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Ghosted by successful job applicant

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WWLD · 01/03/2026 12:06

Inspired by the poster who is having difficulties with a house sale, this happened about a year ago, but it still baffles me.

I work in quite a niche, but growing field, and it can be difficult to recruit to. We advertised for a couple of posts, and got a small pool of applicants. One of the people we appointed had experience in an adjacent field, and said he was keen to transfer. He went through all the necessary checks, filled in forms with banking details etc, was sent all the details (start time, etc), and seemed really keen in all correspondence, but just didn't show up. We tried contacting him, and then his NOK, but had no response.

We obviously moved on, and readvertised, filling the post with a great person. I'm a believer in "what's meant to happen, does", but I'm baffled over why someone would do that. If there was an emergency or something, there's been plenty of time since, to explain.

Anyone got any ideas??

OP posts:
Clementine12 · 01/03/2026 12:32

Have you tried googling him? If there had been something bad happened, it might have been reported. Or, more likely, if he got a better offer he may show in their website.

catipuss · 01/03/2026 12:23

Got a better offer and didn't want to explain.

CinnamonBuns67 · 01/03/2026 12:20

Would have been nice if he'd have declined the offer instead of ignoring but prospective employers do it to applicants all the time so perhaps he thought that it was the done thing? I'd just move on and assume he got a better job offer elsewhere

mynameiscalypso · 01/03/2026 12:18

I imagine he accepted another job and could be bothered to inform you. My boss rang a new starter a few weeks ago on the afternoon before she was due to start and she told him that she wasn’t going to be turning up. Up until then, she’d been actively involved in the onboarding process. If he hadn’t rung, I’m not sure she would have bothered.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 01/03/2026 12:12

To be honest I wouldn’t give it much thought. He’s dropped out, he has his reasons. Lots of people are flaky.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 01/03/2026 12:11

ValidPistachio · 01/03/2026 12:07

Who knows? Makes a change from employers endlessly ghosting job applicants.

I’ve actually been lucky in getting rejections from employers. I am going for jobs I’m over experienced and qualified for though.

owlpassport · 01/03/2026 12:10

If there was an emergency or something, there's been plenty of time since, to explain.

If he had a very serious emergency (e.g. unexpected life-threatening diagnosis) then informing a company he didn't yet work for probably wouldn't have been top of the priority list.

Or he's a flake. Have you checked online to see if he's been active on LinkedIn etc?

Asparagusesest · 01/03/2026 12:10

Who knows - it’s usually total radio silence from employers, not vice versa. Maybe they dropped dead. Maybe they got a better offer and felt too embarrassed to tell you. Maybe they had a bang on the head causing short term amnesia. Maybe there was a miscommunication.

MAYBE THEY NEVER EXISTED AT ALL (woooooooo, spooky!)

VickyEadieofThigh · 01/03/2026 12:07

You're obviously NBU. Some people are just flaky.

ValidPistachio · 01/03/2026 12:07

Who knows? Makes a change from employers endlessly ghosting job applicants.