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Meant to be moving to Dubai in 4 weeks

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Medesres · 01/03/2026 15:42

We've been planning a move to Dubai for a while now. Dh's work has an office out there and it seemed like great opportunity to live abroad and experience sth different. I've got a couple of friends out there already too who love the lifestyle.

Watching the news for the past 24 hours and I'm really starting to question things. I had no idea how close to Iran it was and who knows what might happen next. Part of me is hoping it will all be resolved soon but hard to believe.

My friend who already lives there has spent the night sleeping in one room with her dh and kids scared of all the missile noises.

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Ginmonkeyagain · 03/03/2026 10:31

Well currently I feel much safer sitting here in London due to not having bombs lobbed at my city by a hostile nation. But more widely I have lived in London for 25 years and have no issue walking around it on my own at night.

Pusstachio · 03/03/2026 10:27

Jerys · 03/03/2026 10:23

They massively changed the laws and the system to remove the sex outside of marriage "crime". That was wrong when it was there and they changed it. Where would you feel safer walking the streets alone at 2am? The UK or Dubai?

They arrested a guy for this in 2024

Katiesaidthat · 03/03/2026 10:27

Jerys · 03/03/2026 10:08

Rolex rippers are a thing in London. This is not a thing in Dubai.

I don´t own a Rolex, but I do object to modern slavery, others don´t, I guess.

HandfulOfMoths · 03/03/2026 10:27

Jerys · 03/03/2026 10:23

They massively changed the laws and the system to remove the sex outside of marriage "crime". That was wrong when it was there and they changed it. Where would you feel safer walking the streets alone at 2am? The UK or Dubai?

The UK

Cardomomle · 03/03/2026 10:24

Jerys · 03/03/2026 10:08

Rolex rippers are a thing in London. This is not a thing in Dubai.

Apply some critical thinking to this. Seriously.
Upthread you claimed that there was no security at all in the Gold Souk and yet it was crime free.
That's not true.
There is a lot of security and surveillance (understandable).
Just reflect.

Jerys · 03/03/2026 10:23

HandfulOfMoths · 03/03/2026 09:38

All I know is if I was sexually assaulted there I wouldn’t be telling the police out of fear. That doesn’t feel like a safer environment to me.

They massively changed the laws and the system to remove the sex outside of marriage "crime". That was wrong when it was there and they changed it. Where would you feel safer walking the streets alone at 2am? The UK or Dubai?

Katiesaidthat · 03/03/2026 10:22

MrFluffyDogIsMyBestFriend · 01/03/2026 16:24

I would love to get all the people mocking the op to draw their own map of the area. I spend ages on Google maps but I only have a rough idea of the location of Middle Eastern countries...I thought Iran was slightly further west rather than just across the gulf. I don't think that makes me an imbecile.

Are you about to move to the Middle East? Because if not, you can afford to remain ignorant. That anyone considers moving their family to a country when they don´t even know who that country´s neighbours are is mind boggling and deserving of mockery. We are talking the Middle East, not Andorra.

LakieLady · 03/03/2026 10:21

Bunny65 · 02/03/2026 22:23

But it had hardly stopped people going to Dubai, it has been an extremely popular destination for at least 20 years or more up until this weekend and considered safe. There was no government advice saying don't go there.. It seems bizarre to me that people are now making out that it was never a good idea.

The whole region has been unstable for decades. I'm old, so can remember the Six Day War in 1967, and many other conflicts since. And I've read enough to know that it has a long history of instability prior to that.

It seems bizarre to me that people ever thought that any ME state was a good place to go for a holiday.

MellersSmellers · 03/03/2026 10:16

Sorry OP, but if I were you I would be seriously reconsidering. At the very least I would delay my departure for a few months to give me time to reappraise.

Ginmonkeyagain · 03/03/2026 10:12

@Jerys It's true. I live in London and I go through 365 mobile phones a year. Can't leave the house without someone ripping my phone from my hand. It's like Mad Max out here the leafy zone 3 suburbs.

