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To take ds to prison to visit his dad

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Aliceboss · 28/02/2026 19:18

I have a 20 month old little boy I gave birth to him at 17 during pregnancy his dad assaulted someone when he was under the influence and was sent to prison he pleaded guilty etc straight away but we aren't together anymore obviously. I don't have much family and in currently living in one of his dads properties with little boy and they (his dad + stepmum dote on him) his dad feels somewhat guilty for not getting his son help earlier and he visits him often he has said himself that if he didn't plead guilty he wouldn't have anything to do with him now. His dad often takes photos of little boy to show his son but he recently has asked him to stop as it upsets him (his dad things but he hasn't said this himself he just told him to stop) he's never met him. His dad now wants to take him to visit him, he said I can come too but I'm unsure but also worried if I say no as I live with in his property and it is cheaper than normal rent and I don't want to ruin our relationship I have with his parents as my family aren't involved at all

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TalulahJP · 28/02/2026 19:33

ah next year. fair enough, his son will still be little and too young to remember anything really.

YiddlySquat · 28/02/2026 19:32

Aliceboss · 28/02/2026 19:32

He's not likely to get released until next year @YiddlySquat

Do you have support from your parents or family and friends?

TalulahJP · 28/02/2026 19:32

if looking at a photo upsets him how will meeting his son in real life inside prison go down? im thinking it would upset him more. it might be too much to bear.

i think i might write to him to ask if he wants to meet his son and tell his father that you're doing this. if he wants to meet him i’d allow it.

how long is he in for?

Aliceboss · 28/02/2026 19:32

He's not likely to get released until next year @YiddlySquat

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caringcarer · 28/02/2026 19:31

I don't think a prison is the place to take an innocent child. If his dgp loves his dgs he won't blackmail you into talking your toddler to a prison. Surely his Dad can wait until he gets out to see his ds.

YiddlySquat · 28/02/2026 19:30

How long is his sentence OP?

I think it’s fine at that age

I do say I’m a bit uncomfortable at the thought of your violent ex’s dad being your landlord. He’s his dad and will take his side, it could get tricky for you

Newyearawaits · 28/02/2026 19:27

I think that you should take him.
Take care OP, you have alot to deal with