Dh makes me look/sound stupid in front of children

Tell him that you can do better than a relationship with a man who constantly tries to humiliate, criticise and belittle you and that his children don’t need to see such a poor example of a father so unless he stops acting like a dick he’ll be getting divorce papers. And mean it. Life is too short. This behaviour needs to grind to a halt right now.

Can you be gone before he gets in from Work Monday ?
To your parent’s , sister/ brother / friend .
Let him come home to an empty house .
He’s an asshole .
Kind/ decent people never put other’s down .
While you’re away think about what you want for you & your children’s future , but please, please stop tolerating this OP .

Yep. I was thinking the same. My Dad did this to my Mum, it chipped away at her self-esteem, she still believes she’s stupid to this day. She divorced him years ago but the psychological abuse she ensured left a lasting impact. If he can’t acknowledge his behaviour is abusive, I’m afraid it’s unlikely he’ll change. Sorry you’re go through this, OP.

Well he’s the stupid one, why would you have a dishwasher if youre doing the job twice, only scrape food, no rinse needed! Maybe he should go do some learning into that.

Horrible. Domestic abuse. Harmful for both you and the kids.
Can you make a plan to leave? He won't change btw.

This makes me heartbroken for you and heartbroken for your kids. You need to make a change. This is not ok or normal. It’s abusive.

I hate posts like this.

you don’t need us to tell you your husband is abustive and you shouldn’t be putting up with this sort of behaviour but your interact with posts as if they are amusing asides about your passingly annoying husband.

he’s awful and I feel sorry for your children

One of the last arguments I had with my ex was about how hadn't opened a packet of peas properly. He was laughing and sneering and getting our young daughter to join in about how useless I was. It's strange years later to look back on it. I realise how "small" I'd become in not being able to just laugh in his face about such a ridiculous thing to criticise someone over. All I can say is that I never looked back after we divorced. It was the best decision I ever made. We're actually remarkably civil now, all these years later. My advice would be to think carefully about what you're prepared to put up with. Talk to your friends and family and get lots of support around you. Don't bottle it up, or feel you have to hide or defend what's happening to people you're close to. It'll be easier to make decisions with support in place.

Did you pull him up on his behaviour straight away?

If you didn’t, then you must. Call him out as a bully, he’ll not like it.

When he denies his behaviour is bullying/abusive, have your many examples ready.

Say you’ll not put up with a bully. And you definitely do not want your kids to start copying his vile behaviour. So he either stops it or gets the hell out.

You need to call him out on his put downs and ask him why he is doing this .
its not acceptable to be little anyone and your children will
think this is normal and become like him.

Please stand up for yourself. You don’t need to be spoken to as if you’re an idiot. He’s unkind and abusive

He’s abusive.

If you have sons, they are learning that this is how you treat women.

If you have daughters, they are learning that this is normal behaviour in a relationship. It isn’t.

He doesn't like you.

As others have said, he thinks he is better than you. He is saying these things to your DC to make them see how superior he is. For some reason he is either feeling inadequate so is tearing you down to build himself up or has fallen out of love, or has someone else telling him he is wonderful in the sidelines.

He is an abusive POS. Make plans and end it, he won’t change.

Is this what you want. Your children to grow up watching you being abused, because you are being abused. If not, then leave. End your marriage, put a stop to this.

Eh this is domestic abuse!
this is unforgivable
time to divorce this man, contact women’s aid for help with planning this if you need.
absolutely do not tolerate this crap at all and stop teaching your children that this is an acceptable way to treat another human being

I was going yo say this. What kind of idiot is he. Im surprised he's still alive and you havent got a brand new patio!!
You dont treat the mother of your children like this.

Why are you with him Op? Has he always been this way? If he can't sort himself out, I'd be out of there, taking the kids with me.

He is treating you with open contempt, which is terminal for any relationship.

He thinks he’s better than you - but it’s not enough to just think that, he has to demonstrate it by crowing in front of an audience. He really wants to lean into his superiority and get everyone else onside with his view that you’re a useless idiot, even when that audience is just your young (and impressionable) children.

DH and I have quite a sarcastic, piss-takey relationship and in our family nobody gets away with anything - you get to feel the full force of your own idiocy in every situation. It’s blunt but humorous, never done to make people feel small or hurt or bad about themselves, and apologies are quick and sincere if that line’s ever crossed.

It doesn’t sound like your husband would ever apologise to you, OP.

Think of the example he’s sorting for your children. They’ll grow up to think that’s acceptable.

Firmly tell him to shut up or get out. Don’t put up with his crap, stand up for yourself.

I think abusive is the word you’re looking for. Think how damaging it is for the kids as well. This is unacceptable op. How dare he

Who cares, just dump him. THIS IS NO WAY TO LIVE !

This sounds abusive and absolutely not ok. I’m sorry you’re going through this. I think you need to consider leaving before your children are too much older.