Wtf do i do? - Dd2 told me they have been raped over xmas

Your daughter has been raped by a man and should go to the police, he’s obviously a repeat sex offender and will go on to do it again. As others have said, rape crisis would also be a good start.

No. No No. Being a victim of rape and not reporting it does not make someone an accomplice to rape. Disgusting victim blaming statement. Reported and I hope MN delete.

Your daughter has been raped by a man who has been enabled by the woke movement. Your first step is to stop enabling him by using false pronouns. Second us to report him

I understand why your child feels this way, but you must explain to her that she is helping him to do it again and again. It’s really hard but this scumbag needs arresting. Other than that do you know any big hefty men that could ‘have a word’. I’ll probably get vilified for that last bit but I know what I’d do.

Isn't that the whole point of MN though? It's not all neighbour disputes and 'my kid wasn't invited to a party'.

I think him coming on to college grounds needs reporting to the college safeguarding lead - I think this could be done anomously and without mentioning your Dd's attack (ie a former student who was expelled for sexual activity is regularly coming on to college grounds). But I'd talk to your Dd before making the report.

It’s not about the young person being mad but about causing more trauma and a huge amount of damage in taking away their control in reporting it. The op needs to be lead her child. But yes also communicate the importance of reporting across to him/her too, but stand back so their own decision can be made without pressure. You may find telling you now is the first step in that process.

Yet you’ve taken the time to read it and comment.

there’s a saying my Nan used to say to me

‘of you don’t have anything nice to say then say nothing at all’

Are you saying that posting about something as sensitive such as a teenager being raped on the internet, is appropriate? When people confide in you, especially as a parent, they aren’t expecting their business to be blasted online. If she doesn’t want to go to the police, what makes you think she wants the situation posted here? It’s crass.

arent You lovely!!

digging a parent out who is, no doubt already feeling like a shit mum.

classy!

Imagine telling your mum you were a victim of a serious crime such as rape and your mum publicly posts about it on MN? In quite identifying details given the gender transitions etc. Would your child be comfortable with this? I certainly wouldn’t

I'm so sorry OP, this guy is obviously a serial rapist and needs reporting.

I'm very sorry that your daughter has been raped. Your pronoun use is entirely correct - it enables us to understand the situation and connects it to reality. I'm afraid the whole 'trans thing' is very relevant, despite what others say. Identifying as trans is a psychological phenomenon and there is no objective evidence for 'gender identity'. The psychological phenomena vary from individual to individual and by sex but it very common for trans identified girls/women to be particularly emotionally vulnerable. Amongst trans identified men there is a high proportion who have a misogynistic humiliation fetish and some of them become very dangerous and predatory. Hence, the trans community is a very dangerous place for your daughter and it is not remotely coincidental that three other trans identified girls have been raped by the same man. After you and your daughter are through the immediate trauma and have appropriate rape support I do urge you to turn to the various support groups for parents and find ways to support your daughter without confirming/directly affirming her trans identity.

The pronoun police has arrived🚓👮

no its not💐

please use the words you need to use

ummm, they are of legal age, their mum can not report it without their cooperation

If they can’t be bothered to actually read what the thread is about then their advice is pointless

You need to go to the police. You are the adult. You are the parent. She may be mad in the interim but she will realise it’s the right thing.

im so sorry. What an awful situation.

Even the op is using dd and she her, I’m hoping that’s just because op is stressed and upset and that ordinarily the child is identified as they choose to be at home.

Look, do I understand it? No, not personally BUT that doesn’t mean I have to be disrespectful because of that xx

Thank you for being the first person on this entire thread to correctly use his pronouns. I’m cringing reading all this she and her 🙈🤦🏽‍♀️

Because the child identifies as male.

Yes. As at least it’s on file for when one of his victims does come forward.

Quite right. Sexual abuse and rape rarely happen outside of the trans community…