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I am not a "person who menstruates"

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auserna · 01/03/2026 15:22

AIBU to think that terms such as "birthing person", "partner with eggs", "womb-carrier", "cervix haver", "people who menstruate", "chest-feeder" are not only insulting to women but downright hurtful to those who have any gynaecological and/or fertility issues, including DSDs?

Those terms may be considered inclusive to/by people whose gender identity doesn't match their sex (c.0.5% in the UK) but are exclusive to those with DSDs or gynaecological issues (c.12% in the UK).

NB My figures are rough, partly because the statistics relating to people with DSDs are very contentious and because "gynaecological issues" is a broad term, but they are clearly significantly higher for the latter group.

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NoSoupForU · 01/03/2026 15:41

Honestly I don't care. I refer to myself however I choose, and inform others to refer to me in that way where it's needed. I just don't take everything as a slur towards me. If someone refused to use my chosen terms then I'd start taking issue, but until then it's just getting angry over nothing.

I don't feel threatened by how anybody else chooses to identify.

Motomum23 · 01/03/2026 15:39

Yanbu - we really really need to correct these statements at every turn.

auserna · 01/03/2026 15:38

Not doing very well today - also missed off people who may have had their breasts or cervix or ovaries or uterus removed because of cancer. Are they not women either?

(Of course they fucking are, and how dare you even obliquely imply otherwise.)

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SnugglyJumpersMakeItBetter · 01/03/2026 15:37

I did a maternity nursing course some years ago, and that was fine, but when I looked into doing some CPD with them a year or 2 later they'd gone over to using 'chest-feeding' so I dropped them like a hot brick. MATERNITY nursing professionals!!

auserna · 01/03/2026 15:37

Wolfiefan · 01/03/2026 15:36

That’s me. Haven’t had a period for years. I’m still a woman though!

I've never had a period as I have no eggs. Fuck off with telling me I'm not a woman.

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Wolfiefan · 01/03/2026 15:36

That’s me. Haven’t had a period for years. I’m still a woman though!

auserna · 01/03/2026 15:34

Obliv · 01/03/2026 15:31

Not to mention someone who is menopausal. 🙄

Yes of course - I should have included that, too. That's a fair few women!

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sharkstale · 01/03/2026 15:34

They're absolutely ludicrous.

Obliv · 01/03/2026 15:31

Not to mention someone who is menopausal. 🙄

simplesimoneatspie · 01/03/2026 15:29

I agree with you here. A real woman would think such terms are all a load of boll tbh

TranscendThis · 01/03/2026 15:28

I used to be so accepting of this.

I saw a trans gentleman with hair and badge of a female yesterday serving me. Now, I get annoyed, I try be as polite as possible but really think, you're a threat to me in many ways as a woman. I have no time for this nonsense anymore.

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