To tell my manager I won’t share a room with colleague again?

Exactly. Add farting, talking in your sleep, spending ages in the bathroom, using all the coat hangers, insisting on having the window open/ closed, talking too much... It's bad enough sharing with your own partner!

Companies can force room sharing to cut costs . I agree it’s inappropriate .

thats insane that they make you share a room!

OP if you have to drive to your location, use that as leverage. Say you aren't sleeping because of the snoring and as you aren't sleeping, you aren't fit to drive. That should soon fix things as it's a real danger to force someone to drive when they aren't fit to.

And to all this fat shaming nonsense, she said it about herself, you are just repeating her words. Since I've got fat, I snore loud enough to wake myself up! You are allowed to call yourself fat to other people and you are allowed to state facts, without them being an insult.

Christ no, I’m not sure I would even expect a young grad to do this! Shuddering at the thought.

You need to talk discreetly to your manager about these issues OP. I think you know that. Posting on here in this way, is just making you sound as if you look down on your colleague for being overweight and a snorer. It's clear from the way you have taken multiple opportunities to mention her meal intake and how she is overweight "by her own admission". The latter doesn't make it socially acceptable for YOU to make it an issue too.. that's just the way it is, but I suspect you know that and enjoy 'hitting that nerve' on here so you can have a little dig at others who, for some reason, you feel you may also be a bit superior to 'for the same reason '

On that note, it's not so much that a PP is "a bit dim".. more that you, the OP, is behaving, as some may see it, like a bit of a bitch. Note for moderation purposes: I am not calling the OP names.. I am observing that some may feel she is posting bitchily. Perhaps you genuinely don't realise this OP? Perhaps you should do some self reflection, once you've spoke to your manager, discreetly, like a grownup, about how you can achieve a better nights sleep on these work trips.

You, on the other hand, sound lovely.

I think the way you talk about her is quite negative tbh op considering you described her as a friend.

I snore a lot and would have been mortified to have to share with a colleague for that reason. I also hate the term "snore like a man" as if women can't/ don't snore or like it's somehow masculine to do so.

You are not being unreasonable to not want to share. You are been unreasonable to slate your so called friend on here behind her back.

Nonsense. Adding the phrase 'in her own words' doesn't disguise the fat shaming and judgement in your post. Absolutely no need to mention her weight at all.

You almost certainly do do something annoying though. Want the room temperature lower or higher than the other person. Turn over repeatedly when trying to get comfortable. Have a night cream that someone else might not like the smell of.

We all have our habits, that’s why we deserve privacy for overnight stays.

What a bloody horrible thing to say.

This whole thread is an excellent reason not to have employees share rooms - who the heck would want to be posted about on the internet and ripped apart by strangers just for following company policy and sharing with a colleague.

Omgod she sounds vile. It must have been like sleeping next to a pig in agony (no offence to pigs).

Make sure you tell your manager everything, so there’s absolutely no excuse for this arrangement to carry on.

Good luck 💐

That's exactly why I counselled in several posting to NOT bring the other person into this discussion at all.

Meh, they are not unacceptable really. Many many companies have this in place.
wonder what her company will think to her reasons that her colleague is so fat that she snores?
bet that wouldn’t go down well with hr.

And how did I ever condone that? Stop conflating two totally different issues - OP's sneering attitude and her company's unacceptable demands.

Yeah I do thanks 👍do you understand how the op is fat shaming said colleague?

I'd tell your manager about the snoring. Say you were up all night and exhausted and it was detrimental to doing your job.

I'd leave out the rest of it.

You don't understand the difference between closely sharing a set of facilities with a colleague and an anonymised environment like a restaurant or pub?

You've got a really bad manager and/or company that makes colleagues share a room. I wouldn't work for a company that thought as little of me as that. You are a grown woman, not a 12 year old child.

It's astonishing that they think it's OK isn't it? If the company can only afford to pay for one room they can only obviously only afford to send one employee. Bizarre that anyone would accept this imo. What next? An extra person on the sofa too?

I’m sorry, what did I just read?! Your employer should absolutely NOT be making you share a room with a colleague. If budgets are that tight then they send one of you rather than both for an overnight.
Can’t wait to see your company at tribunal when someone makes a sexual harassment claim because I’m not sure they have a leg to stand on with taking all reasonable steps to prevent harassment when they are literally making you sleep in the same room.
Madness.

Just the snoring alone will give you a restless night so won't be able to function properly the next day for work.
I'm sure you could say something and they'll pair you up with someone else (maybe similar problems on the horizon) unless you can convince them why you need your own room instead.

This. Not in a million years would i do this as a grown adult woman. How on earth is this acceptable. Do many workplaces enforce this? Never heard of this. Do u do the same job ? Surely just sending one of you would make more sense ?

It’s completely inappropriate for companies to make adult colleagues share rooms.

It really isn't appropriate for you to share with a work colleague. Talk to hr about this.