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Help!!! Please help me feel better about this awkward hug!!!!!!

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No1Some1 · 01/03/2026 15:25

I was just introduced to a friends husband, and he went in for a hug, but with that sort of kiss/not kiss on each cheek. (If that makes any sense). This is absolutely not how I hug, so the whole thing threw me off and I ended up somehow in the kerfuffle, placing my hand on the back of his head mid hug. I am absolutely mortified!!!! I don’t know how it even happened, but it was just super weird and uncomfortable and I wanted the ground to swallow me up. Help me feel better about this. I’m currently planning to never set foot out my front door again!!!!!

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Starlight1979 · 03/03/2026 10:41

Chickoletta · 02/03/2026 22:11

Aged 17, I kissed a friend’s 50-something dad on the cheek as I thought he was telling me he was leaving the (very boring and sensible anniversary) party we were at. He looked at me confused and said ‘I’m going to the bar, do you want anything?’. My friends still remind me of this 30 years later.

Oh god no 😆Mortifying!!!

BetterOffNow · 03/03/2026 10:38

InterestedDad37 · 02/03/2026 22:18

With a goodbye hug, I once somehow ended up with my aged auntie's earlobe between my lips 😂
She's no longer in the land of the living, but the memory still haunts my dreams.

You've just made me LOL + I'm supposed to be working! 😂

LouiseMadetheBestBroccoliPasta · 03/03/2026 10:21

I thought of another one, although it's sort of an opposite situation. As I said, I live in France, and have made many a mistake with la bise, to the point I shrug it off now (although my embarrassment did burn with the heat of a thousand suns for months after I kissed my boss's neck).

But my H, who is German (they tend to shake hands or give brief hugs rather than kisses), STILL - when a French person comes in for la bise - kisses them roundly on both cheeks, like "Mwah! Mwah!" The French people always look a bit taken aback, and I see them bracing themselves when they greet him the next time. The kids have all warned their friends 😂😂

simpledeer · 03/03/2026 10:17

I accidentally kissed my friends DH on the lips once. I don’t remotely fancy him and have no idea what the fuck I was thinking.

It was totally my fault. So embarrassing.

wellstopdoingitthen · 03/03/2026 10:09

I have no idea @EBearhug but there was a long thread pulled in my dress afterwards as he had manically tried to free us. 🙈

ShodAndShadySenators · 03/03/2026 08:05

I accidently kissed my husband's friend's wife. She bent in for an air kiss and I misjudged the distance (I blame dyspraxia) and planted an actual kiss on her cheek. My hand went on her shoulder for balance too, so that I didn't lurch even more Blush

You've brought the awkward memory right back, we are both British so naturally will never refer to it ever. I've always hoped she didn't think "So she thinks we're on actual kissing terms now?!" rather than "Oops, too close!"

nomas · 03/03/2026 07:44

MantelpieceClutter · 02/03/2026 22:47

I’d love to think that was true but I’m more than three years beyond bending to speak to a seated mourner at a shiva (the home-based seven days of mourning after a Jewish burial) who turned their face as though they wanted to say something quietly to me and accidentally ended up smooshing their lips to mine in front of the entire room. The horror continues to drag me to the sunken place every time I think of it💀

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Oh no 🤣

The only comfort I can give is hopefully anyone who saw it has forgotten it? ☺️

LoveheartBear · 03/03/2026 06:50

This is the hug…

Help!!! Please help me feel better about this awkward hug!!!!!!
bananafake · 03/03/2026 06:50

I once said ‘love you’ to a minor retired sporting celebrity of the club I support as he was walking off after shaking hands and a brief chat at a meet and greet. We’re both in our 60s! (I admire and like him greatly but I still redden at the memory).

Then I bumped into him again in the car park. He gave me the side eye…

I also regularly used to go the wrong way when giving one of those friend hugs greeting a freind’s husband and nearly snog him. Don’t know how it happened as I usually don’t have the same issue with other people. Neither of us fancied each other in the slightest but it was still cringe.

LoveheartBear · 03/03/2026 06:48

Did anyone else immediately think of Erika Kirk’s controversial hug with JD Vance? It set the rumour mills in overdrive, OP, so I think you have good reasons to be concerned ☺️.

BigBangSherry · 03/03/2026 06:40

BlueEyedBogWitch · 03/03/2026 06:14

I remember a thread on here years ago that was started by a woman who had gone to shake her boss’s hand and ended up cupping his balls.

