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to think that renters get a raw deal

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Catza · 28/02/2026 08:40

I am in a quite an interesting position as I am currently buying a house but need to rent in the meantime.
I noticed that the treatment of renters by EAs is vastly different from buyers. Nothing about my circumstances changed: my earnings are the same, my savings are the same, I have the same job and I am the exactly same person. Yet.. when I contact EA to view a property, they are polite and helpful. When I contact one to enquire about a viewing of rental, they treat me with high suspicion, write almost confrontational emails with a long list of demands and generally make me feel like a second class citizen.
OpenRent which I have used many many time in the past has done downhill massively as well. Landlords who book viewings but don't provide property address and then disappear. Many are "away next week" and promise to get back to me, then ghost even after chasing. This morning, I had to report yet another landlord to OpenRent for failing to respond.

If anyone has been in a similar situation, did you feel this too? Or am I being a bit too sensitive due to normal house buying stress?

AIBU = I have never experienced this myself
AINBU = yes, I also feel like I am being treated poorly as a renter by EA at the enquiry stage.

OP posts:
redboxer321 · 28/02/2026 13:36

Sounds like you've had a bad experience with a rogue or overly worried LL @Itsmetheflamingo because you're just LL bashing now. Or maybe you're the tenant from hell.

Tenants don’t have to pay excessive deposits now - I suggested that following your statement that LLs should expect tenants to not pay rent and destroy their property.
Undergo excessive checking - I think you would find corporate LL would carry out plenty of checks and be less flexible than small scale LL.
LLs have a right to check their properties. Why do you think the corporates would not?

Echlefecker · 28/02/2026 13:33

The letting agent works for the landlord. They're vetting you on the phone, everything you say they're looking to see if you are a good fit for the house. Money and income are obviously extremely important, but it's not the only thing, they also want to know if you are going to look after the house, are you clean and tidy,well presented,.are you looking for long or short term. Pets, previous problems with rentals. Everything you say is noted.There are not enough rental properties,.so it's a landlord's market definitely.

Itsmetheflamingo · 28/02/2026 13:32

ChamonixMountainBum · 28/02/2026 13:25

Actually no, a rental property is not for living as you wish (including damaging it). When you sign a tenancy agreement you are agreeing to a raft of conditions including not destroying it. Tenants can be charged with criminal damage under the Criminal Damage Act 1971 if they intentionally or recklessly destroy or damage a landlord's property.

Which doesn’t happen.

Whatever technicality you think you can find, there is a reality, which is they can cause damage well in excess of the deposit, and they can indeed stop paying rent.

if this is, in fact, not a problem at all, then what are we actually talking about ?

EA could therefore recommend any renter, references and checks are indeed a waste of time.
When they damage the house you can just get them prosecuted under the criminal damage act 1971 and I’m sure that’ll somehow remedy the damage.

terms and conditions in a tenancy agreement still have to be legally enforceable, and most that landlords make up aren’t (see: you’re responsible for burst pipes)

PrincessofWells · 28/02/2026 13:31

FeistyFrankie · 28/02/2026 09:11

It's disgusting how poorly renters are treated. Some estate agents will ask for all sorts of documentation to "prove" you can afford the rent. It's crazy, and this certainly isn't the norm in other countries. If you like the property, you sign the contract and that's pretty much the end of it.

Class system in action, imo. It's awful and will likely die out as more and more people choose to rent long term.

I'm not sure where to start with this one. I suppose it's wasting your time, the estate agents time, the current occupants time and possibly even the landlords time, if you look at a property for which you would not be accepted. Affordability is one issue, pets, and suitability for the property are all relevant issues to consider. Why wouldn't these be established before viewing?

StrawberrySquash · 28/02/2026 13:25

I last rented nearly fifteen years ago in London and didn't find them particularly offish. If anything a bit fawny. All fake as hell, but not rude. Not particularly competent in terms of having the keys, knowing stuff about the property though. Wasn't really any more impressed when buying either. Lots of poor information.

ChamonixMountainBum · 28/02/2026 13:25

Itsmetheflamingo · 28/02/2026 12:35

Well that’s ridiculous though isn’t it because b&q is for shopping, and shitting in the display is criminal damage.

a rental property is for living in as you wish (including damaging it, if that’s your life. After all, my owner occupied house also gets damaged occasionally)

Actually no, a rental property is not for living as you wish (including damaging it). When you sign a tenancy agreement you are agreeing to a raft of conditions including not destroying it. Tenants can be charged with criminal damage under the Criminal Damage Act 1971 if they intentionally or recklessly destroy or damage a landlord's property.

Itsmetheflamingo · 28/02/2026 13:25

redboxer321 · 28/02/2026 13:21

@Itsmetheflamingo
They should expect that, yes
not a world I want to live in

Alternatively, they could exit and leave the rental market to professionals corporate landlords who can afford to take the risks
Who exactly do you think that would benefit?

