I need a little advice please - my dear mum died a few weeks ago which has obviously been really sad. We've had her birthday quite quickly after that which I managed to go away somewhere meaningful for. Now coming up in quick succession is Mothers Day. I know my husband wants to see his mum and he will take our kids - I've indicated briefly when it first came up that the last thing I'll want to be doing is spending the day with his mum - but understand he should go. He pointed out that leaves me alone. On the face of it I don't mind the idea of that. I'm in the camp that would usually be quite happy to be sent off alone for some me time for M'day rather than feeling it has to be everyone together (husband is usually horrified at the idea I wouldn't want to be with them all day to celebrate... 😂 However a) I'm worried about hurting MIL's feelings/or her thinking I'm being unreasonable for not being there and b) although I feel I would be ok with the alone time to reflect on my own lovely mum (I do appreciate having time alone to do this) will I regret it horribly on the day and be completely miserable?
What have other's done re MIL's on the first one after? It doesn't help that our mum's were the same age so DH is now pretty aware that time with his DM is precious. So I definitely want him to go as I would hate this to be their last one and he didn't see her. To add however we did spend the last MDay whole wkend with her as we'd had to make a choice and had spent my mum's b'day with her... these things are always blinking tricky aren't they 🙄