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Meant to be moving to Dubai in 4 weeks

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Medesres · 01/03/2026 15:42

We've been planning a move to Dubai for a while now. Dh's work has an office out there and it seemed like great opportunity to live abroad and experience sth different. I've got a couple of friends out there already too who love the lifestyle.

Watching the news for the past 24 hours and I'm really starting to question things. I had no idea how close to Iran it was and who knows what might happen next. Part of me is hoping it will all be resolved soon but hard to believe.

My friend who already lives there has spent the night sleeping in one room with her dh and kids scared of all the missile noises.

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VaccineSticker · 01/03/2026 23:07

@Medesres you have my sympathy.

As for everyone else who is being sarcastic and mocking the OPs choice of moving to Dubai, or the lack of her geography knowledge. It is not funny. How many of you know what countries Russia borders in Europe? Won’t be many I guarantee you.

The conflict is very serious and whilst we are miles away from the conflict, spare a moment and think about all these innocent people who are getting injured /dying and all
these soldiers who are putting their lives in danger.

No one knows what war feels like until you’ve experienced living through one.

Stop spouting hatred and have some compassion.

Stop looking down upon other cultures and nations because you think yours is better. Such a blinkered way of viewing things.

The UAE has one of the lowest crimes in the world. Why? Everything is on CCTV, criminals are caught within hours if not minutes, whilst in the uk if you ring the police when your house had been robbed they will tell you it’s not urgent (true story happened to a friend). We have broken policing, broken nhs, broken education, people who work hard and pay their taxes get nothing back. Pot hole here, pot hole there. Pot holes everywhere! And then you wonder why people are moving abroad?

My very well travelled cousins went to the Qatar football World Cup few years and said Qataris are the most generous and welcoming community they have ever met and wouldn't mind moving there if the opportunity arises. I have teachers friends and extended family dotted all around that region ( and no they are not blingy or rich - sorry to burst your bubble) but they all love the standard of living there and would never change it for the world.

Pack it up with your hate for others will you?!
Sheer arrogance!

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 01/03/2026 23:06

FloofBunny · 01/03/2026 23:04

Because for all its loveliness, it IS a bit wet.

So what? I would much rather have a trip that is a bit wet (yes the Lake District has high precipitation,) than go anywhere NEAR Dubai! So many reasons not to go.

levitational · 01/03/2026 23:05

Namechange19960 · 01/03/2026 20:01

Don't worry OP I didn't realise how close Iran was to Dubai either. Clearly some Mumsnetters have nothing else better to do than mock others.

Were you also about to move your whole life there with your partner and children?

FloofBunny · 01/03/2026 23:04

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 01/03/2026 23:02

Then why are you sneering at the Lake District holidays in a previous post?

Because for all its loveliness, it IS a bit wet.

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 01/03/2026 23:02

FloofBunny · 01/03/2026 22:23

I am not a sweet summer child; I have worked for the Government of Dubai and thus had my mind opened - see my post above. And yes, I have been to the Lake District. Stayed in a youth hotel in Cockermouth and walked round Buttermere. (I think - was decades ago.) It's absolutely gorgeous, the LD is one of my favourite places in the world.

Then why are you sneering at the Lake District holidays in a previous post?

KindCompassion · 01/03/2026 22:51

You should go! Fabulous place. Legal to rape and beat your wife. Marvellous. Such fun. And you get your own indentured servants!

Ginmonkeyagain · 01/03/2026 22:50

You didn't realise Dubai was close to Iran? Oh mate. It's nearer to Iran than England is to Ireland.

FloofBunny · 01/03/2026 22:49

Autumngirl5 · 01/03/2026 22:47

It can’t be genuine.

The OP?

Doteycat · 01/03/2026 22:49

FloofBunny · 01/03/2026 22:48

I do not!

Clearly.

Doteycat · 01/03/2026 22:48

FloofBunny · 01/03/2026 22:48

Only trashy people describe other human being as trash.

HTH.

Fraid not.
Wrong again.

FloofBunny · 01/03/2026 22:48

Doteycat · 01/03/2026 22:47

Do you know its 2026 love?

I do not!

FloofBunny · 01/03/2026 22:48

Doteycat · 01/03/2026 22:11

Nah only trash goes to Dubai.
HTH

Only trashy people describe other human being as trash.

HTH.

Doteycat · 01/03/2026 22:47

FloofBunny · 01/03/2026 22:47

Sorry, are you saying you don't believe I was there for four days in 2004? I'm not sure what your incredulity is for. And I may only have been there for four days, but I worked for the Dubai government for seven months.

Do you know its 2026 love?

Autumngirl5 · 01/03/2026 22:47

WeirdyBeardyMarrowBabyLady · 01/03/2026 15:55

Having read your last update I’m not even sure this can be genuine.

It can’t be genuine.

FloofBunny · 01/03/2026 22:47

Doteycat · 01/03/2026 22:44

Doesnt blow my mind at all.
Nothing does. Seen too much done too much for that to happen
And i can spot rubbish when i see it.
4 days in 2004. Give me a break.
You know trying to insult me says more about you than me ya? .

Sorry, are you saying you don't believe I was there for four days in 2004? I'm not sure what your incredulity is for. And I may only have been there for four days, but I worked for the Dubai government for seven months.

Doteycat · 01/03/2026 22:44

FloofBunny · 01/03/2026 22:43

I don't know why you say "claiming to be there" in 2004. I was there. I worked for the Gov and was describing my lived experience of being there as a Gov worker. I'm sorry it blows your mind so much that you have to scoff, but foreign countries around the world do have tourism offices in London and they employ Londoners, as I was at that time.

