So been with DH for 12 plus years. When entertaining DH’s family have always made lots of effort, spent a fortune catering etc.
In the past when entertaining DH’s family either pull out on the day, have to be chased for a response. Even made me switch the days only to tell me a day before they had plans after I had made everyone change their plans. Then one Mother’s Day, I decided to host for both sets of family, I made a ridiculous amount of effort and gave plenty of notice and no one on DH’s side confirmed until just before. It appeared at the time they were waiting for a better offer.
Things like Christmas etc, they will offer to entertain a few weeks before hand which by then we have already made plans, ordered food etc.
Every year, I always invite MIL round on Mother’s Day as I entertain my side plus brother’s family and MIL. Every year she declines.
Last year, SIL and BIL who leave even talking about Mother’s day until the week before decided that they should spend Mother’s Day all together, DH included. DH said no as we already had plans which MIL was invited to. A joke was made stay why was he spending it with me as I’m not his mum (we have kids together). DH done something with MIL day before.
This year, same as above, MIL was invited, said would let me know. Now SIL has booked a table, ages away from us, for her, MIL, DH, BIL, his wife and their kids. Table booking would mean husband is out of the house for 12-4. I feel incredibly hurt. DH has declined the offer. Little side note, DH did say to SIL they could all do something together day before which was declined as she had plans, also said he wouldn’t take our kids (hence why they weren’t included). Extra points, I have very serious food allergies which aren’t taken serious by his side hence why we always entertain at home. We probably see MIL once a month and I generally get on well with everyone.
I’m not sure if I’m being overly sensitive