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To stay in bed when DP gets up with his child?

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probablynoted · 28/02/2026 19:54

DP and I have lived together for 2 years, he has a son aged 5. There is constant tension because I don’t wake up on the weekends he’s here when he gets up (around 6am).

He is with us Monday, Friday, Saturday and Sunday every week.

DP has made comments saying “I’ve been lonely” when I’ve woken up around 8:30/9 and joined them in the living room. Weekdays I usually am up anyway because of work.

DP has said that going forward he wants us to be a “family” which involves me waking up and having breakfast together. He also expects me to look after his son if he’s going on a night out. For example, he’s told me next Saturday he’s out with friends. I’ve said I’m not able to look after his son, so he’s asked his mum (DPs mum).

Hes said that if we have a baby he’ll enjoy all the lie ins in getting.

aibu to not wake up with him and his little boy?

OP posts:
TheGoodEnoughWife · 28/02/2026 20:04

You have posted this before. He is awful and will treat you badly if you have a child with him.

Summerunlover · 28/02/2026 20:03

His ex probably did all the wake ups. And he doesn’t like it now as he actually has to parent. I would not have a child with him z

Bristolandlazy · 28/02/2026 20:03

Ha ha ha, yeah right, jog on, he wouldn't be getting up if it was vice versa. You're already doing plenty, no point you getting up too.

Iloveshihtzus · 28/02/2026 20:03

ReadingCrimeFiction · 28/02/2026 20:00

You've posted about this before?

Ridiciulous that he wants you up all the time. Does he think you'll be doing it ALL when you have a baby?

I do think that if you're together and your DSS is with you this often, SOME aceptabce that you are are a parent figure would be appropriate.

OP, you got great advice on your last thread - ie, leave this man. There is no point doing nothing and reposting the same issue every few weeks.

ThiagoJones · 28/02/2026 20:02

I remember your previous thread. Nothing has changed since then, then?
I’ll say the same now as I said then, I wouldn’t be having a baby with this man.

Duckyfondant · 28/02/2026 20:02

ReadingCrimeFiction · 28/02/2026 20:00

You've posted about this before?

Ridiciulous that he wants you up all the time. Does he think you'll be doing it ALL when you have a baby?

I do think that if you're together and your DSS is with you this often, SOME aceptabce that you are are a parent figure would be appropriate.

Yea they have. It's that line about lie ins when they have their own baby that's too stupid to have come up twice.

myglowupera · 28/02/2026 20:01

UniquePinkSwan · 28/02/2026 20:00

Ffs

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I think that other poster has described him perfectly.

marcyhermit · 28/02/2026 20:00

Definitely don't have a baby, he wants to trap you into taking over all the childcare - and probably housework too.

frockandcrocs · 28/02/2026 20:00

He is literally waving a bright red flag right in your face. For goodness sake, do not bring a child into this relationship.

UniquePinkSwan · 28/02/2026 20:00

Takersgonnatake · 28/02/2026 19:58

What a nasty and manipulative creature he is.

Ffs

ReadingCrimeFiction · 28/02/2026 20:00

You've posted about this before?

Ridiciulous that he wants you up all the time. Does he think you'll be doing it ALL when you have a baby?

I do think that if you're together and your DSS is with you this often, SOME aceptabce that you are are a parent figure would be appropriate.

bitterexwife · 28/02/2026 20:00

If you have a bay together, you share the early mornings. You currently don’t, so you don’t have to get up at 6am when not up for work.

firstofallimadelight · 28/02/2026 19:59

He wants you to parent his child. He thinks you are taking the piss by not co parenting and intends to seek revenge by leaving you to do all the early mornings.

Takersgonnatake · 28/02/2026 19:58

What a nasty and manipulative creature he is.

TheOpalReader · 28/02/2026 19:58

Not a chance I'd be doing that. But having been in a similar situation I'd never start a relationship with a man with a small child especially if you're child free.

And I certainly wouldn't be planning on having a child with him

ChristmasChroniclesBookFairie · 28/02/2026 19:56

I think it would be a massive mistake to have a baby with this man.

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