Am I being unreasonable in my holiday requirements?

Have a look at the Lanzasur in Playa Blanca - they're little bungalows and have a bedroom and living room/kitchenette. Or the holiday village
Let her fall asleep in the bed and then move her to the sofa bed when you're ready for bed
That being said, we have done late October in the Canaries and it's always been fine to sit outside of an evening

On insects in Tenerife , I haven’t been back to Gran Canaria because of the enormous flying indestructible cockroaches ( shudder). But much depends on location I imagine. I’ve never had any issues in Tenerife or Fuertenventura. Maybe I can now afford better quality accommodation or avoid ground floor rooms!

Ciutudella is gorgeous.

When we went to an apartment in Tenerife when the lights went out there were cockroaches everywhere and it was not cheap. I would never go again. If you choose to go there with your small child prioritize insect nets

I refuse to share a bedroom with my children on holiday, or make them sleep on sofa beds.

We like all inclusive holidays, but recognise that two bedroom apartments in hotels are few and far between. They are even more rare in a good location and with a good set of trip adviser reviews.

We therefore always book at least a full year ahead to find somewhere suitable, and we find that even a full year ahead we are taking the last two bedroom apartment in the resort in the summer school holidays. The cost is usually £8000 for 10 nights in the Canaries.

I second this. I went with my DC last year who was also 3. The apartment was really spacious. Facilities and AI were great.

Hotel floresta in Lanzarote has 2 bedroom apartments

In fact those results really only yield villas for what you need, not apartments because they're separate apartments, not 2 bed apartments

The prices are shocking as well in my view, I never book package holidays, always airbnb with separate flights.

This sort of thing, randomly picked Menorca, not sure what the pros and cons of the particular area are....

https://www.airbnb.co.uk/rooms/44228563?adults=2&check_in=2026-04-02&check_out=2026-04-08&children=1&location=Minorca%2C%20Spain&search_mode=regular_search&source_impression_id=p3_1772396378_P37OzB34zGpByHnd&previous_page_section_name=1001&federated_search_id=0296c548-3399-4612-b80a-aa91e4bd222d

Princesss yaizia lanzarotte. Half board though I think

I just did a random search on this site, for self catering, 2 bedroomed apartment, from 2nd April, 2 adults one child, canaries or balearics, from London airports.

https://www.jet2holidays.com/search/results?airport=7_127_99&date=02-04-2026&duration=7&occupancy=r1c3r1c&destination=38_39&sortorder=1&page=1&boardbasis=4

Interconnecting rooms?

Its not difficult, just make sure you have a balcony or patio.

Put your requirements/budget into chatgpt and see what they suggest

Lamar Costa los gigantes in Tenerife. Have stayed twice and I think most of their rooms are suites so a living area with a sofa bed and a bedroom with a double

We've had the same issue to be honest, we rarely book hotels for that reason (only when they have connecting rooms).

Our eldest is a very good sleeper but will not fall asleep if we are in the room. Not a chance. We need to be away and ideally close the door.

The few times we had to because we had no other choice, he was jumping around hysterical until midnight or so.

So we only pick hotels with connecting rooms - but there aren't many. Or we rent appartements. Never really had the issue you described with the room only having single beds. I think we probably would pick a twin room over family rooms though!

There are loads of threads on here about this, including ones started by me

I feel your pain
2 bed apartments are the way to go, we’ve stayed in really nice ones on the Algarve, but never done AI. Campsites in France with a 2/3 bed cabin also work well.

I think most families do the whole four in a room thing which definitely would not work for us. When kid are teens, you can do two separate rooms but this is really expensive. “Interconnecting” is hard to find.

unfortunately almost anything at all in school hols is crazy expensive these days

Not the canaries but we stayed here and DS slept in the lounge area rather than in the same room. https://www.jet2holidays.com/portugal/algarve/alvor/alvor-baia-resort-hotel?mkvid=Cj0KCQiA5I_NBhDVARIsAOrqIsY_0UQGy9OulY14fTXQYeLbcv6zlBsNJn14SGclhjrVGkbPR4KFxBIaAvsZEALw_wcB&dngclid=Cj0KCQiA5I_NBhDVARIsAOrqIsY_0UQGy9OulY14fTXQYeLbcv6zlBsNJn14SGclhjrVGkbPR4KFxBIaAvsZEALw_wcB&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&gclsrc=aw.ds&&ds_e_keyword=alvor%20baia%20resort%20hotel&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=20556991420&gbraid=0AAAAADmgmx8wWCd88xHPguwWNlceDcXAs&gclid=Cj0KCQiA5I_NBhDVARIsAOrqIsY_0UQGy9OulY14fTXQYeLbcv6zlBsNJn14SGclhjrVGkbPR4KFxBIaAvsZEALw_wcB

Look at HD Parque Cristobal - Gran Canaria or Tenerife. Both have AI options and really lovely. They have 1 bedroom and 2 bedroom options, with lounge area. All are single level villas as part of a hotel complex.

We just came back from a 1 bed in Gran Canaria with 2 children aged 6 and 9.
Yes lounge was a sofa bed, but we just left it out for the duration, there was so much to do that we were only in the apartment for changing and sleeping. It was 3k for half term AI for 4 people.

Las Dahlias Tenerife
This is a geat AI hotel, good food, warm pool and more importantly connecting rooms with a door. You have the option to book an interconnecting room when you book with EasyJet/Jet2. Etc

I’ve stayed there it’s fab but I don’t think they do AI they didn’t when I stayed there

tui blue flamingo beach I. Lanzarote is exactly what you want

1 bed apartment with a double or two twins clipped together in the bedroom
two sofa beds in the lounge for you DD
terrace to sit outside on
a small kitchenette in the lounge
It’s sleeps 4 so with 3 of you it’s fine

its AI really great for kids and right opposite flamingo beach in playa Blanca and fab for kids
your just on playa Blanca promenade so
loads to do
great water park not far

very geared up for families
If your going in April it will be pretty warm

i would avoid Turkey / Greece as it’s low season then even though it’s Easter

I’ve just priced it up 2500 for a week AI for the 3 of you inc flights / transfer from Gatwick

Sunwing Fañabe Beach in Costa Adeje is v reasonable and has studio rooms with separated living room areas. It is so fun for little kids. Definitely recommend.

Another one suggesting Sentido Aeqoura in Lanzarote however it will be a little over budget. The dates you have suggested are over Easter so school holidays, can you go a little earlier or a little later?

Sentido aqueora does junior suites that have two separate rooms. DS slept on that single sofa bed that stayed a bed all week and DH and I in the bedroom. AI is an option there.

Either you have to up your budget, gonself catering or compromise about sharing space with your dd. FWIW we never shared a bedroom with our DC.