Jerys · 03/03/2026 10:08

Cardomomle · 03/03/2026 09:38

I think that's somewhat simplistic.
Millions of people walk around London every day with their phones out, and wearing expensive jewellery.
Crimes make the news. If it happened as frequently as you claim, it would hardly be newsworthy.

Rolex rippers are a thing in London. This is not a thing in Dubai.

pouletvous · 03/03/2026 10:05

why are people obsessed glamour and weather?

the uk is safe. The Middle East is not

Dorisbonson · 03/03/2026 10:02

echt · 03/03/2026 09:00

It is common nettiqutte to support your (apparently) historically-based arguments with sources.

A Year 7 child is expected to do this.

But if you can't be arsed, then why should anyone engage with your points? They won't know what you're basing your arguments on.

I am sorry I didnt realise I had to go down to Year 7 level.

Even communist historians like Eric Hobsbawn understood the collapse of wages from the industrial revolution contributed to the demise of slavery. Literally the most famous and influential communist historian in the world. He spent his career proving this point.

The historian former Prime Minister of Trinidad and Tobago Eric Williams makes the same points in his book Capitalism and Slavery.

These basic points of economic history and anthropometric history.

The marxist Engels called this period the great pause.

Its absolutely crackers that there is any dispute about this. Even Communists and Marxists in victorian times through to even the 1990s agree on this point.

Wages for weavers collapsed - theres a historian called Robert Allen who showed wages fell from 30 shillings to 5 shillings between 1800 and 1830. Steam power and machines made slaves uneconomic.

Just use google.

Doteycat · 03/03/2026 10:01

LoveLifeBeHappy · 03/03/2026 09:59

I'm allowed an opinion.

Right. And post it with your whole chest too.
Indeed.

LoveLifeBeHappy · 03/03/2026 09:59

Doteycat · 03/03/2026 09:57

How are you not embarrassed posting this.

I'm allowed an opinion.

Pusstachio · 03/03/2026 09:58

LoveLifeBeHappy · 03/03/2026 09:56

I’ve been going to Dubai regularly since 2018. I’ve never seen women being arrested for wearing bikinis on the beach or Western women dressing normally in public. Yes, laws exist on paper, but there’s a difference between what can be enforced and what is routinely enforced. That’s true in any country.

Police discretion happens everywhere. In the UK, there are countless examples of laws technically being broken but not pursued. My own car was damaged outside a Tesco, CCTV showed exactly what happened, it was reported, and nothing came of it.

Enforcement isn’t automatic just because a law exists.

Sexual assault happens in the UK too, as it does globally. That doesn’t excuse anything anywhere, but it shows the issue isn’t unique to one country.

As for extramarital sex, it has historically been illegal in the UAE. Whether people agree with that or not, it’s a known law. Travelling somewhere and knowingly breaking local laws, then being surprised by consequences is mind boggling.

Breaking local laws by being a victim of rape?

Doteycat · 03/03/2026 09:57

LoveLifeBeHappy · 03/03/2026 09:49

Agreed.

How are you not embarrassed posting this.

LoveLifeBeHappy · 03/03/2026 09:56

Pusstachio · 02/03/2026 23:24

I sure they do- that doesn’t mean police cannot arrest them for it if they choose.

There are numerous incidents of women reporting rape only to then be imprisoned for extra marital sex.

You know I’m not ‘making up’ public decency laws in the UAE

I’ve been going to Dubai regularly since 2018. I’ve never seen women being arrested for wearing bikinis on the beach or Western women dressing normally in public. Yes, laws exist on paper, but there’s a difference between what can be enforced and what is routinely enforced. That’s true in any country.

Police discretion happens everywhere. In the UK, there are countless examples of laws technically being broken but not pursued. My own car was damaged outside a Tesco, CCTV showed exactly what happened, it was reported, and nothing came of it.

