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Eating beef in the house

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Frazzled252 · 26/02/2026 19:09

Partner is an atheist but was raised Hindu and is very aggressive about me eating beef. I have told him I will eat beef as it’s his belief not mine. I ate it in the house tonight and he has called me an a**ehole and is demanding I throw away the plate and cutlery I ate it on, yet he goes to many restaurants where they serve beef and eats on those plates. AIBU?

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Imbrocator · 26/02/2026 19:18

I might be willing to accommodate his (irrational) preferences out of love and respect, but I would not be prepared to be with someone who was so disrespectful as to call me an arsehole over it.

arethereanyleftatall · 26/02/2026 19:17

If my partner called me an arsehole, he would no longer be my partner.
I don’t know why so so many women choose being in relationships with men who are horrid to them over being single.

mindutopia · 26/02/2026 19:16

Did you not discuss this before you moved in together?

I am Jewish and was vegetarian when I met Dh. The rule was no meat in my house (when we lived separately). When we moved in together, I wouldn’t cook meat, but didn’t care if he cooked something separate for himself. But no pork at all in the house (he was fine to eat it when out). I am not particularly observant, but them was the rules. He always had the choice to not live with me or not be in a relationship with me, but I was very clear from the get go.

MidnightPatrol · 26/02/2026 19:12

I think if my partner was very against eating beef, I’d just not eat it at home.

Then I could still enjoy it, but not wind them up about it.

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Frazzled252 · 26/02/2026 19:12

2dogsandabudgie · 26/02/2026 19:11

Do you really want to be with someone like this, you don't sound compatible.

He has no problem sitting next to me in a drive thru while I eat a Big Mac it’s just the plates. Doesn’t usually come up. I just can’t understand it especially as he is an atheist

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2dogsandabudgie · 26/02/2026 19:11

Do you really want to be with someone like this, you don't sound compatible.