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DS’s 14yo gf has just came over in tears

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JoiningInn · 28/02/2026 22:40

My ds is 14, he has a 14yo gf. The way they met is quite bizzare according to ds they met at the park but the story he told was a bit odd and I have a feeling he's lying but then why would he lie? I planned on asking gf for her side but haven't got round to it yet

They've been together for a few months and it's quite intense and I don't know if it's more than first love at this point. DS has social anxiety (also another reason I don't believe he just met someone at the park, if anything he would avoid her) and not many friends. Also tourettes which is made worse by anxiety and unfamiliar places/people

Her mum doesn't like ds, he went over one day for dinner and came back upset as she had belittled him for his tics and called him rude and an attention seeker. She did know about the tics beforehand and that's the only time she has met him

His gf also doesn't have a good relationship with her mum, she always tells ds she favours her sibling and hates her

I've not left a lot out as I don't want an essay that no one reads but she's just come over to ds in tears about half an hour ago, she told ds her mum had hit her (apparently she used to hit her when she was a child too) and told her to leave

I don't know what to do. I have no contact info for her mum. I don't know her last name, social services likely won't do anything this time of night. Police? But what would I say? I don't know what to do. Arghhh teens

OP posts:
Theonlywayicanloveyou · 28/02/2026 22:44

Is GF’s dad on the scene? Are they together? I would start there. Will she give you his number?

Tableforjoan · 28/02/2026 22:44

Are you willing to let her stay over? Report to non emergency police and social. Also email her school providing you know it to make them aware of issues at home.

Your son should know her last name surely?

Lighterandbrighter · 28/02/2026 22:43

Just give her some food and a drink and set her up on the sofa and deal with it in the morning when everyone has had a sleep.

CrocusesFlowering · 28/02/2026 22:42

Will the child give you her mother’s phone number?

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