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Meant to be moving to Dubai in 4 weeks

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Medesres · 01/03/2026 15:42

We've been planning a move to Dubai for a while now. Dh's work has an office out there and it seemed like great opportunity to live abroad and experience sth different. I've got a couple of friends out there already too who love the lifestyle.

Watching the news for the past 24 hours and I'm really starting to question things. I had no idea how close to Iran it was and who knows what might happen next. Part of me is hoping it will all be resolved soon but hard to believe.

My friend who already lives there has spent the night sleeping in one room with her dh and kids scared of all the missile noises.

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FloofBunny · 02/03/2026 08:07

gannett · 02/03/2026 07:45

I don't blame anyone for not seeing this shitshow coming so suddenly but I absolutely will raise an eyebrow at anyone who doesn't know where Dubai is. Especially so if you're planning to actually emigrate there, but even if you have no plans to go anywhere near Dubai you should know where it is on a map, and you should know where Iran is. It's basic world geography and you shouldn't even have to look it up. I am genuinely astonished that anyone can get to adulthood without this knowledge.

I keep thinking of that bit in the Bridget Jones book where she doesn't know where Germany is.

She did know where Germany was. She just couldn't name all EIGHT countries that surrounded it. Not being able to name every surrounding country when there are so many is not the same as not knowing where somewhere is, geographically. It's not like she thought Germany was south of Spain, is it!

And of course the OP knows that Dubai is in the ME and where the ME is. But it's near many other countries, at least seven.

Jerys · 02/03/2026 08:05

FloofBunny · 02/03/2026 08:03

There is culture in Dubai, for sure. It's a very old place. I have been to ancient museums there. The spice souk and the gold souks are living historic monuments to a way of life, and the boats on the river are a sight. I can't remember what they're called, but they're a shape specific to the area. Then there's the natural wonder that is the desert.

No security guards in the gold Souk despite so much gold around. Felt super safe compared to London jewelry stores.

FloofBunny · 02/03/2026 08:04

sunshine244 · 02/03/2026 08:01

Also if you were moving to UAE for culture... why not another town or city that is less westernised?

Probably because Dubai has jobs for Westerners, having welcomed so many companies. And the business language is English.

Franjipanl8r · 02/03/2026 08:04

Ask to delay the move for 6 months and reassess then. You can’t make a sensible decision now, it’s far too early in the conflict to know how this is going to play out.

FloofBunny · 02/03/2026 08:03

sunshine244 · 02/03/2026 07:52

But Dubai is the very opposite of culture and history. People go there specifically for the hotels and shopping malls etc.

My neighbours went for a weeks holiday last year and considering moving there. No mention of anything in any way cultural. They like the swimming pools, the shops, the cheap luxury goods, that they would be able to afford housekeeper and nanny etc. They didn't go outside at all because it was too hot. They could have been anywhere.

There is culture in Dubai, for sure. It's a very old place. I have been to ancient museums there. The spice souk and the gold souks are living historic monuments to a way of life, and the boats on the river are a sight. I can't remember what they're called, but they're a shape specific to the area. Then there's the natural wonder that is the desert.

sunshine244 · 02/03/2026 08:01

Also if you were moving to UAE for culture... why not another town or city that is less westernised?

Katypp · 02/03/2026 08:01

I am sure the OP is glad she posted here asking what she should do.
Only about 10 posters have actually answered her question, but at least she has been fully informed that the rest of the pps are cleverer, more enlightened, more geographically and politically aware and just generally better people than she is.

MikeRafone · 02/03/2026 07:58

AleaEim · 02/03/2026 06:05

I’m not surprised, have you met the kind of people that move to Dubai?

I have met a few people that have lived in Dubai, all of them intelligent enough to make a lot of money - so certainly not dim, if thats what you are inferring.

Jerys · 02/03/2026 07:55

levitational · 01/03/2026 23:56

I suspect you're trolling.

You're probably aware that, during the building of the Burj, human rights groups documented conditions that sometimes resembled debt bondage, which the International Labour Organization (a specialised UN organisation dedicated to promoting international labour rights) classifies as a form of modern forced labour.
Common reported issues during the 2000s construction boom in the UAE included:
• Recruitment fees charged in home countries (putting workers in heavy debt before arrival)
• Passport confiscation
• Low wages (often $150-$300/month at the time)
• Overcrowded labour camps
• Limited ability to change jobs or leave due to visa sponsorship rules (the 'kafala' system)
In 2006, workers on the Burj Khalifa site went on strike over wages and conditions.

Glad you enjoyed your meals, though.

And now the UAE is making genuine reforms to protect these workers and trying to improve things for them.

sunshine244 · 02/03/2026 07:52

FloofBunny · 01/03/2026 23:25

I think it broadens the mind to go to places which are very different from home. Seems a pity to reject the culture, history, food, and people of a country because of its awful government. The people didn't choose it and it's not their fault. And many of them rely on tourism.

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But Dubai is the very opposite of culture and history. People go there specifically for the hotels and shopping malls etc.

