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What's your upper age limit for having last baby

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Suburbiton63 · 02/03/2026 09:09

Just that really!
I am 37 would love one more (a third) but just don't think I can put my body through I again.

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Triskels · 02/03/2026 09:20

ClawsandEffect · 02/03/2026 09:18

I always said I would have no more after 30, and stuck to it. I didn't want to have teenagers in my 50s or be a really old grandparent. I wanted to be young with my children and still have energy for grandchildren. And fortunately, both came to pass. I feel very lucky. When I see mothers with youngish children who are only 10 years younger than me, I shudder with the idea that it could have been me!

Whereas I ‘shudder’ at the idea of throwing away my twenties on something I could postpone till I’d done my fair share of travelling, studying, and moving countries for an interesting job or just because I felt like it.

ClawsandEffect · 02/03/2026 09:18

I always said I would have no more after 30, and stuck to it. I didn't want to have teenagers in my 50s or be a really old grandparent. I wanted to be young with my children and still have energy for grandchildren. And fortunately, both came to pass. I feel very lucky. When I see mothers with youngish children who are only 10 years younger than me, I shudder with the idea that it could have been me!

WhoStoleAllTheUserNames · 02/03/2026 09:16

My personal limit was 40. Several months before I turned 40 I made DH have a conversation with me to agree whether or not we wanted a third. And we did not.

However if I was wanting a first child, and I was having difficulties conceiving or didn’t meet my partner until later, I would have an older cut off point,

I would say my body would probably not have been able to conceive past 42. My periods went haywire then and I slowly slid through an easy menopause by 50.

Itsseweasy · 02/03/2026 09:16

My last was at 34 and I’m so relieved that was it then as it was tougher this time around. So exhausted by everything, I couldn’t image being any older with a newborn. But we’re all different aren’t we, you know what you can cope with but be completely honest with yourself about what you can handle.

DramaAlpaca · 02/03/2026 09:16

My own personal cut-off was 35, but I actually had my third and last at 33. After my third baby I knew I couldn't go through it again.

theDudesmummy · 02/03/2026 09:15

What is "Medicals"?

Triskels · 02/03/2026 09:14

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 02/03/2026 09:13

37 I believe is the cut off time by Medicals.

What does this mean?

Triskels · 02/03/2026 09:14

But it sounds as if it’s having had two previous children that is the issue here, rather than your age. I had my first and only child a few months before turning 40, but I was fit and healthy, had no complications from previous pregnancies etc, and had a completely straightforward pregnancy and birth.

If that’s not the case with you, I’d leave it.

CurlewKate · 02/03/2026 09:14

I was 41.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 02/03/2026 09:13

37 I believe is the cut off time by Medicals.

SalmonOnFinnCrisp · 02/03/2026 09:13

I had mine at 38 and 40.

40 was hard.
A third is (sadly) off the table

Smelllysally · 02/03/2026 09:12

28 but I’m 24 with 2 and started really young at 16.

I know loads of women who had their last at 40/41 so if you want to go for it

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