To think that real life sex isn’t like TV?

See your post is very negative despite your last line. No-one here is pressuring anyone else to do anything, just asking not to be judged or made to feel weird. Live and let live.

Well said.

Nope - I’m older than most on here, and I still love sex. 👍. Always have.

On HRT, and have been for decades, for medical reasons, . No dryness, no loss of anything.

My distance partner and I have just spent 3 days together, and it’s been full on 😉

No faking from me.

Maybe the 50s were somewhat toned down from what happened before. But just because things were discussed less did not mean they didn’t happen. It was a case of passion, discretion and privacy.

You only have to look at the French Court in the 1600s, where there was a proliferation of breasts. All sorts of sex was very much on the menu.

I know it's not a new invention, and I've got nothing against oral sex. It's just that in the context of the upper classes (and not only them) in the 1950s, oral sex would not have been something respectable women were supposed to do. The Queen may of course have been into taboo-breaking behind closed doors, who knows, but it doesn't really fit what her character seems to have been then.

That scene would have made much more sense between Margaret & Tony.

But depicted in stonework carvings in Ancient Greece and Ancient Rome. It was also sex that guaranteed non pregnancy.

Oral sex for him and her is not a new invention.

Obviously no one knows 100% 🤣, but I'm the historical context it's really unlikely. Blowjobs were not something respectable upper-class women were typically supposed to do in the 1950s. Not long before, it was rumoured that one of the scandalous forbidden things Wallis Simpson would do sexually was oral sex. The 60s & 70s brought a sea change but the period before was very different.

Well, I don’t suppose they were ever going to have the woman lying there and looking at the ceiling with a thought ‘bubble’ saying, ‘FGS just get on with it - I left the washing in the machine and I need to get it out.’

That scene in the Crown with the Queen offering Philip a blow job was really inaccurate

How the hell do you know?

I’m going to be hinest and say yes…I do have that sort of intense, passionate sex with my partner, and also the gentle loving close kind. Obviously a bit more noisy and with the odd escaping of gas, so not as ‘perfect’ but pretty close. It’s the first time its been like that, and the first time I’ve been with someone who doesn’t come too quickly or last too long. We’re well matched in what we like, libido wise and totally comfortable with each other. After quite a few years we also still fancy the pants off one another. I do feel very, very lucky.

Edited to add…I had a long marriage before this where the sex was often so bad it regularly made me depressed. So I do feel like maybe I’m just due the luck.

What I really like about bridgerton is how realistic the sex is? I feel like womens pleasure is so often overlooked, I appreciate how often they show women being actively pleasured rather than just orgasming during penetration. I liked the awkwardness for francesca showing her struggling to orgasm.

DP and I absolutely had sex like the Duke and dafne before kids.

Ugh - I hate sex scenes on TV - makes me curl my toes.

It isn’t degrading. It’s a fantasy of being degraded. It’s pretending, ffs. It’s not remotely the same thing. Just like being handcuffed and having your arse smacked for fun isn’t remotely the same as being imprisoned and beaten.

Even if it was degrading, if that’s what someone enjoys, it’s got absolutely nothing to do with you and it certainly doesn’t mean they’re being forced or pressured into and they have absolutely nothing to be ashamed of.

And as with anal sex, women who like it are not the ones putting pressure on anyone to do it. Nobody who likes anal is doing it to set an example to others. I’m not a fan of it, myself, so I simply don’t do it. At no point have I thought ‘Well, someone on Mumsnet alluded to enjoying it so I’d better give it a go’, because I’m a grown woman with agency.

Yes, anal sex can cause injury if you’re not careful. Nothing compared to the injuries women get from childbirth, though, is it? Yet I don’t see anyone claiming it’s irresponsible to have kids in case other women feel pressured to have a baby and end up with a perineum ripped open like a crisp packet.

Those are all ridiculous! 🤣 I wonder if a lot of 'man' accusations are just people who want to start a bunfight.

Thank you... It's all very well for pps to say that sex has no bearing on real life outside the bedroom, nothing is humiliating but it'd more complex than that. Oral sex used to be taboo (that scene in the Crown with the Queen offering Philip a blow job was really inaccurate). That changed in the 60s. Now it's thus much harder for women who don't like oral to find a sexually compatible partner, and it doesn't help that

I think it's good both kinds of oral are non-taboo now for straight couples, overall. I'm less sure about anal. It shouldn't be taboo but I also don't think it should be a regular thing most men expect from their partners.

Surely the Bridgerton ladies were virgins?

has anyone ever enjoyed their first time like that?

Oh this was about rimming?

That's odd, it's not an act that's recently been in the news due to women being pressured or hurt.
Otoh, it's unsurprising some people might be grossed out by the thought of putting their tongue near someone's arse. That's no excuse for name-calling people who do like it though, it's not like you were saying everyone should do it etc

This.

It's all very well to say :
'It’s not something neat and tidy where we need to behave as we do in normal daily life.
It’s a time to shut the door on the world, put normal daily behaviour aside and just enjoy yourself.' and 'Nothing is degrading if we want it.' But it's not that simple.

Is 'nothing is degrading if we want it really the case'? What if someone has a kink for being humiliated or treated badly? Is that necessarily 'not degrading' because 'they want it'?

It's fair to say that men are on average probably more likely to enjoy anal due to the prostate. But definitely women can like it too.
Some women liking anal definitely shouldn't be used to pressure women who don't want it, and I don't think it should be seen as a standard thing in the way, say, oral is, because I do think women are generally less likely to like it and it can also be dangerous if not done safely.
But neither should women who do like anal be shamed.

You don’t want that murky bath water up your bum.

I was a bit worried he was going to put it up her bum in the bath but no! He was a true gentleman 😂😂. He’s just absolutely delicious.

😂😂😂

I think we may have been! Mention rimming and they want to lynch you! 🤣

Not seen this series but of course film sex is deliberately created to be smouldering, lustful, purely driven by desire! As for the common scenes of getting too carried away and immediately humping against a wall, straight into intercourse and it's explosive lol 😆

We're fortunate if we have experienced the young thoes of passion, which can be very similar. Rip clothes off type, brilliant, longing to be together again, snogging to death, taking your time etc.

It's unrealistic that this continues throughout a long relationship though great if it does. Xxx

Me too, the shot where he takes off his dressing gown and unties his underwear and gets in the bath, lovely bottom.