My neighbours went for a weeks holiday last year and considering moving there. No mention of anything in any way cultural. They like the swimming pools, the shops, the cheap luxury goods, that they would be able to afford housekeeper and nanny etc. They didn't go outside at all because it was too hot. They could have been anywhere.

gannett · 02/03/2026 07:45

I don't blame anyone for not seeing this shitshow coming so suddenly but I absolutely will raise an eyebrow at anyone who doesn't know where Dubai is. Especially so if you're planning to actually emigrate there, but even if you have no plans to go anywhere near Dubai you should know where it is on a map, and you should know where Iran is. It's basic world geography and you shouldn't even have to look it up. I am genuinely astonished that anyone can get to adulthood without this knowledge.

I keep thinking of that bit in the Bridget Jones book where she doesn't know where Germany is.

Mistybluebay · 02/03/2026 07:44

ElizabethsTailor · 01/03/2026 16:09

@Medesres did you research anything else about living there?

For example did you know that the reason we are not hearing about how bad the bombings have been in Dubai is that “law 34” prohibits people from sharing that information. If your friends have been sharing on social media they could face 10 years in jail.

Did you know that you wouldn’t be able to kiss your husband in public? A lot of people do kiss their spouses, but it is still illegal, so you do so at the whim of any police officer who might be having a bad day and want to teach a westerner a lesson.

Obviously I could go on with dozens more examples.

My DH & I are openly affectionate,holding hands & sharing the occasional peck (not snogging) in public as many do.This being prohibited is enough alone to make me concerned about going there never mind anything else.

LakieLady · 02/03/2026 07:43

Twooclockrock · 01/03/2026 19:29

People bashing dubai that come from the UK are the biggest hypocrites 😂 you literally are living off the proceeds of slavery yourselves. Anyway, i am not an arab, not so I wish to live in dubai. But people on their high horses about it are just absolute morons.

Unfortunately, none of us have a time machine that will enable us to go back and put a stop to slave trading earlier than the UK stopped it in the 1830s.

Time has moved on, and most people have realised that human rights are important. The minority that haven't and are still happy to live in and travel to countries with pisspoor human rights only have themselves to blame when it goes tits up for them.

Ginmonkeyagain · 02/03/2026 07:24

@VaccineSticker umm of course many people know Russia borders on to European countries like Norway, what with a good part of Russia being a European country itself and a big player in many major land wars in Europe over the last few centuries.

Not everyone wallows in ignorance.

SumUp · 02/03/2026 07:22

Astounded that the responses you got are not more practical!

Your DH needs an urgent talk with his employer. His employer will almost certainly postpone the move, at very least until things are more settled. Has he signed a contract already? Is this a secondment? He might want to explore with them whether he continues in his current UK role, or if he works remotely on the new role until a move is possible. I don’t know what his work is, but events may severely affect their operations.

Have you also organised to let your UK house out or signed any leases? Cancel it all if you possibly can.

Rayqueen2026 · 02/03/2026 07:16

Look at how quickly all wars are not ending right now then decide if it's only going to last days or fire up again. I wouldn't be going

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Buddinghell · 02/03/2026 07:08

Stop looking down upon other cultures and nations because you think yours is better. Such a blinkered way of viewing things.

ALL humans should expect basic human rights. It’s not “cultural” to use slave labour, and treat women as inferior to men.
Democracy is better than dictatorship,even a benign one.
Every culture contributes something of value to the world. That doesn’t negate that in other ways they are problematic.

FloofBunny · 02/03/2026 06:59

AleaEim · 02/03/2026 06:04

You seem too narrow minded to understand that some people have standards and wouldn’t live somewhere that isn’t in line with their standards.

I never understand all the blowhards on here who are all "Well, I would NEVER go to such and such a country!" You see it all the time on the US threads, and I think it's really silly. Firstly, you not going won't make a shred of difference. Secondly, withholding your input into the economy doesn't help the locals. The problems in their country aren't their fault. Thirdly, when you focus on the worst aspect of a country, you also reject all the good things about it and all the things you might have learned from going there and experiencing it and talking to the people. You don't get to experience the country's history, architecture, art, culture, food, sights, ways, and people. Talk about throwing the baby out with the bathwater.

I don't think those are what I'd call standards. I think it's judgement of a kind that limits your experience of the world.

And, you know, Britain is a pretty nasty little country in many ways. There are many reasons for foreigners not to visit our country. They could decide they are not going to come here because of their moral standards. Would you understand that? If so, do you think that all tourists who come here have no standards?

When I say that Britain is a nasty little country in many ways, where to start?

We have a serious, endemic problem with child abuse. It's been going on in dozens of towns for a couple of decades. Remember Rotherham? There have been SO many similar rings in SO many towns here that have gone on for SO long. Child abuse is baked into our country, but no one ever talks about that fact, and the press are good at not ripping that veil off. They report on one town at a time, but they don't stitch it all together and say "Look - we are a national of child abusers. Why is that?" In addition to all the child abuse rings, there were all the famous child abusers, like Glitter and Savill and Harris.

