To stay in bed when DP gets up with his child?

Yes, i remember this post

YABU expecting the relationship to last OP. I'm without doubt older than you and I can tell you now this neediness on his part will drive you away eventually. Been there, done that, got the t-shirt. Never again.

He is with them half the week. She's still a mother figure even if not his biological mum. She cant just shrug him off.

I'm a mum to both my sons and I never got up early on a weekend, dh did the early mornings.

Being a mum doesn't mean never having a lie-in.

She’s not the little boy’s mum, he already has a mum.

I didn't have dc with my exh because in time I saw he was a crap df.. And eventually a crap dh too!!
Make sure your contraception is spot on and reavalute your relationship..

He thought you'd be his free childcare. Leave.

I get up at 6.30 am every Saturday and Sunday because DC2 and I are early risers and once he’s awake, he’s awake. I do not expect DP to get up and join us eating toast and watching Peppa Pig in our pyjamas, no point in both of us losing sleep for nothing. Your DP is being massively unreasonable considering he’s not even your child. As soon as you have a child together he won’t get up at all, it will be all on you.

Sounds like you dont want to be a mum to this little boy. Perhaps dating a man with kids was the wrong choice on your part.

Choose to stay with him and have a shit life and be miserable. Or choose to have a happy life and leave.

You would need to be brain dead to have a child with this man.
He is trying to push his parental responsibilities for his child onto you. What chance do you think you've got of him stepping up with one you share with him?

1000000% this my lovely…..my DSD was 9 when I met my DH and she stayed eow ….she woke up about 7 ish and he would get up without disturbing me and spend a couple of hours with her and I would join them a couple of hours later…..if he had DARED try and guilt trip me I honestly would have called it a day with him….. but he understood what parenting entailed and nearly 20 years later we are still together and very happy and I have a wonderful relationship with my nearly 30 year old DSD….think very very carefully about this man….x

Have you had a specific discussion about what your role is in relation to his son? It sounds like your expectations don't align.

Years ago, a friend of mine (who was in her 20s, same as me) started seeing a guy who had a little boy. I remember her telling me she'd been ironing the boy's clothes and making his dinner etc and it made me very confused. Wtf was his dad doing? Even now, I'd think that being with someone who has a child from another relationship doesn't automatically put you in the role of parent, unless there has been some explicit agreement.

You've posted about this before haven't you? Your purpose in the relationship is to take over childcare so he can avoid paying child maintenence. You'd be mad to have a baby with him.

Don’t have a baby with this waster. He’ll use it as way to punish you via sleep deprivation. Needy child

He shares the early mornings with his child’s mother who he does roughly 5050 with

you will share early mornings with your child’s father if you have one5050 too, tell him that

I would babysit if he asked nicely, went out after bedtime and I didn’t have my own plans tho

Assume you’re the same poster as a few weeks ago. Same advice as then, don’t have a baby with this man, and tell him to jog on re getting up at 6am on the weekend. Double up on contraception as his plan is once you have a baby with him, he’ll have you waking with both kids and he will be off out leaving both kids with you. Don’t do it.

You're living with a man who wants a bangmaidnanny.

No, you're not unreasonable, but he is.

Don't have kids with him, he doesn't want to parent.

Do not have a baby with this man. He thinks having a baby will mean he gets lie ins?? What if the baby is
a good sleeper? What if you are up all night with the baby?

i’d also say that 6am is an unacceptable time to
wake up at 5 years old. We bought our son a bunny alarm clock and said can’t get up before bunny is awake (around 7:30am). 7.30am was the weekday wake up time so hard to push it more than 30
mins later at the weekend.

Do not have a child with this man.

His kid is his responsibility.

Your joint kid is your joint responsibility.

Unfortunately, he sees parenting as woman's work. Be wants to palm his kid off on you. He wants to pass on the responsibility without discussion and consultation. He wants you do his job while you nod and smile.

He wants a nanny with a fanny not a partner.

Have you posted this before? I have my own two children and I don’t get up with them every weekend! When we’ve nothing on, one person has a lie in until 8 and the other gets up with the kids. We have a day each on each weekend. I would not have a child with this man, you’ll end up looking after both children all the time.

Have you posted before? And were told you are a nanny with a Fanny?

Wheres your self respect? Dump him.

You would be insane to have a child with him.

Bears repeating. All of it.

Get out of this ‘relationship’.

As usual, one feels sorry for the poor child, not wanted by anyone in the house he spends half the week.

I thought you were leaving OP?