Eating beef in the house

It's very evident from their posts that they don't understand.

What is it exactly that you are saying that they don't agree with? The fact that cultural beliefs are deeply ingrained? The fact that intercultural relationships require some compromise? The fact that anyone is entitled to feel that they don't want something which they find repulsive in their own home?

They don't agree that cultural norms play a role in what people consider appropriate to eat?

What makes you think PP don't understand? They just don't agree.

Exactly. It's very interesting to see how many people are unable to comprehend this.

Ethnnocentricity at its best.

That doesn't follow. I'm an atheist and I don't eat whale, rabbit, horse or some other of meats that were not eaten where I grew up but are commonly eaten elsewhere. It's illegal to eat cow in some Indian states so if je grew up in one of those areas its perfectly reasonable he doesn't consider cows to be meat.

Yes, but it's only illegal to buy or sell dog meat because of our own cultural prohibitions on eating dog.

The framing of dogs as "man's best friend" is also cultural.

If he has a similar cultural belief about eating beef - and many people do - then it doesn't matter if he is atheist or not, the idea may just be repulsive to him.

If he feels that strongly about it he cannot be an atheist.
He needs to acknowledge that before you can have any kind of sensible conversation about it.

What about him loving her?

She's binned him off anyway, so problem solved.

The OP stated he was raised Hindu.
Even if he is no longer religious it would be difficult to go against that cultural upbringing were cows are simply not considered food. One of my friends was raised in a place were eating rabbits was common, whereas I had pet rabbits as a kid and I didn't know anyone that ate them, and certainly can't bring myself to eat them now and wouldn't want to live with someone who cooked and ate them - even if they had a special bunny plate to eat them from.

It's illegal to buy or sell dog meat but not beef.

Also, dogs are man's best friend, etc - cattle not so much.

Anyway he's atheist so he needs to get over himself.

Because she loves him.

We need to stop validating making women smaller to make space for men and what they want, all women and all men.

I love all these women who would go absolutely mental if their DH’s told them what they could or could not eat inside their own homes telling OP that she needs to bend on this. Just stop and think about it seriously, OP’s boyfriend is trying to get her to comply with an irrational cultural belief (lets be honest, a hangover of a religious belief whilst claiming to be an atheist) , what other irrational cultural beliefs will she be expected to comply with later? Sorry to say but if you give an inch on stuff like this you’ll give a mile on things that matter a lot more. what about OP’s cultural belief that beef is no different to chicken?

Why should she comply to save a relationship with someone who is incapable of even beginning to rationalise, understand and reject his own cultural conditioning as a ridiculous imposition on others. I would dump him on the basis that he is incapable of using basic logic alone.

Or shouldnt the partners be considerate right to eat whatever the hell they want and where and when they want it.

It's not about the beef anymore, it's the abuse that follows if you don't adhere to what he says. Yes, I would call name calling and demands to throw out your crockery abuse.
There's always going to be things we like & dislike but it's about respectfully communicating them.

Too much of an imposition and the beginning of the end.

Why should the op have to do that? If eating beef winds him up, he needs to get a grip

So, if you were living with someone from another culture who wanted to eat dog in your shared home, you would be comfortable with that? Because it would be wrong to demand compliance with your cultural habits?

Intercultural relationships require mutual respect and compromise. If you don't want to make any compromises, then that kind of relationship probably wouldn't work for you. And that's fair enough.

Can he explain what he's got against beef? Does he have any evidence based reason for disliking this one type of meat?

I agree.

LTB.

He's not religiously observant, he's simply using this as a reason to bully and control.

I am vegetarian, I dislike people eating meat and hate the smell of it cooking. But my partner and I just do our thing. If he wants to eat meat, fine, he cooks it. If he doesn't want to cook, he eats what I make - which is 95% of the time because he's a lazy arse who hates cooking.

I don't think you're unreasonable OP because he doesn't believe in god. If he was strictly religious and still practiced then I'd probably would've just stuck to eating beef out the house. I don't like the aggressiveness and name-calling though, ugh.

If my partner knawed on lumps of a dead cow I would be disgusted also, but they would not be my partner in the first place given such incompatibilities, how long have you been together and how often do you eat cow body parts ? Is this a new thing ?

Give him a bit of space. He may be atheist but perhaps struggles with it, and this eating beef thing is part of his culture. I say compromise. If you're with him despite all of the initial difficulties, he must be worth it.

I think this sounds like an unhealthy relationship. Life can be better than this!

I have a lot of respect for people who are vegetarian or vegan just because they want to be and if they're staying with me for example I just make all food veggie or vegan.

I do eat meat and would absolutely not be with someone who wouldn't let me eat meat in my own house. Whatever meat that is. In a work context I would respect people's religious sensibilities about certain meats/shellfish etc but I think it's a lot of nonsense (true also of many religious rules which seem biased against women).

I would not stop eating beef at home but would compromise on using a different plate if he was down amazing guy. But he called you an arsehole so I'm not sure he's worth tej sacrifice.