Dh only asking Dd if she wants to go out and other annoying things

It's not that awful for your DD to be aware that sometimes adults voice disagreement to one another, and discuss things. What's so awkward?
I'm not saying have a row in front of her but a rare conversation in which you pull DH up on something isn't so bad surely?

I'm sure your DD age 7 would know better than to approach two of her mates and only invite of of them to play, right in front of the other.

Just speak up. If you want to go just say "good idea DH, I'm up for that" and act like of course you are included.
If you don't either leave them to it or say "I'd like to do something with you both this afternoon but I don't fancy X, how about Y?".
Edited - third option is you don't fancy it but tag along anyway because they do and you want to hang out with them.

So you blanked each other.

There is no reason why you couldn't have talked about it in front of your DD. In fact it would be good for her to hear normal, healthy conversations about family life.

What should have happened is you say something like, 'Sorry we didn't tell you, I was going to have a word this morning but DD and I thought it would be nice for us all to go to X today. If you'd rather we do something else, that's ok, we can decide which we prefer. I notice you spoke directly to DD when you came in and you didn't run it past me, so I'd appreciate it if we could chat this through now and decide what we're doing. Shall I put the kettle on?

Instead you're sulking and posting on mn about it.

And maybe add how you feel being left out

Posters are having to drag this information out of you OP and you have still missed out the crucial bit...

We had-as a family, then he walked in and asked Dd if he and her wanted to go to X place today

I didn’t stay quiet, Dd said ‘Mummy said we could go to X’ and he said he didn’t know and I said to him that he just came in and asked just Dd to go somewhere with him

He said he didn’t realise we were going to X place

... and then what happened?

That can't have been the end of the conversation.

That’s brilliant. Well done. It’s all too easy to fall into a routine in any relationship, being part of said routine while resenting it.

If he’s deliberately excluding you you need to find out why and then decide what you want to do about it

I think people are over complicating the situation. Of course it's rude to approach you both and only invite one of you out, without any sort of apology or explanation.

Could you seize the moment while DD is happily playing with her friend and suggest to DH that next Sunday, all three of you go to place X? (The place that you and DD had discussed earlier today when DH was out)?

So, what happened?

I suggest you need to learn how to communicate with your husband, you say when you asked dd to do something you “assumed “ it would include him and as part of a family because you “both have a poor communication style “ perhaps he is doing the same. Can i suggest kindly you both sit down Without dd and actually talk about both you “poor” communication styles. However this will need to be done carefully and without accusations as i don’t think you can see that you are “EQUALLY” as bad as him at communicating. So don’t make this a he is to blame/im better at communicating problem. It is a problem in your marriage approach it as a “Team” focus on how you can “both” improve together as a married couple

So what did you say to him??

That sounds more like upbringing maybe one of you needs a specific invite and the other that if you want to go you just go but as you havent been just going you dont want to go....how can you have not talked about this from day one? My family dont invite we just pop around or if its an outing say sounds great can i join you. My husbands are dont come around unless invited, i never think about inviting family they should know they are welcome.

To me it seems like a dig at you for staying in bed...he is assuming as you aren't up early you aren't interested in being up and out.

But I agree it's down to communication..maybe he thinks taking DD out on his own is what you would like. There are usually many posts on here about useless men and mums not getting a break so it's nice to see that he is wanting to spend time alone with his child.

Surely you can discuss this without it being an argument DD shouldn’t hear?

You just say, “yeah that sounds fun, I will come too.”

You mentioned the idea of bringing the dog out and having a picnic to your dd. Was your dh aware of this plan before he came in and asked her if she wanted to go to some nature place?

Why are you so sure that he wasn't including you?

I agree with other posters, based on your posts here and your response to your dh when he asked your dd about going out somewhere, you are very poor at communicating. This will cause tension and frustration which your dd will pick up on.

I couldn't agree more the pp is a very poor communicator indeed.

All she keeps doing is repeating the same thing over and over again.

Honestly, based on your comments on this thread, you are a very poor communicator. I imagine dealing with that on an ongoing basis is quite irritating.

Just speak to your husband. Have an actual conversation. You say he does this all the time, so not wanting to speak in front of your daughter doesn’t explain why you haven’t already had this conversation.

I’d half jokingly say “am I invited too?” or just talk to him about it when dd isn’t around op, you need to communicate how it’s making you feel. Are you sure he doesn’t think he’s giving you some time to yourself while he takes dd out somewhere?

What was his response to Dd when she said “ mommy would like to go somewhere too “ ?