See now that’s embarrassing OP 😁

BigBangSherry · 03/03/2026 06:39

SwanRivers · 01/03/2026 15:35

I really wasn't expecting such a bland story after reading the thread title.

I thought you were going to say you kissed him on the lips or accidentally touched his arse.

I wouldn't worry about this at all.

This!

Stop being so dramatic OP.

Monsterslam · 03/03/2026 06:38

When I was learning to drive I missed the gear stick and placed my hand AND TRIED TO WIGGLE my instructor's thigh.

Wishing14 · 03/03/2026 06:36

I only do weird and awkward hugs tbh 😂

myfavouritemutant · 03/03/2026 06:35

Hugged a friend of my husband a few weeks ago as he was leaving and our ears sort of suctioned together. It was awful. We both gallantly pretended nothing had happened but it so had. The feeling still haunts me now!

stapletonsguitar · 03/03/2026 06:27

Wingedharpy · 01/03/2026 17:03

I once kissed my plumber goodbye at the front door as he finished work for the day! - the first work day of a job that was to take several weeks.

To this day, I don't know what possessed me.

I think it had been a long day and I wasn't fully focused on reality.

And before y'all ask, no he wasn't a demi-God - he was a portly, middle aged, grey and balding gent in a scruffy boiler suit - with a slightly shocked expression on his face.

I'm even older.

I didn't see him off the premises thereafter.

That’s made me LOL 😂

BlueEyedBogWitch · 03/03/2026 06:14

I remember a thread on here years ago that was started by a woman who had gone to shake her boss’s hand and ended up cupping his balls.

NotAnotherScarf · 03/03/2026 06:03

IdaGlossop · 02/03/2026 23:26

'The deceased son' does it. On first reading, I had a mental image of you kissing a cadaver.

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God no. Take it from me. I see dead bodies all the time and not an image I'd like stuck in my head

FruitFlyPie · 03/03/2026 03:12

I was meeting the family of a new boyfriend, and was kissing them on the cheek to say hello. Miscalculated the angle with his brother and we smashed cheeks together, leaving us both rubbing our faces in pain. We laughed but I'm still cringing about it months later.

DeftGoldHedgehog · 03/03/2026 02:49

Wingedharpy · 01/03/2026 17:03

I once kissed my plumber goodbye at the front door as he finished work for the day! - the first work day of a job that was to take several weeks.

To this day, I don't know what possessed me.

I think it had been a long day and I wasn't fully focused on reality.

And before y'all ask, no he wasn't a demi-God - he was a portly, middle aged, grey and balding gent in a scruffy boiler suit - with a slightly shocked expression on his face.

I'm even older.

I didn't see him off the premises thereafter.

Hahaha 😂

DeftGoldHedgehog · 03/03/2026 02:43

I temped in a small office for a few weeks, about 15 years ago. On my final day as I was leaving and saying goodbye to a colleague, I leaned in and gave him a kiss on the cheek. I'd barely spoken to the man. Think I was just flustered remembering everything and packing up. It was only when I got out of the door that I thought "Oh God!" and remembered his mildly surprised reaction. Fortunately I have never seen him again 🙈

Franjipanl8r · 03/03/2026 02:28

The worst I’ve done is clumsily swinging arms when walking with a colleague and accidentally holding his hand.

MrsClatterbuck · 03/03/2026 02:13

Wingedharpy · 01/03/2026 17:03

I once kissed my plumber goodbye at the front door as he finished work for the day! - the first work day of a job that was to take several weeks.

To this day, I don't know what possessed me.

I think it had been a long day and I wasn't fully focused on reality.

And before y'all ask, no he wasn't a demi-God - he was a portly, middle aged, grey and balding gent in a scruffy boiler suit - with a slightly shocked expression on his face.

I'm even older.

I didn't see him off the premises thereafter.

Sorry but this made me cry laughing. He sounds like the plumber that came to my dm house years ago and I now have a picture in my head of her kissing him 😳🤣🤣

HangryBrickShark · 03/03/2026 01:55

I'm the same, I remember as a child how uncomfortable it used to make me feel. I hate all this air kissing shite too, I really do.

EBearhug · 03/03/2026 01:39

unfortunately a thread from my wool dress caught in his fly

But... how did that happen, @wellstopdoingitthen ?