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Dh only asking Dd if she wants to go out and other annoying things

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Hopeshenevergrowsoutofbluey · 01/03/2026 09:41

Just checking if it’s me or would this piss you off

At weekends, Dd wakes around 6.30/7 and heads downstairs, Dh is also an early riser, I sleep in sometimes until 8.30 ish. Dd is fine downstairs alone and enjoys being independent
Dh often complains he doesn’t get a lie in, when he can if he wants to but can’t lie in easily or sometimes will spend the afternoon sleeping.
I often come downstairs in the morning and he’s gone out leaving Dd, like just now.
Then he strolls in asking Dd if she wants to go somewhere today-nature place etc, not including/asking me, does anyone else find this odd? Even today Dd said ‘Mummy would like to go somewhere today’
Surely you make a decision as a family about plans etc and do things as a family?

OP posts:
Hopeshenevergrowsoutofbluey · 01/03/2026 09:48

Invisablepanic · 01/03/2026 09:47

Would having a chat on a Friday about a schedule for the weekend work? Is it just a communication stumble or do you feel he is deliberately excluding you and looking for arguments?

I don’t think he’s deliberately looking for arguments, but feel a bit shit that he seems to just want to go out with Dd and i’m left at home

OP posts:
Hopeshenevergrowsoutofbluey · 01/03/2026 09:47

HortiGal · 01/03/2026 09:44

What age is DD? have you spoke to him at all? I’m always a bit confused by couples when there is a glaring issue but don’t communicate.

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OP posts:
Invisablepanic · 01/03/2026 09:47

Would having a chat on a Friday about a schedule for the weekend work? Is it just a communication stumble or do you feel he is deliberately excluding you and looking for arguments?

HortiGal · 01/03/2026 09:44

What age is DD? have you spoke to him at all? I’m always a bit confused by couples when there is a glaring issue but don’t communicate.

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