What's your upper age limit for having last baby

I have four and was 33 when I had my youngest. I am 35 now and think I would struggle with energy levels now so I won’t be having any more (would secretly like to!)

I had my first two quite young (26 and 29) with my first husband - zero money worries and a very nice home. But...he saw the children as my responsibility as "a woman". It was bloody hard.
I had my last at 39 with my second husband. His first and last. Financially we are far less well-off. She is 5 now and whilst we're both knackered (he's 50), it's a million better with a supportive partner who is a great dad and shares the parental load equally.

Personally if I already had two children I wouldn’t be rolling the dice again at 37.

For me 32/33 but thats because last baby is my 5th. I cant do anymore and dont want anymore. Eldest is 16 and youngest is 9 months. The combination of a teen and a baby is something else

Hmm is there that much difference between a 21 year old mum who has been working and living independently for 4 or 5 years and a 26 year old mum who moved out of parents 2 years previously?

I'm not sure why the obsession with age but I'm glad I don't have a primary school aged kid at my age ( 54) I definitely have less tolerance for them then when I was younger

It’s personal, isn’t it? And for a lot of people their ideal ‘cut off age’ may shift for reasons beyond their control.

My ‘cut off’ was 35. I had my children at 28 and 31, but I was lucky to have met my DH in my 20s, had no fertility issues and to be in a financial position that enabled it. Life doesn’t always work out that way, as we know.,

Had my first at 16 and completely agree with you. I also know a woman who had one at 17 and one at 40 (none in between) and she agrees too

It’s honestly not just as bad the other way, the sniping is a lot more personal and bitter.

Sentiments like you’ve made a wrong decision; and your life will never be fulfilling because you’ve missed out on the best years of your life changing nappies are fundamentally worse than being told you might be mistake for a grandma.

The latter is highly subjective for a start, not everyone cares why they look like, so it can be laughed off. Of course nobody looks the same at 21 and 40-50+, that happens to all of us, who cares?

The former can be very hurtful and demoralising.

It’s substantially more brutal if you gave birth as a teenager or young woman compared to 41-46.

To reiterate, I think it’s unpleasant to try and prod anyone and make them feel bad about their life choices, I just think the stigma and stereotypes are worse for younger women.

@ForAmusedHazelQuoter Not always. I was far wealthier in my 20s than I am now (mid 40s). But also incredibly miserable. Money doesn't always equal happiness; it certainly didn't for me.
Honeymoon with first husband at 24 yrs old - an exclusive hotel on the island of Capri. Breakfast in bed every morning, incredibly luxurious really. By the end of the honeymoon I think I knew that our marriage was quite possibly not going to last (even though I was determined to work on it).
Honeymoon with second husband at 41 years old - an apartment in Birmingham for a long weekend (with great views of the city tbf) and also our 18 month-old daughter. Some of the happiest days of my life; I felt utterly adored and so very content.

I had my first at 37 and second at 39, both healthy and easy pregnancies and births so I always thought I don’t want to push my luck, I wouldn’t have had any more from 40 upwards

No it’s not the same, it’s much more business class and five stars in your 50’s.

For me personally it was 30 but in different circumstances it would have been older than that.

Being the best parent they could be (at the time) doesn't necessarily mean being the best version of a parent that they could be. In my family there are some young mothers who objectively weren't as good mothers as they could have been later (and a couple by their own admission). There are lots of people who make better or worse parents at any stage but parenting, like many things, might get better with experience. I have also seen some very young mums, and a few young dads, make a great job of things. But they were pretty mature. 21 year old me would not have been a good mum (not a drug addict, just a bit naive and wouldn't have put the baby first, wouldn't have researched much).

I didn't start school runs until 49. 😁

DS will finish 6th form this year. I'll be 63. It hasn't been an issue at all. I genuinely don't understand why it would be an issue. Do people suddenly become incapable of normal life at 50? I still run, cycle, swim.

He'll head off to uni, and I'll retire. It works perfectly.

It’s a shame we can’t respect each others decisions !

To be honest, if I'd got to 30 with no children, by that point I would have not wanted them anymore.

Now really - 35. I have had 3 losses between my son and this pregnancy (currently 21 weeks pregnant!) so intended to be done by now. My mum was 35 when she had me and I don't feel like she was particularly old, or young (I was her 3rd). I wouldn't have wanted to be much older though. My mum is active and healthy, but not everyone is so lucky! On the other hand, my dad was 37 when he had me and I lost him when I was 27. He was young to pass though.

If it’s your dream to have another and you can afford it then do it !
I had my third and last baby the week after I turned 44. (Conceived naturally) I have zero regrets !

look I’m not going to argue with you any further but older parents get just as bad here such as you are selfish , your kids are more likely to have problems and disabilities etc. not to mention how selfish we are for being too old to mind hypothetical grandchildren that may never exist .

I was 44 and had twins. Not my choice but through IVF...and we were utterly blessed and age has had no bearing x

I didn’t say they didn’t, I said if you look at the type of the abuse each get it’s usually harsher stating that younger parents are worse parents, being accused of looking like Granny at the school pick up is not comparable. You’re the one that pulled that out as the “really nasty stuff” example.

Perhaps if you had experience being a younger mother you’d understand the preconception and assumptions made on a young woman’s ability to parent.

well I don’t agree with yours . Look at any thread on this subject on this website. It’s about 80 percent older mums getting all the abuse

You don’t need to try to make it personal, I don’t agree with your argument, it’s as simple as that.

I’m just saying what you said . You said it with no context . You are extremely sensitive.