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To tell my manager I won’t share a room with colleague again?

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Worktripissue · 01/03/2026 15:55

Some background here - my role requires regular travel around the UK as the company has various sites. For about 3 nights each month I stay away in a specific location; up until 2024 I always had my own room, a change was then made for financial reasons that I’d need to share with the colleague travelling with me who does the same role.

No issues at all, we got along and she was respectful and we’ve remained friends post her leaving the company recently.

I travelled with her replacement last week, and we shared a room as per process.

Firstly, she jokingly (I thought) said before we left that she is a snorer. She’s not wrong, even with ear plugs I was struggling to get an uninterrupted nights sleep. By her own admission she is a larger lady and she says even her own husband gets on at her. She honestly snored like a man.

Next issue - we have a £30 per night meal allowance. On one of the nights, I visited my cousin who lives in the area and she cooked for me, so I had no reason to use my allowance.

My colleague asked me if she could use it when I got back to the room (about 9pm at this point). Now she’d already had dinner and the restaurant was closed. She said she only wanted it for a soft drink so I said no problem. She then came back up to the room and said they were still doing room service. 20 minutes later the door goes and hot food arrives which she proceeds to eat on her bed, and the smell lingered all night.

A couple of other minor annoyances in terms of time spent in the bathroom and loud phone calls with her husband which she could have taken outside the room/in reception.

She is polite in general, but that was our first trip and I don’t think I could handle monthly stays with her.

AIBU to tell my manager I won’t share with her again?

OP posts:
Delatron · 01/03/2026 16:03

YANBU - it’s an issue now and they should not enforce this. Tell them you won’t be sharing with any colleagues in future.

MikeRafone · 01/03/2026 16:03

It's not appropriate to be sharing a bedroom, especially if they are then keeping you up all night.

Hatty65 · 01/03/2026 16:02

It would be a brave or foolhardy employer that asked me to share a bedroom with a work colleague.

It's utterly inappropriate. I would refuse to go unless I got my own room.

traveltraveltravel78 · 01/03/2026 16:01

I hit you are being unreasonable as I scrolled down- no I don't think you are being unreasonable! I can't believe you have to share? I'd kick up a massive fuss over that.

Worktripissue · 01/03/2026 15:59

BlueMum16 · 01/03/2026 15:57

This.

It's unacceptable for your employer to have asked.

I think it’s because there was a big restructuring at the time with multiple redundancies so they were making a big thing about costs and not wasting money where possible. It was never an issue because my ex colleague and I were so friendly.

OP posts:
BlueMum16 · 01/03/2026 15:57

Uticary · 01/03/2026 15:56

I cannot believe that you ever agreed to share a room with anyone.
Honestly.

This.

It's unacceptable for your employer to have asked.

Paraguay · 01/03/2026 15:57

Uticary · 01/03/2026 15:56

I cannot believe that you ever agreed to share a room with anyone.
Honestly.

This

Uticary · 01/03/2026 15:56

I cannot believe that you ever agreed to share a room with anyone.
Honestly.

Catlover77 · 01/03/2026 15:56

No, you are not being unreasonable