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Meant to be moving to Dubai in 4 weeks

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Medesres · 01/03/2026 15:42

We've been planning a move to Dubai for a while now. Dh's work has an office out there and it seemed like great opportunity to live abroad and experience sth different. I've got a couple of friends out there already too who love the lifestyle.

Watching the news for the past 24 hours and I'm really starting to question things. I had no idea how close to Iran it was and who knows what might happen next. Part of me is hoping it will all be resolved soon but hard to believe.

My friend who already lives there has spent the night sleeping in one room with her dh and kids scared of all the missile noises.

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Bowies · 03/03/2026 00:54

It seems naive to move there I wouldn’t want to go and you won’t be able to anyway as things are.

Cariadm · 03/03/2026 00:34

nomas · 01/03/2026 15:45

YANBU to be worried but there’s no point stressing right now. Give it a couple
of weeks.

Who is funding the move? Does the employer offer insurance?

What the hell does it matter who is funding the move to a potential 'war zone?🙄
Also it might come as a surprise but bombs and missiles aren't bothered by or redirected because there is 'insurance' in place! FFS!!🙄

SemiRetiredLoveGoddeess · 03/03/2026 00:34

Don't go. I know of someone who has worked as a Consultant in the Oil and Gas Industry for years in Iraq and Iran.

He worked 12 hour shifts.And in both countries, he had a Security Guard/Soldier with a gun posted outside his Office for 24 hours a day .

I honestly can't see the conflict between solved any time soon. And can see it could easily proliferate.

Pusstachio · 02/03/2026 23:24

LoveLifeBeHappy · 02/03/2026 23:15

being arrested for indecent attire

Majority of women dress exactly the same way they do here. Stop making stuff up.

I sure they do- that doesn’t mean police cannot arrest them for it if they choose.

There are numerous incidents of women reporting rape only to then be imprisoned for extra marital sex.

You know I’m not ‘making up’ public decency laws in the UAE

LoveLifeBeHappy · 02/03/2026 23:15

Pusstachio · 02/03/2026 23:13

I suppose I am more comfortable with regional car theft than I am enslaved domestic workers being murdered, but perhaps I’m old fashioned that way.

At least reporting sexual assault is unlikely to result in me being arrested for indecent attire or behaviour.

being arrested for indecent attire

Majority of women dress exactly the same way they do here. Stop making stuff up.

Pusstachio · 02/03/2026 23:13

LoveLifeBeHappy · 02/03/2026 23:06

In parts of the UK, issues like knife crime, sexual assault, and car theft are ongoing problems.

Dubai isn’t crime-free, but the overall level of street violence and opportunistic crime is considerably lower.

A teenager in the UK will stab you for looking at them.

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I suppose I am more comfortable with regional car theft than I am enslaved domestic workers being murdered, but perhaps I’m old fashioned that way.

At least reporting sexual assault is unlikely to result in me being arrested for indecent attire or behaviour.

Wintersgirl · 02/03/2026 23:12

localnotail · 02/03/2026 20:18

UAE destroy whole habitats, sometimes with people in them, to build their insane and tasteless projects - mainly shopping malls and playgrounds for thick rich westerners. They use slave labour to do this, and treat people who work for them worse than we treat battery chickens here. They can (and sometimes do) imprison anyone for sex out of marriage, and for public displays of affection. Homosexuality is illegal to the point of being punished by death. But yes, UK is worse because of Mendelson.

This..

LoveLifeBeHappy · 02/03/2026 23:11

Elektra1 · 02/03/2026 22:48

The UAE is near Iran, Iraq, Saudi. Not a huge newsflash that bit. As for the “glamour” of life in the UAE, I can see why some people might find that vision attractive. Those who govern the UAE have invested billions in selling that “dream”. It’s still a dream built on and maintained by slave labour. And inconveniently close to Iran, so will always be a hotspot in any conflict involving Iran. I wouldn’t move there, or go on holiday there, especially not with children. Hopefully your partner’s employer will give him a different option. I remember what it was like fleeing Saudi (where I lived because of my dad’s job) on the last flight out as the first Gulf war started. It was terrifying.

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I wouldn’t move there, or go on holiday there, especially not with children.

Millions go there year on year with their children and have a lovely time. 😳 (post edited by MNHQ at request of OP)

LoveLifeBeHappy · 02/03/2026 23:06

cleaningandclearing · 02/03/2026 20:59

My niece lives there, her villa has been broken into twice and her son physically assaulted by a neighbour who took a dislike to him playing ball. It’s not the crime free place you have been led to believe it is.

In parts of the UK, issues like knife crime, sexual assault, and car theft are ongoing problems.

Dubai isn’t crime-free, but the overall level of street violence and opportunistic crime is considerably lower.

A teenager in the UK will stab you for looking at them.

the7Vabo · 02/03/2026 23:03

LoveLifeBeHappy · 02/03/2026 22:59

It’s really NOT the case that “everyone wants to move there”.

This is true - not everyone wants to move there.

Did you not wonder why so many people really dislike it?

Around 240,000 Britons live in Dubai, and millions visit every year — that doesn’t indicate widespread backlash.

As a Brit who’s been going since 2018, I’ve never seen evidence that it’s broadly disliked. It’s fine to criticise aspects of it, but claiming it’s widely unpopular in the UK isn’t accurate.

I’d like to think you’re underestimating how many people care about human rights abuses.

