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Has anyone ever actually been bullied for having a chavvy name?

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Manfredine · 01/03/2026 13:36

Nothing outlandish or double barreled but a name that nonetheless comes up in all the chav name lists. A lot is made online about names being chavvy but has having such a name ever actually affected anyone irl?

example being Chantelle not princess-Rosie-Leigh

AIBU to think it’s more about the parents and worrying about how they’ll be perceived for choosing a certain name?

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ClaudiaWinklemansFakeTan · 03/03/2026 07:26

Manfredine · 03/03/2026 07:20

So was I! And that’s what I’m asking I’ve never heard of anyone being bullied for having a chavvy but normal name. I mean stuff that’s on the “chav name lists” but is normal like Chantelle. I’m not talking about spelt incorrectly or stupid names

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I think that growing up in a council house as you did and being called something like Araminta, would be extremely tough.

Growing up being called Destiny in a big McMansion is fine. Being called Destiny in a country pile and going to Roedean, probably also fine tbh. I went to university with literal aristocracy and some of their friends had truly ridiculous names, especially the American ones.

The only thing I imagine it could potentially be a disadvantage would be living in a run of the mill neighbourhood but with aspirations. Then, potentially, she could run into the odd bit of snobbery, but also potentially not.

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Manfredine · 03/03/2026 07:20

Isit2026yet · 02/03/2026 23:44

@Manfredine what is a chavvy name? I was bullied for having a posh name. Kids are kids.

So was I! And that’s what I’m asking I’ve never heard of anyone being bullied for having a chavvy but normal name. I mean stuff that’s on the “chav name lists” but is normal like Chantelle. I’m not talking about spelt incorrectly or stupid names

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Manfredine · 03/03/2026 07:17

NewGirlInTown · 02/03/2026 23:07

Nominative determinism is a real thing.
Steer away from anything potentially dodgy; imagine if the child was to become a barrister, would the name fit in with the profession?

Barristers go by their last names

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NewGirlInTown · 03/03/2026 02:19

mathanxiety · 03/03/2026 00:17

I hope that was a tongue in cheek response.

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Thatcannotberight · 03/03/2026 01:52

Destiny was the best Angel in Captain Scarlet. Very young me would have loved to have been named Destiny.

mathanxiety · 03/03/2026 00:17

NewGirlInTown · 02/03/2026 23:07

Nominative determinism is a real thing.
Steer away from anything potentially dodgy; imagine if the child was to become a barrister, would the name fit in with the profession?

I hope that was a tongue in cheek response.

mathanxiety · 03/03/2026 00:16

I agree it's about the self perception of the parents.

You're more likely to find parents who are insecure and a bit up themselves here than out in real life, imo, so opinions on acceptability of names here should be taken with a big dollop of salt.

Isit2026yet · 02/03/2026 23:44

@Manfredine what is a chavvy name? I was bullied for having a posh name. Kids are kids.

mrlistersgelfbride · 02/03/2026 23:14

No, I was bullied for having a posh name but I’m from quite a rough area.

NewGirlInTown · 02/03/2026 23:07

Nominative determinism is a real thing.
Steer away from anything potentially dodgy; imagine if the child was to become a barrister, would the name fit in with the profession?

Fivelegged · 02/03/2026 22:52

Manfredine · 02/03/2026 21:10

I know plenty it’s not mutually exclusive

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Then your misunderstanding of social class is very extensive.

TheRuffleandthePearl · 02/03/2026 22:26

NamingNoNames · 02/03/2026 11:31

My name is upper class not middle class,
I can't think of any 'upper class' names.

@Manfredine , Destiny seems to be the opposite of upper class but also dated.

@OSTMusTisNT , the 'nise' in Denise isn't the same as 'niece'.

In my accent, they do sound the same

TheRuffleandthePearl · 02/03/2026 22:22

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 02/03/2026 09:17

There’s a whole chapter in the book Freakonomics about bias against names. There’s statistical evidence for it. American based though.

Oh yes I’d forgotten about that. Such an interesting book. Must reread.

TheRuffleandthePearl · 02/03/2026 22:20

1000StrawberryLollies · 01/03/2026 22:21

Nobody is suggesting that all peope with names some regard as 'chavvy' are prevented from achieving great things. It's just... why put a minor possible obstacle in your child's way when it can be so easily avoided?

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Yeah this. A few will always bust the stereotype. Doesn’t mean there isn’t still a stereotype associated with the chavvy name though.

Destiny is on the edge of chavvy I’d say. I wouldn’t personally use it.

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Manfredine · 02/03/2026 21:48

Catterbat · 02/03/2026 21:45

Trolltastic 🙄

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I don’t think I know anyone who thinks saying chav is a big deal let alone as bad as the n word.
That’s aside from the fact I haven’t directed it at anyone. Context is everything

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Catterbat · 02/03/2026 21:45

Manfredine · 02/03/2026 21:00

are you an ai bot? How am I the uptight one when you’re getting your panties in a twist over the word chav and saying it’s like saying the n word?

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Trolltastic 🙄

Catterbat · 02/03/2026 21:44

NamingNoNames · 02/03/2026 19:42

@Catterbat , what are you on about?

Working class and chav are not the same.

Calling me ridiculous when it's you banging on about class.
Chavs don't have any class.

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Define ‘chav’ then. I mean, I’ve already provided the dictionary definition which it seems you disagree with, so what’s yours?

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Manfredine · 02/03/2026 21:21

EmeraldShamrock000 · 02/03/2026 21:17

Are you a social climber? New money? That explains the snobbery.

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No lol tell me what I said wrong? I see someone’s gone and made a thread about my thread. I haven’t called anyone a chav. I asked if anyone had had a bad experience with having a name that’s been described as chavvy. Because I’m pregnant and trying to choose a name for my child. Does it really need to be explained 50 times what have I said that’s snobby? Other than the word not directed at anyone

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EmeraldShamrock000 · 02/03/2026 21:17

Manfredine · 02/03/2026 21:10

a lifelong tenancy you don’t get kicked out if you get a better job, did you not know that?

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Are you a social climber? New money? That explains the snobbery.

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Manfredine · 02/03/2026 21:10

Fivelegged · 02/03/2026 21:08

They certainly do. Loads of middle-class people, however, do not.

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I know plenty it’s not mutually exclusive

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Manfredine · 02/03/2026 21:10

EmeraldShamrock000 · 02/03/2026 21:06

Loads of middle class people live in council houses? No they don’t.

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a lifelong tenancy you don’t get kicked out if you get a better job, did you not know that?

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Fivelegged · 02/03/2026 21:08

Manfredine · 02/03/2026 21:05

Loads of people live in council houses

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They certainly do. Loads of middle-class people, however, do not.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 02/03/2026 21:06

Manfredine · 02/03/2026 21:05

Loads of people live in council houses

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Loads of middle class people live in council houses? No they don’t.

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Manfredine · 02/03/2026 21:05

EmeraldShamrock000 · 02/03/2026 21:04

Really? Growing up in a council house? 😆

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Loads of people live in council houses

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EmeraldShamrock000 · 02/03/2026 21:04

Manfredine · 02/03/2026 21:01

I am

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Really? Growing up in a council house? 😆