The tenants who don’t have to pay excessive deposits undergo excessive checking and have a landlord who leaves them alone?

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 28/02/2026 13:21

Octavia64 · 28/02/2026 08:42

I was renting for a couple of years while my divorce went through. Yes, you are correct,

but it’s a buyers market at the moment- lots of houses for sale and few buyers. They are polite to you because they want to sell houses.

renting is a different story - lots of people want to rent and very few places to rent.

Yes, the attitude from EAs when properties are flying off the books, is very different. I well remember that superior but condescending tone they’d use to tell you that such and such a property (that you were phoning about) was already under offer.

One EA story I do like, though - a colleague’s dd, still in her 20s, had been left a substantial legacy by an estranged grandparent. So she walked into an EA and asked about a small house that was however in an expensive area, so IIRC around £800k.

The EA, also 20s, gelled hair, the usual, looked her up and down with an ‘In your dreams!’ expression. ‘Have you got a mortgage in place?’

‘No, I’ll be paying cash.’
She said his face was a picture!

redboxer321 · 28/02/2026 13:21

@Itsmetheflamingo
They should expect that, yes
not a world I want to live in

Alternatively, they could exit and leave the rental market to professionals corporate landlords who can afford to take the risks
Who exactly do you think that would benefit?

Notmyreality · 28/02/2026 13:20

GasperyJacquesRoberts · 28/02/2026 08:57

From the estate agent's point of view, if you're a buyer then you're a customer. If you're a renter then you're not the customer, you're the product the estate agent is selling to their actual customer - the landlord.

This.

Coffeeandbooks88 · 28/02/2026 13:13

Viviennemary · 28/02/2026 08:54

Because onca you buy a house thats it. End of problem for the estate agent. With renting the problems are only beginning. There are bad renters out there. Bad landlords too. So estate agent has to vet carefully.

I don't know about problems ending because you can buy a house and then have lots of things that need doing to the house that you can't afford and so you suck it up.

Itsmetheflamingo · 28/02/2026 13:09

redboxer321 · 28/02/2026 13:01

Of course it's ridiculous. It was meant to be. But it's no more ridiculous than you saying that LL should expect to have their property destroyed by tenants and the rent not paid.
But, if that's how it's going to be, then allow LL to take proper deposits that will cover missing rent and/or pay to have their property put back into decent condition after tenants have destroyed it.

They should expect that, yes

Alternatively, they could exit and leave the rental market to professionals corporate landlords who can afford to take the risks

permanently · 28/02/2026 13:06

No angst. We understand the risks and other people’s circumstances. We just clean it up and do the repairs.

redboxer321 · 28/02/2026 13:01

Itsmetheflamingo · 28/02/2026 12:35

Well that’s ridiculous though isn’t it because b&q is for shopping, and shitting in the display is criminal damage.

a rental property is for living in as you wish (including damaging it, if that’s your life. After all, my owner occupied house also gets damaged occasionally)

Of course it's ridiculous. It was meant to be. But it's no more ridiculous than you saying that LL should expect to have their property destroyed by tenants and the rent not paid.
But, if that's how it's going to be, then allow LL to take proper deposits that will cover missing rent and/or pay to have their property put back into decent condition after tenants have destroyed it.

Itsmetheflamingo · 28/02/2026 12:35

redboxer321 · 28/02/2026 12:30

I'm going to start taking a dump in the display toilets in B&Q and, if challenged, I shall respond: "Hey, it's the business you are in."

Well that’s ridiculous though isn’t it because b&q is for shopping, and shitting in the display is criminal damage.

a rental property is for living in as you wish (including damaging it, if that’s your life. After all, my owner occupied house also gets damaged occasionally)

redboxer321 · 28/02/2026 12:30

ChamonixMountainBum · 28/02/2026 12:25

What a curiously weird take. Property getting destroyed and non payment of rent is most definitely not the business, it is a possible risk that needs to be mitigated against via various checks and references. When on holiday do you hand back your hire car with bust up bodywork, smashed windows and destroyed interiors and just say to person at the desk 'hey, its the business you are in'.

I'm going to start taking a dump in the display toilets in B&Q and, if challenged, I shall respond: "Hey, it's the business you are in."

Itsmetheflamingo · 28/02/2026 12:29

ChamonixMountainBum · 28/02/2026 12:25

What a curiously weird take. Property getting destroyed and non payment of rent is most definitely not the business, it is a possible risk that needs to be mitigated against via various checks and references. When on holiday do you hand back your hire car with bust up bodywork, smashed windows and destroyed interiors and just say to person at the desk 'hey, its the business you are in'.

Of course it’s the business. Why does it happen otherwise?
the landlord has no control over what happens in the house. That’s the risk. Accept it or don’t.

and yes. That’s the business car hire companies are in too. Of course they can get insurance, which protects them to a greater extent than the type offered to landlords.

