feel it's right to start trying via choice post 40 for your first. Sure if you don't meet someone until your 40's. But if you decide to have a career and travel then start a family late, 40 is too late IMO.

I don't agree with the "40 is nothing now days" socailly yes, hormones dont care about fashion changes. basic biology says that not everyone will have a live birth post 40 easy peesy. Yes lots do. But it's not a given.

I never really thought about it. I'd always assumed I would have children in my twenties, as that was what the vast majority of women did at the time.
I had my fourth (last) child when I was 25. By the time I was 40 my eldest child was leaving school and going to university!

30 for me. I was the child of older parents who’d both died before I got to 25 so I wanted to minimise the chances of that happening to my kids. I’d also like to be young enough to meet my grandchildren one day!

Well they dont know or care what you are thinking now so yeah different choices for all.

Last at 35 was late enough for me. It was my second and I’m quite badly damaged from number 1. But just in terms of exhaustion it took me a good 4 years to get past survival.

I had my two youngest children at 36 and 39 and they were definitely my easiest pregnancies. I think it's very much personal opinion and dependant on yourself. If you want another baby, go for it.

I had mine at 26, 29 and 39.
Advantages and disadvantages to being younger, advantages and disadvantages to being older.
I "celebrated" my 30th with a 6 month-old, I "celebrated" my 40th with a 6 month-old, so I am getting rather drunk on my 50th!!! 😀

It's all based on personal circumstances isn't it. I had my first at 27, second at 31 and I was done. Now I'm 45 and I have my freedom back, this has been a godsend whilst going through a brutal perimeno. I finally have time to swan off to the gym, money to spend on my crumbling face and greying hair, whilst my teens are off doing their own thing most of the time.

I have no idea how I'd have coped with a little one at this age. My relative is the same age as me and has just had her first baby. I'm so happy for her but also kind of relieved that I'm over the baby and toddler stage (as cute as they are at that age). It's so all time consuming then.

For me it was 35 but after splitting with ex at 35 and childless I upped it to 40. It meant putting the pressure on now DH when I was 38 to get cracking but it all worked out for us DS was born when I was 39, and we expected to not want anymore but once DS arrived we quickly confirmed this was the case. I started with health issues at 41 (likely started after pregnancy) and think I’m coming into peri at almost 43 so am relieved DS isn’t any younger and that we haven’t got a baby in this mix.

You’re probably right. I only check these posts to see if there’s anyone who was younger than me out of sheer curiosity.
I imagine they’re pretty tedious for someone who had their children at 29 and 31

I had my only at 37 although we had been trying for 5 years. We needed IVF and at that point had set our limit at 42 because the odds of IVF working after that are low. After our son was born we tried with our frozen embryos but decided against having fresh cycles because I wanted to move on from treatments.

If you had 2 already it would depend upon their ages.

Me too, I feel compelled to say something similar every time I see a thread like this. They get really unkind about Mums at both ends of the age spectrum and are completely unhelpful as nobody can decide except the person having the baby.

We had this on DH's side. MiL was trying to care for late 80s parents in her late 60s while helping her children with their babies and toddlers. While working.

Medicals? What does this mean? I had my second at 40. Pretty sure I could have managed another until 45. Loads of women have babies into their 40s. Medicals allow it.

I always thought it would be about 35.. then I met second DH, he had no children with his first wife
. miscarriage at 40, then baby at 41, then 42, full blown menopause
Someone posted they didn't want to be an old grandmother or well, the following year,my 21.year old DD made me a grandmother. They grew up like brother and sister.. youngest DD said she would never have babies after 30, has in fact had 2!

Same, my grandad was 23 when my mum was born and she was running about after him at 70!

I shudder at the thought of spending my 20s raising kids . A time for self discovery and to enjoy life before responsibilities in my opinion. Also, my parents were in their 50s when I was a teenager so to me that’s not something I had an issue with… perhaps if you are really unhealthy and unfit you might feel this way I guess.
I don’t “plan” anything about being a grandparent cos I’ve no idea if my kids will even have children so to me it seems ludicrous to take that into account when planning my life .

40 would have been my limit. As it was I’d gone off the idea by then! I had my 2 at 32 (nearly 33) and 35 which I was happy with.

Sorry I know you probably are just asking generally but these threads really annoy me (and there's enough of them) and always loads of comments about what age is too old/ how tough it is when older etc. It's not a choice for everyone. Many many women have kids older not by choice but through circumstances (in my case health problems and ivf) and these repetitive threads beating down women who have kids when they are older are just depressing. Everyone is different and every body is different and it's not a one size fits all. You should know what will work for your body and your circumstances and it won't be the same as what works for others.