Enforcement isn’t automatic just because a law exists.

Sexual assault happens in the UK too, as it does globally. That doesn’t excuse anything anywhere, but it shows the issue isn’t unique to one country.

As for extramarital sex, it has historically been illegal in the UAE. Whether people agree with that or not, it’s a known law. Travelling somewhere and knowingly breaking local laws, then being surprised by consequences is mind boggling.

LoveLifeBeHappy · 03/03/2026 09:49

Jerys · 03/03/2026 09:36

People go and criticise Dubai a lot. They say how there no true free speech and the state is strict. But in return you get to keep all your income, your business thrives and crime is super super low.

You walk around with your phone in London it'll be snatched. If you have a nice watch, a gang with stab you for it.

In Dubai, this does not happen. They do not ignore crime and they actively police it and solve it. They don't just ignore theft.

Agreed.

alittleprivacy · 03/03/2026 09:46

Dontgetfooledagain · 03/03/2026 08:34

Of course it made it rich. The industrial revolution grew on the back of slavery and colonisation- all those lovely cheap raw materials, all those lovely new markets.

Did you learn history from a few soundbites picked up from idiots on social media? Because this is nothing even close to accurate. I'm Irish, we grow up learning extensively about the bad parts of the British Empire, and even still I know that what you're spouting is nonsensical fiction designed to denigrate Britain of the past. There is much about British history that's incredible, flawed yes, but overall a massive positive. This constant bullshit about how awful it was on every level, is nothing but a demoralisation tactic that stops people pointing out atrocities currently being afflicted.

Cardomomle · 03/03/2026 09:39

HandfulOfMoths · 03/03/2026 09:38

All I know is if I was sexually assaulted there I wouldn’t be telling the police out of fear. That doesn’t feel like a safer environment to me.

Good point.

HandfulOfMoths · 03/03/2026 09:38

Jerys · 03/03/2026 09:36

People go and criticise Dubai a lot. They say how there no true free speech and the state is strict. But in return you get to keep all your income, your business thrives and crime is super super low.

You walk around with your phone in London it'll be snatched. If you have a nice watch, a gang with stab you for it.

In Dubai, this does not happen. They do not ignore crime and they actively police it and solve it. They don't just ignore theft.

All I know is if I was sexually assaulted there I wouldn’t be telling the police out of fear. That doesn’t feel like a safer environment to me.

Cardomomle · 03/03/2026 09:38

Jerys · 03/03/2026 09:36

People go and criticise Dubai a lot. They say how there no true free speech and the state is strict. But in return you get to keep all your income, your business thrives and crime is super super low.

You walk around with your phone in London it'll be snatched. If you have a nice watch, a gang with stab you for it.

In Dubai, this does not happen. They do not ignore crime and they actively police it and solve it. They don't just ignore theft.

I think that's somewhat simplistic.
Millions of people walk around London every day with their phones out, and wearing expensive jewellery.
Crimes make the news. If it happened as frequently as you claim, it would hardly be newsworthy.

Cardomomle · 03/03/2026 09:36

LoveLifeBeHappy · 03/03/2026 09:34

I agree, especially about not knowing where Dubai is.

My bigger point is that a lot of people don’t have even a basic understanding of the British Empire. The common narrative is that Britain “helped” its colonies — and that’s a very selective version of history.

It's a topic for another day.

It is indeed. Especially since I've been teaching the topic for the last 35 years and never have seen it taught in that way.

Jerys · 03/03/2026 09:36

People go and criticise Dubai a lot. They say how there no true free speech and the state is strict. But in return you get to keep all your income, your business thrives and crime is super super low.

You walk around with your phone in London it'll be snatched. If you have a nice watch, a gang with stab you for it.

In Dubai, this does not happen. They do not ignore crime and they actively police it and solve it. They don't just ignore theft.