Doesnt blow my mind at all.
Nothing does. Seen too much done too much for that to happen
And i can spot rubbish when i see it.
4 days in 2004. Give me a break.
You know trying to insult me says more about you than me ya? .

FloofBunny · 01/03/2026 22:44

SeriousFaffing · 01/03/2026 22:42

@FloofBunny

’Halo-polishers’, ‘virtue signalling’.

See, here’s the thing that hasn’t occurred to you; you’re operating on a whole other plane to the rest of us. And just to be clear, I absolutely don’t mean that as a compliment.

Those buildings and infrastructure were built on the backs of dead slaves. That alone is enough for the rest of us who are not morally bereft to realise that that place is a problem. And that is without sifting through the mountain of other problematic matters about Dubai.

Your comments say an awful lot about you… But what it says you won’t begin to be able to grasp.

Edited

Ooooh yes, I'm all dark and evil and awful, aren't I! 🤣

ETA: Of course Dubai's problematic, like so many other places in the world that millions and millions of Brits travel to each year. Do you despise them all, too?

FloofBunny · 01/03/2026 22:43

Doteycat · 01/03/2026 22:40

You are incorrect.
HTH.
Someone claiming to be there in 2004, pls.
Absolute drivil

I don't know why you say "claiming to be there" in 2004. I was there. I worked for the Gov and was describing my lived experience of being there as a Gov worker. I'm sorry it blows your mind so much that you have to scoff, but foreign countries around the world do have tourism offices in London and they employ Londoners, as I was at that time.

SeriousFaffing · 01/03/2026 22:42

FloofBunny · 01/03/2026 22:20

I went to Dubai for four days in 2004, because I was working for the Government of Dubai in London for seven months. I worked for the DTCM, Dubai Tourism and Commerce Marketing, which had an office very near Trafalgar Square. It hasn't really been on my radar since then, I just smell a rat when the halo-polishers start. I can't stand virtue-signalling and all the posturing, because I think it's mostly fake and I just don't believe them. I bet they've been to loads of problematic places and continue to do so. I much prefer vice-signalling. At least it's honest.

I experienced the Dubai offices and the Dubai gov HQ in that one visit and met many locals. Did you know that men and women don't touch during the wives' menstruation not because they are seen to be "unclean" but because they both spend the period of time grieving for the soul that could have been, but wasn't? That's the kind of information you don't come across when your mind remains firmly closed and your feet in only perfect places.

One night we were in the desert, and I walked behind this tent, and saw a row of Arab men in their robes facing towards Mecca, eyes closed, and clearly having a moment of deep spirituality. It was very moving.

@FloofBunny

’Halo-polishers’, ‘virtue signalling’.

See, here’s the thing that hasn’t occurred to you; you’re operating on a whole other plane to the rest of us. And just to be clear, I absolutely don’t mean that as a compliment.

Those buildings and infrastructure were built on the backs of dead slaves. That alone is enough for the rest of us who are not morally bereft to realise that that place is a problem. And that is without sifting through the mountain of other problematic matters about Dubai.

Your comments say an awful lot about you… But what it says you won’t begin to be able to grasp.

Doteycat · 01/03/2026 22:40

FloofBunny · 01/03/2026 22:38

So embarrassed I'm hiding under the bed!!

How would you know what my life experiences are? I haven't lived in the UK for twenty years, smartypants, although I don't live in the ME and have spent much time back in the UK taking care of my (now deceased) parents.

And?
Youre still spouting rubbish

FloofBunny · 01/03/2026 22:40

HoskinsChoice · 01/03/2026 22:33

'Everyone wants to move there'. 🤣

Trollololol. 🎣

She's right, most people would jump at the chance to move to somewhere with some sunshine and without the problems of the UK.

Doteycat · 01/03/2026 22:40

rainingsnoring · 01/03/2026 22:38

I'm afraid your posts do not suggest an experienced, educated, broadminded author, however broad you think your life experience is.

You are incorrect.
HTH.
Someone claiming to be there in 2004, pls.
Absolute drivil

rainingsnoring · 01/03/2026 22:39

FloofBunny · 01/03/2026 22:36

Exactly.

The trip I went on, which was taking a group of UK travel agents to Dubai to experience the holiday product that they were selling, was run in conjunction with Gulf Air. The GA chappie who accompanied us was half-Liverpudlian and half-Bahranian. He had grown up in Bahrain but had also spent time living in London. Anyway, it was his belief that democracy can never work in the ME. Which was interesting. I didn't get to talking about it further - trip matters probably intervened - but I'm guessing he meant a benign dictatorship, which Dubai is compared to regimes like North Korea. As in, it's relatively easy to avoid pissing off the Dubai government, and its citizens have good, free healthcare.

What we call 'democracy' doesn't seem to be working too well in the UK/US/Europe either!

rainingsnoring · 01/03/2026 22:38

Doteycat · 01/03/2026 22:35

Your ignorance is on full display. You have no idea of my life experiences. But i guarantee you they are a lot more vast than yours. And im not naiive and ignorant like some.
Are you not embarrassed ?

I'm afraid your posts do not suggest an experienced, educated, broadminded author, however broad you think your life experience is.

FloofBunny · 01/03/2026 22:38

Doteycat · 01/03/2026 22:35

Your ignorance is on full display. You have no idea of my life experiences. But i guarantee you they are a lot more vast than yours. And im not naiive and ignorant like some.
Are you not embarrassed ?

So embarrassed I'm hiding under the bed!!

How would you know what my life experiences are? I haven't lived in the UK for twenty years, smartypants, although I don't live in the ME and have spent much time back in the UK taking care of my (now deceased) parents.