Is my morning routine too rigid?

I tend to do any slobbing in bed and once I'm up, I'm up and crack on with stuff that needs doing. I've been away with friends who get up then sit straight back down onto the sofa to chill again. I dont mind and they dont mind if I'm pottering doing stuff either.

do you not have a cat flap?

You cat is locked out of the house all night? In all weathers? No access to get back into the house? Where does it sleep?

I always clean down surfaces while the kettle is boiling first thing , we have a cat and who knows if he's jumped up.

I'm another who thinks that you should be able to do what you want in your own home. All these folk saying it's 'rude' whilst you have a guest?! Would it still be rude if you had a guest for 2 weeks? When would it all get done then?

Personally, I'm a person who cleans the kitchen after dinner & that's it done. DH empties the dishwasher as soon as he's up whilst making coffee, though, & would also do this whatever guests there might be.

If it was an overnight guest I would wait to put on a washing, but if they were going to be around all day I would need to crack on (uniforms/ DH work gear needs done of a weekend morning).

Saying all that, neither of us would be up at 6am at weekends! I'm a long lier, but the time shouldn't matter.

I never understand people saying they 'Don't have time for housework', for me it's a constant thing where we all clean up after ourselves (teens here) & do little & often like your things in the morning. It's just whether it's a priority to some (perfectly OK if it's not)-it's not to your friend, but she shouldn't be critiquing you.

I bleach the toilets maybe once a fortnight. I've never used bleach on my worktops.

Never had food poisoning, rarely ill at all.

I have friends who are neurotic cleaners and they always have some bug or other.

Chill out with the bleach and the daily washing, it's all very bad for the environment.

Fair play to you, I wish I was as organised.
Your friend is in the wrong.

I don't think you need to use so much bleach all the time. If you live alone I can't imagine how you could generate enough dishes or laundry or mess to need to do that stuff each day. But it's your house and it's fine to do what makes you comfortable.

Your friend didn't ask you to give her advice on how she could do her chores more easily. She just wanted you to sit down and relax. So there was no need for your comment. She clearly doesn't care as much about obsessive cleanliness as you do.

That’s almost identical to my routing but I have 4 kids and work so it has to be done, day off and friend staying, I don’t know, and the two of ye snapping and judging each other means neither of you are relaxed and maybe you both need a deep breath!!

Of course you clean your kitchen daily, but surely a) in the evening after you've used it and b) not with bleach!

Why would you want the smell of bleach in an area where you make food? I wouldn't say anything but I would find it pretty off putting if I were about to eat.

Personally I only put a wash on and take the rubbish out when needed and bleach toilet on occasion and have never bleached the kitchen in my life, but you do you, I might raise an eyebrow but I wouldn't say anything

I do similar, but cat has a cat flap, I have a hot water dispenser, I use anti bac wipes not bleach, because I decided to have shiny, very shiny worktops and bleach makes them smeary. I find I can get a lot done in the first 20 minutes of the day.
I would have jokingly told friend that I like clean and tidy.

Have you thought about a catflap?

I don't think it's good to shut cats out at night. Not only is it cold, but they could be attacked by foxes. I appreciate that is unlikely but it happened to a neighbour who lives on the edge of some fields. Their neighbour saw the attack at night.

Saying that, I have 6 cats and have a couple of them on my ring camera just chilling with a visiting fox...

Exactly this. Doesn't matter what ops routine is. Nobody needs to know why she takes rubbish out or bleaches stuff every day, it suits her. And no I don't do that stuff every day or very often at all. I do not expect to be judged and neither should op.
Lazy friend sounds a bit embarrassed to be honest and op was right to snap.

You’re not unreasonable to have whatever routine works for you but you’re unreasonable to be judgmental about how she chooses to spend her mornings - not everyone bleaches their toilets and surfaces and airs out their entire house at 6am on a Sunday in Winter!

Completely agree. I clean our bathroom and kitchen every day.

Doesn’t take long to push the hoover over the house either. I do it all before I start work.

I always take rubbish out daily ,evening job after clearing dinner away.

OP you do whatever you like in your own home but I think it was really rude to snap at your guest /friend.

Your friend is rude. The social convention is that when you go to stay with someone, you fall in with their routine in so far as you are able to.

Your routine sounds the same as mine although I get up a bit later. I’d never loaf about until it’s all done. Just my preference. Can’t stand being disorganised

Your cat is locked out all night?

Any routine is fine if it works for you.

But I would have taken a break from that routine if I had guests.

If you can't ever divert from the routine then that is potentially a problem.

Your friend probably shouldn't have commented though. That's a bit rude. Are you like this throughout the day as well? Are there other periods of routine that you absolutely have to do?

I like the sound of your routine.

I have a chronic illness that makes me exhausted very quickly. So I have to turbo charge my activities when I have energy- usually the morning.

Think I’d have told her “my house, I’ll do what I want, if you don’t like it, pack up and go home”.