What's your upper age limit for having last baby

Im assuming this is a joke! Too outrageous to be true

What?! Why do you believe that? There used to be medical advice that it was harder/more risky to conceive after 37 based on a very old
french study, but since thinking has moved on massively. It hugely depends on a range of factors but before 40/41 is doable for most/many people.

I think it very much depends on personal circumstances and individual wants etc.

Personally I wouldn't have anymore now I'm 38 but that is more due to me having 2 horrific labours and the anxiety that left. I wouldn't say 37 is "too old" nor would I say your body wouldn't handle it we are all different and some of us are in better shape now than we were in our 20's....

I think it's a big decision though but having a child is always a huge impact on our lives regardless of age. If you want another OP and you feel you can manage etc then go for it

I was 43 with my first.
Fit and healthy to start with and an easy pregnancy.
Challenging baby though with possible CMPA and silent reflux so very little sleep at the beginning. Co-sleeping was a game changer though!
Yes I would do it all again in a heartbeat if I could guarantee a health baby

I had my third baby last year, a few weeks after I turned 37. I’d quite like to have a fourth at 38/39, so I don’t feel too old (aware that how I feel doesn’t trump biology, but I do think it’s hilarious that people always suggest that late 30s is somehow too decrepit to look after a baby.).

My personal cut off was 35, and I ended up having my third and final 3 weeks before I turned 35.

I am ideal world I would have been done by 30 (had my first at 22) but it took us several years and MCs conceive number 2 so I had to reconsider.

I found my third pregnancy and newborn stage the hardest by far, whether this is age related or having older kids related I don’t know.

35 and I stuck to it.

Health is at increased risk of decline after hitting 50 so i didn’t want younger kids going into my 50s.

And having 2 kids has fucked my health so i’m glad i am able to use my late 30s to try and reclaim some of it before entering my 40s.

Having one last go for a third. I think my limit is probably 41/42.

You sound lovely.

But the point is, they dont care know or care either as you live the situation you're in.

Haha, it has helped me realise that maybe I’m being daft considering a fifth after 37. If I were having my first (and second) baby I’d be far more flexible with my thinking like you are.

The way some people think, a pregnancy at 40 is risky but wasnt mentioned and was offered a home birth (didn't want one!).

It comes down to what do you prioritise- having children first or travel.

There’s no reason you can’t go away for a week on an adventure, even with a child in your 20s. All of the young parents I know have support from grandparents.

Maybe you can’t float around on a spiritual expedition as a nomad, but not everyone wants to do that at any age.

Oh god, this is very sobering to read!

I'm 31 this year, no kids yet but I feel like I have years ahead of me (I want children).

Feeling old right now 🤣

Had my second age 43. My second pregnancy was much easier than my first and no complications - I was healthier and I was less busy at work; I also wasn’t any more caring for my dad who had had cancer when dd1 was born.

I found the baby and toddler years easier in my 40s - I took extra time off work and had my mum nearby to help.

It is risky and more strain on your body so you want to be an idea weight, very fit, ready for what that 20 week scan shows.

It’s a very personal decision.

These threads always go the same way. Older moms get defensive about their choices and circumstances, younger moms get defensive about their choices and circumstances. As others have said, it isn't always a choice.

For me, my cut off was 40. I had mine at 35 and 37. Probably would have pushed that limit a year or two. Both my pregnancies were easy, births were uncomplicated, 10 months on I don't feel any more tired than usual. My dad was 35 when I was born and he is a very active grandparent. Can't see any problems doing the school run in my 40s. Maybe would have had them a little younger but that wasn't possible as I wasn't with my partner then. Also I managed to dodge having a baby during the pandemic.

Having kids when you're older, is just not the same either, in my opinion. I'm happy to have traded some travel and freedom, to have started a family young. Everyone is different 🤷‍♀️.

Yeh but it’s not quite the same it’s just not. And yes I’m sure travelling in your 50s or 40s is good but it’s just not the same as when you are young in my opinion .

Genuine question - if you hadn't been able to have any children by the time you turned 30 (because for example you had fertility struggles or found yourself single), would you have simply decided to stop trying and live a childfree life? If so, I think that's a really interesting decision, but I also suspect you'd be very much in the minority.

Had my third at 40. Was fine. Doesn't really tell you much though, only you can know how you feel about being an older mother. Makes me a bit sad sometimes.

I had ds at 45. No issues, easy pregnancy. He's 17 now. All going well so far.

I suppose my question is, do you truly regret it (as in, wish you hadn't had your children because it means you are an older mum) or do you simply wish that your circumstances had been different and you had been able to have your children when you were younger? In an ideal world I'd have preferred to have had mine earlier, but between not having anyone to have them with and then fertility issues, I didn't have a say in the matter. I don't regret it because I couldn't control it!

Travelling in your 50s after kids is much more appreciated than by many of those in their 20s

And if you have done a decent job of bringing up your kids they should be independent adults ( barring SN) so dont restrict you

You're right these threads are depressing, and we can all see some of the posters sniping at each other and smug attitudes to having children younger or older.

I had DC1 aged 41, after years of trying and many rounds of IVF and am in the process of trying for DC2. If things had gone to plan I'd have had my hoped for 2 or 3 children in my 30s but not everyone is so lucky.
I'm not the oldest in my circle to be trying for a baby but I do also have friends with sixth formers and drama with teen romances and learning to drive. And I've made friends with some much younger women via baby groups.