ChamonixMountainBum · 28/02/2026 12:25

Itsmetheflamingo · 28/02/2026 11:24

Not to pick out yours specifically but i don’t get small landlords angst about renters who destroy the house or don’t pay.

thats the business. If you don’t like it why bother? Do something else with your time and money. It’s so weird to get involved then be surprised that there are risks that come to fruition.

as for estate agents, they don’t have long. Like recruitment consultants they are expensive middle men and AI and technology is taking over the benefits they used to add. It’s a non value add service

What a curiously weird take. Property getting destroyed and non payment of rent is most definitely not the business, it is a possible risk that needs to be mitigated against via various checks and references. When on holiday do you hand back your hire car with bust up bodywork, smashed windows and destroyed interiors and just say to person at the desk 'hey, its the business you are in'.

BillieWiper · 28/02/2026 12:23

GasperyJacquesRoberts · 28/02/2026 08:57

From the estate agent's point of view, if you're a buyer then you're a customer. If you're a renter then you're not the customer, you're the product the estate agent is selling to their actual customer - the landlord.

This hits the nail on the head.

ContentedAlpaca · 28/02/2026 12:17

Itsmetheflamingo · 28/02/2026 12:12

It doesn’t matter. You can go on holiday for 3 weeks or 3 months. What business is it of the landlord? Why buy an insurance that has an onerous clause you have no control over?

the landlord is always liable. There are no circumstances under which the tenant is liable for a burst pipe and insurance is irrelevant to liability.

You are of course, right

Itsmetheflamingo · 28/02/2026 12:12

ContentedAlpaca · 28/02/2026 12:08

MORE than two weeks. The leak being discussed in this thread happened over 3 weeks, in which case the landlord would have been fully liable under our insurance which allows the property to be empty for 2 weeks.

The two rental agreements our son signed also didn't allow the property to be empty more than two weeks so we assume this was also a stipulation of his landlords insurance.

It doesn’t matter. You can go on holiday for 3 weeks or 3 months. What business is it of the landlord? Why buy an insurance that has an onerous clause you have no control over?

the landlord is always liable. There are no circumstances under which the tenant is liable for a burst pipe and insurance is irrelevant to liability.

Catza · 28/02/2026 12:08

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 28/02/2026 11:06

This is why when I rented I avoided agencies and tried to deal with landlord myself.

Me too which is why I used OpenRent extensively in the past. But now it's the same story there. One guy sent up an automated message which asked me to provide answers to 20 very personal questions, that was even before speaking to me about viewings. He then proceeded to I crease the price by £200 per month because I stated that I want a short term let and he normally does long term. I had to politely point out that his advert states min 1 month tenancy and he may want to review that to reflect what he is actually looking for.
Two landlords offered a date for viewings and never sent property details.
Three just ghosted after a couple of messages which I had to report to OpenRent.

I don't know where else to go to find private landlords directly. I might just stay living on a holiday resort where they are actually very nice to me and not worry about saving a few quid.

OP posts:
ChamonixMountainBum · 28/02/2026 12:08

SouthernNights59 · 28/02/2026 09:48

I'm not in the UK and have rented three properties and been offered another one. Not once was I asked to provide proof that I can pay the rent.

"I can pay the rent"

And how is a prospective landlord supposed to know that? Asking someone to prove they have a job and regular income is hardly some onerous demand.

ContentedAlpaca · 28/02/2026 12:08

Itsmetheflamingo · 28/02/2026 11:33

Whether or not you have insurance doesn’t change your liability

you also have ridiculously crap insurance if it doesn’t cover the resident going on a 2 week holiday, which is perfectly standard.

MORE than two weeks. The leak being discussed in this thread happened over 3 weeks, in which case the landlord would have been fully liable under our insurance which allows the property to be empty for 2 weeks.

The two rental agreements our son signed also didn't allow the property to be empty more than two weeks so we assume this was also a stipulation of his landlords insurance.

latetothefisting · 28/02/2026 11:45

Isekaied · 28/02/2026 09:17

When I was trying to buy afew years ago I was messed around d so badly.

Cancelled viewings.

Once they even denied a viewing had been booked in the first place when no one showed up to show me a house- then refused to rearrange the viewing because an offer had been accepted- basically they'd accepted an offer just hadn't cancelled the viewing with me.

Just bad attitudes all round.

I was not impressed with the estate agents. This made it difficult in who to choose to sell my own house because most had been so bad.

Maybe it's changed now, but I think they're just bad all round.

Yes, this. I've had a number of weird/rude estate agents as a buyer as well as renting. And even the ones that are polite to you are, tbh, just a bit odd, in my experience.

Even as the seller they can be a bit pushy and tbh I'm sure moan about you behind your backs even if they are polite to your face.

Also having issues with mortgage valuers at the moment - I got a call from one the other day telling me they had booked an appointment for 3 days time, who in a right mood when I told her I couldn't do that day! Surely they understand most people work and can't just be available at the drop of a hat to let someone into their house (particularly when they can only give vague 'some time in the morning' or 'some time in the afternoon' timescales!)

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