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If someone called your engagement ring "cute"

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Engagementringquestion · 01/03/2026 14:12

Would you think it was a bit bitchy? When showing a friend (who is known for giving backhanded compliments) she said "aww cute".

For reference my ring is a platinum 1.5 carat diamond solitaire and everyone else has said how stunning it is. So certainly not a cheap, small ring.

Would you be offended at this comment?

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Flowertrees · 02/03/2026 07:28

Engagementringquestion · 01/03/2026 14:40

Do you think its nice to call someone fat then?

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No one said it was nice to call someone fat. People are just picking up on the fact that you seem to not like her, by the words you use to describe her. It may well be a justified dislike of her, we have no way of knowing that. All we can know is you’ve used several negative ways to describe her so it very much looks like you don’t like her much

Hijackyou · 02/03/2026 06:31

Engagementringquestion · 01/03/2026 21:08

I have not posted a picture of my ring by the way, another poster found the same style and added their own googled pic.

For the best

If we didn’t all squeal with orgasmic level flattery… who knows what awful things you’d start saying about posters.

Owl55 · 01/03/2026 23:00

It’s something my 19 year old Grandaughter would say and it would be a compliment . You sound like you want everyone to be amazed that you have an expensive ring🤔

CocoKimoo · 01/03/2026 22:21

I call everything I like cute, I didn't realise it could be seen as bitchy!! That's sad. To me it means nice, pretty, lovely, it suits someone, it goes with everything etc - everything positive

LetsGoOutside · 01/03/2026 22:15

I’m trying to understand how you can get engaged and be more focused on a comment then celebrating and being in your engagement bubble. I really am struggling to understand how you can be so focused on a comment made about your ring that you’ve created a mumsnet post. Why does it matter how she meant it? Will you pull her up on it? Will it change your perception on her?

Mistyglade · 01/03/2026 22:08

Sure it’s bitchy, but if she’s a jealous sod who cares, it’s your ring not hers.

Sheeparemyfriends · 01/03/2026 22:05

Engagementringquestion · 01/03/2026 14:12

Would you think it was a bit bitchy? When showing a friend (who is known for giving backhanded compliments) she said "aww cute".

For reference my ring is a platinum 1.5 carat diamond solitaire and everyone else has said how stunning it is. So certainly not a cheap, small ring.

Would you be offended at this comment?

I have a teeny ruby with a couple of tiny diamonds. Mine is cute, don't like huge knuckle duster rings personally as I've small hands. If you must show off, expect daft comments when people don't know what to say

cupfinalchaos · 01/03/2026 22:02

Def bitchy.

Freya1542 · 01/03/2026 22:02

Jamesblonde2 · 01/03/2026 21:58

No it’s not.

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😁not on Garrad level obvs but luxury, no?

Jamesblonde2 · 01/03/2026 21:58

Freya1542 · 01/03/2026 21:38

Is Goldsmiths considered high end?

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No it’s not.

Freya1542 · 01/03/2026 21:38

Jamesblonde2 · 01/03/2026 19:30

Which high end jewellers are selling lab diamonds then?

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Is Goldsmiths considered high end?

Illegally18 · 01/03/2026 21:25

Ferdyandthegingerone · 01/03/2026 15:42

Jealousy is often irrational. One of the most unpleasant women I know has literally everything, on paper. Millions, huge house, family, nice (if drippy) husband. But, she is a prize cunt, unable to be happy for anyone else, about anything. And the “cute” comment is absolutely something she would come out with. It’s sad really, because she is clearly a very unhappy woman.

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I agree, jealousy is often irrational. I could do a Ted talk on it.

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Engagementringquestion · 01/03/2026 21:08

I have not posted a picture of my ring by the way, another poster found the same style and added their own googled pic.

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shuggles · 01/03/2026 20:30

BringBackCatsEyes · 01/03/2026 19:19

If I had 4 tickets for a gig, one for me, one for a friend I know is single and 2 for a colleague who I know has a partner. Done.

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Why would I ask someone to bring their partner to an event?

Greenmouldycheese · 01/03/2026 20:00

What did you expect her to say? Its a ring and its yours. I personally think what the ring represents is more important.

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 01/03/2026 19:54

BIossomtoes · 01/03/2026 19:32

No idea - is your Google broken?

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Loads - DD and I were looking in jewellery shops in November (for her , not me) , high end ones . Pretty much all sold LabGrown

Oops , replied to wrong poster

Hijackyou · 01/03/2026 19:49

I bet @Engagementringquestion asks her to be her Maid of Honour. Then starts multiple threads about how disappointed she is in her Maid of Honour.

I wonder what it’s like when an OP like this doesn’t like a person 😦

BIossomtoes · 01/03/2026 19:32

Jamesblonde2 · 01/03/2026 19:30

Which high end jewellers are selling lab diamonds then?

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No idea - is your Google broken?

Jamesblonde2 · 01/03/2026 19:30

BIossomtoes · 01/03/2026 19:03

So why are lab diamonds a fraction of the cost of a natural diamond?

Because they’re more plentiful and don’t require a complex mining process.

Do high end jewellers sell lab diamonds? If not, why not?

Increasingly, yes because a lot of people don’t want to own something that requires appalling working conditions. Lab diamonds are considered more ethical.

Which high end jewellers are selling lab diamonds then?

ParmaVioletTea · 01/03/2026 19:26

For reference my ring is a platinum 1.5 carat diamond solitaire and everyone else has said how stunning it is. So certainly not a cheap, small ring.

So you wanted her to fall over in awe at your skill in bagging a rich man? Hmmmm, not sure that she’s the bitchy one ….

BringBackCatsEyes · 01/03/2026 19:19

shuggles · 01/03/2026 18:59

@BringBackCatsEyes Do you not take into account whether your friends are in a partnership when going on a night out?

Why is it relevant that people are in a relationship when going on a night out? That doesn't change anything.

The only difference would be if they had a baby at home and they had to leave early, but people tend to verbalise that themselves.

If I had 4 tickets for a gig, one for me, one for a friend I know is single and 2 for a colleague who I know has a partner. Done.

bluegreygreen · 01/03/2026 19:19

Lab diamonds are considered more ethical.

They may be. It would depend where and how they are produced, and I suspect many people buying them haven't looked into that in detail. They are likely simply to have wanted to avoid the ethical concerns about natural diamonds, such as conflict diamonds, rather than considering the source of lab-grown diamonds.

bluegreygreen · 01/03/2026 19:08

BIossomtoes · 01/03/2026 18:49

That depends on the cut.

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Apologies - I should have said fluorescence patterns rather than refraction, as that was unclear.
The growth morphology of the crystals is different, which is why experts can tell the difference between lab and natural diamonds.

GIA info lab vs natural diamonds

BIossomtoes · 01/03/2026 19:03

So why are lab diamonds a fraction of the cost of a natural diamond?

Because they’re more plentiful and don’t require a complex mining process.

Do high end jewellers sell lab diamonds? If not, why not?

Increasingly, yes because a lot of people don’t want to own something that requires appalling working conditions. Lab diamonds are considered more ethical.

NotnowMildrid · 01/03/2026 19:00

BIossomtoes · 01/03/2026 18:49

That depends on the cut.

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It doesn’t. Get your facts straight. Refraction is also identical.

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