“We’ve always known that the scale of sexual abuse, particularly of children – but all types of abuse – in the UK is absolutely massive,” said Dr Jon Bird, operations manager for the National Association for People Abused in Childhood. https://www.aljazeera.com/features/2015/2/6/the-uks-celebrity-sex-offenders.

Our disgusting record on child abuse would be a fantastic reason for foreigners to hold the standard that they will not visit such a gross place, no?

Then there was the vile Post Office scandal. Countless lives ruined, suicides....a national disgrace.

Then there is the undercover police scandal. They were trusted by their targets, and they repaid that trust by shagging them and impregnating them, living with them for years.

Then there's the fact that we have been lurching to the right for years.

And for a small island, we've had no shortage of unhinged murderers over the years. Plus, we only made marital rape illegal in the Nineties, and we have one of the most hide-bound and snobbish class systems in the world. I overheard a foreigner once say that it's really a caste system, and it's true, socially.

Not to mention that we have an inherently unfair system ourselves, with an utterly pampered and spoilt royal family that's threaded into our national culture and history, one which is showered with dozens and dozens of millions per annum that would be going to the public good if it wasn't being poured into the pockets of the RF via the duchies. And even with being treated to a lifestyle beyond imagining, some of them have been directly involved in rape and child abuse, or have been benefiting from connections with the American running such.

So, would you like it if foreigners with standards boycotted our country, making our economy even worse than it already is, and straining local businesses? We have MUCH to be ashamed of ourselves.

BlimeyOReillyO · 02/03/2026 06:48

FloofBunny · 01/03/2026 21:39

Well I wouldn't live there now, would I!

Why not? I mean it’s still tax free, glamorous, blue sky if you squint and block out the missiles!

I suppose all the ex pats are going to be running back to the UK now, whinging about the tax. Losing their jobs and spending all their tax free money on cost of living whilst they try to find jobs.

Shame they didn’t realise that an inevitable ME war in Iran would unsettle them, because you know it’s close to Dubai!

BlimeyOReillyO · 02/03/2026 06:39

Midsommermadness · 02/03/2026 00:26

Ignore everyone giving you a hard time for not realising just how close Iran would be. I do wonder just how many of them had to check google maps themselves, I would put money on it being quite a lot.

You will just have to play it day by day but just keep in mind that even if it does settle down soon, the situation in the Middle East is not going away. It’s not a place I’d want to bring up my kids but that’s for you and your husband to decide.

Do some research on the region so you can have a better understanding of the many conflicts and why it’s likely there’s more to come.

“Sigh” those people that had to check google maps aren’t supposed to move there in four weeks!

The OP was intending to move her whole life for the blue sky in Dubai, without even knowing where it was.

As had been shown the area is a massive issue, and it’s not going to change is it?

So next time OP decides to make a life changing event, perhaps she should do some research? The grass is not always greener.

BlimeyOReillyO · 02/03/2026 06:35

VaccineSticker · 01/03/2026 23:07

@Medesres you have my sympathy.

As for everyone else who is being sarcastic and mocking the OPs choice of moving to Dubai, or the lack of her geography knowledge. It is not funny. How many of you know what countries Russia borders in Europe? Won’t be many I guarantee you.

The conflict is very serious and whilst we are miles away from the conflict, spare a moment and think about all these innocent people who are getting injured /dying and all
these soldiers who are putting their lives in danger.

No one knows what war feels like until you’ve experienced living through one.

Stop spouting hatred and have some compassion.

Stop looking down upon other cultures and nations because you think yours is better. Such a blinkered way of viewing things.

The UAE has one of the lowest crimes in the world. Why? Everything is on CCTV, criminals are caught within hours if not minutes, whilst in the uk if you ring the police when your house had been robbed they will tell you it’s not urgent (true story happened to a friend). We have broken policing, broken nhs, broken education, people who work hard and pay their taxes get nothing back. Pot hole here, pot hole there. Pot holes everywhere! And then you wonder why people are moving abroad?

My very well travelled cousins went to the Qatar football World Cup few years and said Qataris are the most generous and welcoming community they have ever met and wouldn't mind moving there if the opportunity arises. I have teachers friends and extended family dotted all around that region ( and no they are not blingy or rich - sorry to burst your bubble) but they all love the standard of living there and would never change it for the world.

Pack it up with your hate for others will you?!
Sheer arrogance!

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As pointed out many times, if you’re moving to a country, you might just have a little investigation as to where it is, what borders it etc.

I mean it’s not difficult to find out what’s around you is it?

You would surely look at what’s around you with any move?

I mean look what not looking around her has done for OP?

Ridiculous.

She decided to move there because her friends told her the weather was better and it’s glamorous. Says it all really? Typical type of person that moves to Dubai!

mrssunshinexxx · 02/03/2026 06:25

There is no way I’d be taking my children there. And even still if it were just my husband and I , it’s a hard no,

AleaEim · 02/03/2026 06:05

MikeRafone · 02/03/2026 05:54

It’s not a case of being superior, it’s surprising that someone emigrating to another area doesn’t know where on the map that is.

I’m not surprised, have you met the kind of people that move to Dubai?