Wtf do i do? - Dd2 told me they have been raped over xmas

I would speak to Rape Crisis and get some support for your daughter. She can talk through whether to report or not with them. For others saying you/she must report to the police - that decision is the victim's alone and she should not be forced/coerced. Reporting a rape and the procedures that follow are always traumatic and the realistic prospect of a conviction is tiny and can take years.

Can you get your dd counselling and support?

She needs counselling from a specialist service. She may feel more willing to report after having worked through it. I would focus more on psychological support for her rather than pressuring her to immediately report it to the police.

Your poor DD.

Get her some help from rape crisis or similar. Has she taken a pregnancy test or considered std?

The police can wait. Be calm. Listen and encourage her to speak to college, they'll have a mental health team who can support too.

Unfortunately, this kind of sexual abuse is rife amongst the trans community. I slowly began to realise this when I was your DD's age and a female enby friend was abused by a male who identified as female.

Nothing has improved in this respect, culturally speaking, in the decades since.

She needs rape counselling as the priority. I can truly understand why she doesn't want to go to college, but if she doesn't, her life is going to be sidetracked. I've seen so many young female adults exclude themselves from opportunities and life progression because of trauma inflicted upon them from sexual violence. Meanwhile the perpetrators carry on, leaving wrecked lives behind them.

Your poor DD that’s awful. I think the first priority is to get her some help via rape crisis or similar, and she should really get an STD check.
After that tackle the police situation, of course she should report but I can also sympathise with not wanting to and I think you have to respect her decision on this - putting the responsibility on her to prevent it happening again isn’t fair

I would continue to gently encourage her to report it to the police, and to help her get health care.

He does seem likely to escalate with the sort of behaviours he has shown already.

Hugs. I would contact the college and tell them what happened. But do not force her to go to the police. It must be her decision she is not responsible for reporting. But an anonymous report would be good. X

You must try to encourage your dd to do the right thing about this person
ok dd will be embarrassed but so are all the others that this happens to

This person is walking around getting away with doing this to other people 😡
Not only that but some get traumatised for life when something like this happens

sorry but dd needs to put her big pants on and report. She obviously knows the persons name involved

You should report to police as he could do this to someone else. He may ID as a woman but essentially he is a biological male as unfortunately your daughter has found out- perhaps she felt safe with him thinking he was a female but male violence does not change if you wear girls clothes. If you don’t report it and later she decided she wants to tell police, questions will be asked why you didn’t report it as she is under 18. Police will always ask who is the first person you told and your dd will say “mum” hope you can help her to stay safe

Nothing the police can do if the victim of a crime doesn't wish to report, the police can't force her. I would be encouraging her to reach out for mental health support, perhaps to speak to a rape crisis charity as maybe speaking to them may encourage her to report it. I absolutely would not go behind her back to report it anonymously though, she'll know someone she's close to broke her trust and that'll make things harder for her as she'll not know who she can and can't speak to.

I hope your daughter is getting the help she needs. Unfortunately there will always be opportunistic men waiting for situations like this.

It needs to be reported to the police, and your child needs support from Rape Crisis.
I’m so sorry this has happened 😔

I am so very very sorry, its very hard but if she can manage it she should report it to the police

also as others have said..support her and encourage her to seek help

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Tell your DD that as traumatic as it might be, she really needs to go to the police. Other victims will come forward if someone has the courage to go first. A person can’t just go around raping people and wanking in plain sight. The m2f thing is irrelevant here- this MAN is using his penis to rape and commit other sex crimes.

I personally would phone the police. There is a rapist out there, who could right now be raping someone else.

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Your poor DD, I'm so sorry.

What do you do now? You support her as best you can. You encourage her to seek support from an appropriate charity. If possible, you encourage her to report and tell her it's to try and prevent it happening to others.

So sorry to hear this. I believe you can report any crime anonymously via Crimestoppers - phone or online.

speak to a rape crisis charity. I would ignore it all together, she could do with an STI check for one thing. How old is she?

Perhaps a Rape crisis charity or local SARC would be able to advise? Sorry this has happened to them, are the two in contact still? How old if still at college?