To think that real life sex isn’t like TV?

I was called a slut on MN and told that they had names for girls like me at school. Yep! Happy girls.

I have been called a man multiple times on Mumsnet and seen other women called the same countless times. All you have to do is show understanding to a man on a topic an OP has made about sex, or, admit that you might be into something that’s not missionary and you are bombarded with claims of ‘man’!

The only time I've had this is when I feel really sexy and appreciated by the other person. To feel really REALLY wanted in bed is the biggest turn on. It has be reciprocated as well. Chemistry is so important and yet, in my experience, rare.

I have been called a man multiple times on Mumsnet and seen other women called the same countless times. All you have to do is show understanding to a man on a topic an OP has made about sex, or, admit that you might be into something that’s not missionary and you are bombarded with claims of ‘man’!

Poor kid.

After re-watching Bridgerton, am I wrong I thinking people aren’t having this kind of earth-shattering sexy time (I’m looking at you Duke of Hastings…) in real life?! Or have I just been missing out…

With enough build up and foreplay, yes, you can have screaming orgasms. Less likely to happen IRL with a TV crew unless that's your fetish and really unlikely to happen on first go, when losing your virginity. There's a reason why people talk about kissing, petting, 'getting to second base' etc. You need time to get comfortable with it (boys and girls).

Best sex I've ever had involved feeling relaxed, sexy, confident with a partner who looked like he'd won the lottery when I took my coat off.

Worst sex was with the same partner and being interrupted by DD hammering on the door and shouting "I can hear you!" A cold bucket of water would've been more welcome.

TV sex is unrealistic, you never see them getting hip cramp or doing the post sex cup and waddle.

Real sex is what you make it.

After 3 hours in the bath pleasuring "him", then overnight into day when sore down there, nipples cracked, sleep deprived, mouth dry, limbs aching - no it's not mind blowing after enduring 20 years of it at least weekly. The odd time maybe initially but after that you must be joking, it's torture.

Also, in the latest series, when Benedict asked Sophie to turn around in the bath did anyone else think he was going to suggest anal (as a way of avoiding pregnancy)? I'm glad he didn't!

I always feel like a voyeur watching the Bridgerton sec scenes as it is.

Get labelled a man? Really? There is negativity certainly

I agree with this. In threads about a woman going off sex and not wanting it (due to menopause or other reasons) everyone is super supportive and tells them its fine and normal.

But, in threads when a woman says she wants more sex or dares to have sex more than twice a month there is a kind of weird defensive vibe that implies she's some kind of weird sex maniac, and you get lots of replies like "I couldn't imagine anything worse than sex every day" or "life is about more than sex you know" - the replies often have a judgy undertone.

I’m all for bawdy humour but I do find it really weird that so many women on Mumsnet seem to think that actually liking sex, or finding men’s bodies attractive, or being turned on by anything at all other than their partner doing their share of the housework, just isn’t for naice women.

So, so many women on here have the weirdest attitude to sex and talk about it like some sort of gift they reluctantly bestow on their partner because ‘men have needs’, as if no woman could possibly actually have needs of her own. It’s bizarre. People seem to get actively offended by a man they’re dating appearing to hint at sex early on, as if it’s weird and perverted to actually fancy someone you’ve actively decided to date.

So it’s not the bawdy humour I object to at all, but more all the ‘rather have a cup of tea / ewww penises, gross / it’s just a load of grunting and puffing / yuk it’s all too messy for me / he’s a disgusting sex pest if he suggests stopping co-sleeping with a toddler in order to regain an adult relationship with his wife’ kind of thing that I find depressing.

It’s as if half of Mumsnet is horrified at the idea that women might just enjoy sex for its own sake.

I could not agree more. You get labelled a man on Mumsnet if you dare to go against the grain and explain how you love sex, allll different kinds of sex and you don't find it a chore that you can only pencil in for 5 minutes when the planets align.

The worst thing about most British women (and yes, I am one) which makes me cringe...

..is how quickly they have to descend to bawdy humour when talking about sex.

We can't just say we enjoy proper, slow, mindblowing passion.

Well I do, but I find if I ever dared try and talk about that to British females, they would cringe and instead want to talk about

• My DH farts when he cums
• We nearly knocked off the vase because I couldn't turn quickly enough
• Who has time for all that huffing and puffing? a quickie does me fine thanks
• Kids always interrupting so can't be bothered any more

Etc etc..

It's like a competitive "we don't have sex really, who wants THAT" kind of thread, every single time on here.

Or if they are having sex, they immediately point out all their DH's lumps, flaws or whatever, just in case anyone thinks they're being properly fucked in a really passionate, desired way!

I don't get it.

Why does everything have to be seaside postcard, Benny Hill level when it comes to sex??!

What do you mean by no real contact?

Lesbian here. Sex can go on for hours sometimes when there's the time and inclination and include passionate fucking. It's not, as depicted often on TV, a breathy sighing thing with no real contact.

Lesbian here. Sex can go on for hours sometimes when there's the time and inclination and include passionate fucking. It's not, as depicted often on TV, a breathy sighing thing with no real contact.