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I’ve just completely lost it with my daughter

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imsoverytired82 · 28/02/2026 23:44

I’ve just completely lost it with my 11 year old daughter

I’ve been so stressed this week. I’ve got issues at work and I haven’t slept

my daughter has been nagging all week about her world book day outfit. She’s asked so many times despite me telling her I’d ordered it. It arrived today and she’s still asking for more for it even though I’d said to her I can’t afford any more. Now she’s onto football boots (she’s had 1 session) and keeps asking. She is autistic so deep down I know she can’t help it. once she gets what she wants she’s onto the next thing.

its 11 and I finally got into bed and went into a deep sleep.My first in ages. She’s shouting my name lying in bed saying I need to take her to buy boots.

i wake up startled and go mad at her an drag her out of bed. Say some really horrible things to her. Scream at her. I’m so so sick of her just constantly not being satisfied until she’s getting something. It’s almost that she doesn’t care what it is as long as she’s getting something.

im so sick because she doesn’t care about anything other than ‘getting’.

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TakeALookAtTheseSwatches · 28/02/2026 23:49

Also I'd shut it down instantly when she asks, even if this ends up with her being in a strop or whatever. Then have consequences for any repeated demands. This is obviously taking a massive toll on you.

imsoverytired82 · 28/02/2026 23:49

If it’s not world book day outfit, then she’s moved onto boots, we will literally get out a shop and she’s onto something else. I say no but she nags and nags and nags.

I’ve been on the toilet with Ibs before and she’s asking for something on Amazon through the door.

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TakeALookAtTheseSwatches · 28/02/2026 23:48

I can't say I blame you, being shouted at while you're asleep to buy some football boots is absolutely terrible behaviour and I'd be furious. Your reaction wasn't ideal of course but you're only human, sometimes I think kids need to see that.

imsoverytired82 · 28/02/2026 23:47

nomas · 28/02/2026 23:47

Sorry to hear this. Does she have an autism diagnosis? Are you able to get any support from your GP?

Yes she does. It’s all official. GP not interested as she’s at school.

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imsoverytired82 · 28/02/2026 23:47

I know I’m being unreasonable. Nobody wants to help because they can’t see anything. I dread spending time with her because it feels like all she wants is for me to spend money on her. It doesn’t matter what it is unless it’s just ‘stuff’ she has no care for me or anyone else

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nomas · 28/02/2026 23:47

Sorry to hear this. Does she have an autism diagnosis? Are you able to get any support from your GP?