I am so upset tonight. I am married 20 years with teenage kids. My husband was married before with no kids. He didn’t tell our children this until a couple of years ago - I don’t really know why not but it was hard for him and it took a lot to open up. I left it to him to decide when was the right time. Tonight my son said to me that his friends think it’s hilarious that his Dad was married before. I was so taken aback that what I would have perceived as family business / important to his Dad was casually out there. My husband is a coach to many of these boys and friends with the fathers of my son’s friends and he wouldn’t have spoken to them about a previous marriage. I am friends with their wives and again it hasn’t come up in all these years as it isn’t relevant to our lives. There is no scandal just two people marrying young and breaking up after a few years. To me growing up family was first and I would not have broadcast family business. Aibu to be upset on my husbands behalf or am I being unreasonable. He doesn’t know yet but I know it is something he would not have wanted.