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To think than more men should have vasectomies?

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BestBefore2000 · 01/03/2026 15:17

If they are definitely done with their family.
Why should it be on their partners/wives to have to keep on with hormonal contraceptives until 55?
But instead so many women just do this, having that responsibility on their shoulders for years, and increasing risks such as cancers and MH effects.
Stuff that!!

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JacquesHarlow · 01/03/2026 15:26

i realy don't think tubal litigation should be considered over vasectomies.

As others have said, it is much more invasive and therefore carries greater risk.

My DH had a vasectomy about eight months after our last DC was born. I don't like condoms at all, and he didn't want me on hormonal contraception as he knows what it does to me.

I love the fact he can experience everything and I can experience him fully, without needing to worry one bit about pregnancy

More men should have it.

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BestBefore2000 · 01/03/2026 15:26

Tubal litigation is far more invasive and risker than vasectomy. Also, I had three vaginal births (many women do not have C-Sections) so not an option.

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Fizbosshoes · 01/03/2026 15:25

When we were done with having kids my DH went to the dr to ask about it and they persuaded him that I should make an appointment to discuss the mirena coil! Confused

A work colleague also enquired about it (complately different surgery) and they said he was too young. He was probably about 30. My DH would have been 50+ when he asked, so obviously not the same issue for him.

Kingdomofsleep · 01/03/2026 15:23

ImSoMuchOlderThanICanTake · 01/03/2026 15:21

equally, if a woman doesn’t want another pregnancy or to take hormonal contraception, they could have tubal ligation?

It's not "equally" because it's a much more invasive op than vasectomy unless you're having it with a c section.

But I do think more women who happen to be having c sections anyway could consider it

ImSoMuchOlderThanICanTake · 01/03/2026 15:21

equally, if a woman doesn’t want another pregnancy or to take hormonal contraception, they could have tubal ligation?

Kingdomofsleep · 01/03/2026 15:21

Yanbu but I also think more women could consider tube removal during c section, which I've had done. If you're having a c section and you know you don't want more kids, it's a short procedure that they can do straight after.

I'll never have to worry about contraception again.

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