LHP118 · 02/03/2026 23:00

You have to make a choice based on how the situation pans out and what it means for you and your family.

I lived in Dubai growing up; the first and second Gulf Wars happened whilst I was in school there. But the world is currently in turmoil and we have no idea what's going to happen next.

LoveLifeBeHappy · 02/03/2026 22:59

ElizabethsTailor · 01/03/2026 15:59

The problem is Dubai and parts of the middle east have been really glamorised now so everyone wants to move there.

It’s really NOT the case that “everyone wants to move there”.

Did you not wonder why so many people really dislike it? Why there is a backlash against holidays there? It’s precisely because it is “glamorised” i.e. made out to be something it is not.

It’s really NOT the case that “everyone wants to move there”.

This is true - not everyone wants to move there.

Did you not wonder why so many people really dislike it?

Around 240,000 Britons live in Dubai, and millions visit every year — that doesn’t indicate widespread backlash.

As a Brit who’s been going since 2018, I’ve never seen evidence that it’s broadly disliked. It’s fine to criticise aspects of it, but claiming it’s widely unpopular in the UK isn’t accurate.

Bunny65 · 02/03/2026 22:58

Really? Isabel Oakeshott, the partner of Reform UK's deputy Richard Tice, has been going on and on for the past year about how she moved out to Dubai with her children because of the VAT on private school fees - and how much safer and better it was than the UK. There have been plenty of articles in that timealso about young people moving there to make their fortune and bigging it up, plus TV programmes. If it was being called unsafe by the UK government you wouldn't have known. Obviously they are issuing warnings now.

AquaLeader · 02/03/2026 22:55

Bunny65 · 02/03/2026 21:26

Why should anyone have worried about Iran until now? Thousands of people have moved and worked in Dubai for years. It’s an Arab country and was not in conflict with Iran.

The Foreign Office were only issuing alerts about travel to Dubai for the fun of it.

BackinRed101 · 02/03/2026 22:52

Elektra1 · 02/03/2026 22:51

Why is that puzzling? Traders have always placed long and short trades based on geopolitical risk.

i know that, its more the ones who say omg why are they betting on war etc

Elektra1 · 02/03/2026 22:51

BackinRed101 · 02/03/2026 22:34

one thing thats puzzling is the money thats been made via stock market betting on the war etc thats always part of the stock market for any conflict etc

Why is that puzzling? Traders have always placed long and short trades based on geopolitical risk.

Elektra1 · 02/03/2026 22:48

The UAE is near Iran, Iraq, Saudi. Not a huge newsflash that bit. As for the “glamour” of life in the UAE, I can see why some people might find that vision attractive. Those who govern the UAE have invested billions in selling that “dream”. It’s still a dream built on and maintained by slave labour. And inconveniently close to Iran, so will always be a hotspot in any conflict involving Iran. I wouldn’t move there, or go on holiday there, especially not with children. Hopefully your partner’s employer will give him a different option. I remember what it was like fleeing Saudi (where I lived because of my dad’s job) on the last flight out as the first Gulf war started. It was terrifying.

HandfulOfMoths · 02/03/2026 22:39

TerracottaWorrier · 02/03/2026 22:34

Yes but have you ever actually moved to another country? Because I'm sure it's easy to believe you'd be Princess Perfect but it is quite a process. Deep reading on the local political tensions is usually a low priority unless you've decided to move somewhere famously unstable.

Yes, I have. I lived abroad for nearly 10 years.

Knowing about imminent war isn’t deep reading, it was very much mainstream news. And Iran and that whole region is famously unstable.

TerracottaWorrier · 02/03/2026 22:34

HandfulOfMoths · 02/03/2026 22:28

But surely people watch enough news to know that war was looking more and more likely with Iran. Trump was sending warships. UAE is right next door and no friend of Iran. I cannot get my head around moving to a country without having any understanding of what is happening in that region.

Yes but have you ever actually moved to another country? Because I'm sure it's easy to believe you'd be Princess Perfect but it is quite a process. Deep reading on the local political tensions is usually a low priority unless you've decided to move somewhere famously unstable.

BackinRed101 · 02/03/2026 22:34

one thing thats puzzling is the money thats been made via stock market betting on the war etc thats always part of the stock market for any conflict etc

HandfulOfMoths · 02/03/2026 22:28

But surely people watch enough news to know that war was looking more and more likely with Iran. Trump was sending warships. UAE is right next door and no friend of Iran. I cannot get my head around moving to a country without having any understanding of what is happening in that region.

Bunny65 · 02/03/2026 22:23

But it had hardly stopped people going to Dubai, it has been an extremely popular destination for at least 20 years or more up until this weekend and considered safe. There was no government advice saying don't go there.. It seems bizarre to me that people are now making out that it was never a good idea.

HandfulOfMoths · 02/03/2026 22:21

Bunny65 · 02/03/2026 21:26

Why should anyone have worried about Iran until now? Thousands of people have moved and worked in Dubai for years. It’s an Arab country and was not in conflict with Iran.

Iran is not an Arab country tbough and there has been some tension for years. Everyone knew that Trump was building up a military presence there too.

Newmumatlast · 02/03/2026 22:20

WeirdyBeardyMarrowBabyLady · 01/03/2026 15:54

YABU to be four weeks for moving to a country you know almost nothing about. How didn’t you know where it was?!

I voted yabu for the same reason.

BackinRed101 · 02/03/2026 22:19

personally id keep the mission as planned

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