To start WW3 with my SIL

Your mum thought your DH should apologise for his comment to your neice. Perhaps your SiL did overreact but surely it was better that she went to another room than carry on having a row at a family event. She may have disclosed your DH's prison record to be malicious but she didn't say anything untrue. His offence warranted a custodial sentence and if your friends have cut you off because of it they think it's serious too.

@ChattyCatty25 Thanks I was on the thread pages ago and wondered if the DH crime had been revealed.
So 27 pages in still not revealed so it must be a bad one.
The sil got it bang on.👍

You have not given us enough information. But going on What you have said it sounds like you are largely responsible for this problem

you seem all charmers and princes

So is mine. I think sil has good cause.

It should be left up as a cautionary tale to others. Whether they’re like OP, the mother, the SIL or the friends. But MN does seem quite naice on the whole. They’d have kittens if they heard about some people I know.

Everyone sucks here. Everyone.

You. Your SIL. Your so called friends. Your brother. Your husband. Everyone. Not one of you sounds like anyone I'd like to spend any time with and frankly, like a bunch of children.

Your husband started shit with your niece, you fed it, and SIL finished it.

You obviously underestimated her.

Amazing people apologize when they've made offensive remarks to young girls, not claim to not remember what they said.

I've only read the OP's posts and that's quite enough. Hilarious.

I hope MNHQ don't take this down. They've done it once already this week for an OP who also plainly didn't like the tide of opinion against them.

You can never tell though. Until it happens to you.

Most mothers of children would back away from a criminal involved with crimes against a child. Indeed most sane people would back away.

So many people are like "he'd never do it to my /out kids"

As if that's somehow ok...

Because he knows what he said.

Yes there's a few reports of men around 2011/2012 physically abusing kids, like shaking babies to death, neglect of a toddler, one hit a boy of 8 with a Porsche, a dangerous driving death that killed a 5 year old, running a child over and fleeing the scene etc

You're a drama llama.

Your SIL must have been biting her tongue for years.

She probably told the school mums this terrible secret because she's spent a long time putting up with you and your horrible husband and you just went too far this time.

I might be wrong, but that's what it smells like.

You’d be surprised how many women take the stance that viewing “child porn” is not an actual crime against a child. I could be wildly wrong but the op is giving me this vibe

Oh come on. He needed rebilitation, OP very cagey and immediately the mums are all keeping their distance as soon as his crimes are known. It must be something like that or involving a child.

The husband was raging at his own mother because she asked him to apologise to his niece... yet he can't remember what he actually said. How can he possibly know his mum and sister-in-law overreacted if he doesn't actually know what he said?

1. Your husband said something inappropriate to your own niece who is a minor and you get offended over it? Yet you don't know what was said, so how can you accuse your SIL of overreacting? Your own mother asked him to apologise so that speaks volumes.
2. SIL isn't even blood related. Neither is your convict husband to your family so I know who'd I'd be backing in this contest.
3. Your husband's criminal conviction, and subsequent prison sentence, isn't a private family matter. It is literally public record and must have been bad for him to have been to prison AND for it to be reported in the media. The fact it was involving a child, and the fact you are so embarrassed to disclose it, shows it is bad.
4. You are very clearly jealous and threatened by your SIL. The way you spit venom about her says more about you. She sounds very successful and should be proud of her achievements but you are so intent to bring her down a peg or 2 by making a mountain over a molehill and trying to turn family against her. Lawyer who sticks up for her child, doesn't vape, does charity work or convicted criminal saying inappropriate things to children. Ask yourself, who would you back if you weren't the wife of said criminal?

You are very deluded and sound like a typical narcissist. I suggest you do some soul searching and offer some since apologies.

This is all of your own doing and I hope this post gets back to SIL so we can get her side.

Because the OP literally said it involved a child. That narrows down the likely offence considerably, particularly when it involves a custodial sentence.
So no. Not daft. Just capable of basic literacy.

I agree.

DH had a classmate who went to prison for crimes involving a child. It was not sexual. DH pulled up the article for me to read. It was in 2014 and it was physical and emotional abuse of a very young child. It was a very grim read and the man, a former PC was sentenced to 4 years.

Maybe you're right. I skimmed the posts the first time. Will read more closely.

I do understand her not wanting to disclose her DH's conviction as it would v likely be outing, I don't find it particularly suspicious that she's cagey about that tbh.

Very possibly, but we can only guess, since OP has flounced. I certainly think that if what he did warranted a jail sentence then it must have been serious, but without knowing in what capacity the child was involved we’re in the dark really. I don’t think words like ‘paedophile’ are helpful, especially since OP has said it was nothing sexual, but I agree, it’s clearly something significant.

I read all of OP's posts. Her SIL has turned her friend group against her because of something her DH once did. I think most people would be upset about this

Surely they are adults who have made their own decision?

Or he may have been violent towards a child.

Or knocked a child over whilst drunk driving