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To think that many Mumsnetters despise regional accents and dialects?

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binnibonnieboo · 26/02/2026 13:06

I'm Irish, and I've been on Mumsnet for years. I've seen so many threads fulminating about pronunciation, spelling and grammar. These so often ignore the diverse accents and dialects across the UK and Ireland. There seems to be a view that anything not RP or standard southern English is common, ill educated, Americanised (wrong), and just Not Right. Sometimes (not always) I sense a thinly veiled contempt for how I and others (Scottish, Northern Irish, Welsh, northern English) talk. AIBU to feel this?

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phoenixrosehere · 26/02/2026 17:46

NotAnotherScarf · 26/02/2026 17:08

That comes from the fact that we get a lot of American TV and online content and when I was a kid 50+ years ago no one went trick or treating... now it's bloody mandatory to have sweets on hand. But November 5th Bonfire night had withered in the same time frame...so there has been a genuine concern about the Americanisation of "holidays". Which in itself is an American phrase.

The origins of Halloween stem from Irish and Scottish immigrants bringing their traditions to America in the 19th Century.

Bonfire night may have gone down in your area but in others it has not. I’m in Oxfordshire and both are celebrated.

Does it ever occur to actually look at the history before going American = Bad?

Many of the American traditions posters choose to moan about are stemmed from the UK and/or Europe.

Fifthtimelucky · 26/02/2026 17:46

When I was young, over 40 years ago, I was sent on a residential training course for work. The other people on the course came from all over England. I was teased for my accent and I remember everyone being very amused when I naively said “but I don’t have an accent”!

As far as I was concerned, I spoke standard English, so accents were things other people had if they didn’t sound like me. That included my father and his parents and siblings (who all had Lancashire accents), various school friends with Somerset accents (which is where I was born and brought up) and university friends with accents from a variety of places including Yorkshire, Derbyshire, Teesside and Birmingham.

I don’t despise any accents, though I definitely prefer some to others. The one I like least is a Northern Irish accent, which I blame on having being brought up in the 1970s when the only NI accents I ever heard were on the news, spoken by Ian Paisley and the actor speaking the words of Gerry Adams, and usually accompanying stories on the news about bombings or other traumatic events.

More recently, ‘Derry Girls’ has helped to give me happier associations with the accent!

PleasantPedant · 26/02/2026 17:46

MasterBeth · 26/02/2026 17:35

This is absolute nonsense. You should not always hear the -er. It depends on their accent. Who made you the authority on how to say drawer?

@MasterBeth , it's not nonsense. It's like saying river or ruler is two syllables.

MasterBeth · 26/02/2026 17:35

CremeEggThief · 26/02/2026 16:13

No you should always hear the -er, when someone says it, so if you don't, they are saying it wrong!
But this an accent thing and isn't as awful as "You was" or "I seen" or similar.

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This is absolute nonsense. You should not always hear the -er. It depends on their accent. Who made you the authority on how to say drawer?

PleasantPedant · 26/02/2026 17:33

@Elsvieta , I don't have an accent. I have a mishmash of several.

@Daygloboo , @Waitingfordoggo posted " South Wales accents are my favourite. "

MasterBeth · 26/02/2026 17:31

Daygloboo · 26/02/2026 17:28

I wouldnt call welsh a regional accent. Wales is a country.

And..?

youbizarrehorse · 26/02/2026 17:28

NotAnotherScarf · 26/02/2026 17:08

That comes from the fact that we get a lot of American TV and online content and when I was a kid 50+ years ago no one went trick or treating... now it's bloody mandatory to have sweets on hand. But November 5th Bonfire night had withered in the same time frame...so there has been a genuine concern about the Americanisation of "holidays". Which in itself is an American phrase.

I went ‘trick or treating’ in NI 50 years ago (I’m 58.) It just wasn’t called that. Let’s face it, in reality there are rarely any tricks, just treats. We went around the doors with our smelly turnip lanterns, wore masks and sang or recited something, and were rewarded with sweets and sometimes a couple of pence to buy more sweets. Very similar to trick or treating. Not American. Not that it matters. Blame us instead😅

Daygloboo · 26/02/2026 17:28

Waitingfordoggo · 26/02/2026 13:24

I like hearing regional accents. Naturally there are some I like the sound of more than others. South Wales accents are my favourite. I’m a bit less keen on a South African accent but I wouldn’t tell someone from SA they’re speaking incorrectly. People who talk about correct/incorrect pronunciations just display their ignorance. Language variety is a wonderful and endlessly fascinating subject, not something to be telling people off over.

I wouldnt call welsh a regional accent. Wales is a country.

Overtheatlantic · 26/02/2026 17:27

I love accented English but bad grammar and spelling actually is not paying attention in school and not reading. “Down the pub” fine, “I was sat in my car” not fine.

MasterBeth · 26/02/2026 17:22

Arran2024 · 26/02/2026 17:07

I am Scottish but live in London. I think gentle teasing of the way I/they say things is just part of our family banter. Btw my London relatives can't pronounce the "wh" sound. They can only say "w", so "whisper" is "wisper". It's not just me who speaks strangely!! And of course the standing joke in our house is that Alexa doesn't understand a word I say!

It's just as tedious to hear Scottish people "teasing" Londoners for their accent as the opposite.

It's not "strange" for a Londoner not to vocalise the h in whisper, and it's not strange for a Scottish to do so.

NotAnotherScarf · 26/02/2026 17:14

I'm from the west country and our accent is dying, despite the rise of Steven Merchant and Josie.... before them you never heard our accent even on local TV or radio.

I love the way I speak. In fact I've consciously gone more west country as I've got older using I instead of me, only wearing daps and not trainers and including cassent, dursent and hassent on regular basis.

But if I wrote the way I speaks den de wouldn't proper understand I.

Sartre · 26/02/2026 17:11

I get this sometimes because my prefix is Dr and that has certain connotations- high intellect so must be high middle class, RP accent etc. When I open my mouth and there’s a thick Yorkshire accent people sometimes seem a bit taken aback. It’s worse still if it’s summer and my tattoos are exposed. Hey ho. People have their biases, I think it’s structural and unlikely to alter any time soon.

AgnesMcDoo · 26/02/2026 17:10

NotAnotherScarf · 26/02/2026 17:08

That comes from the fact that we get a lot of American TV and online content and when I was a kid 50+ years ago no one went trick or treating... now it's bloody mandatory to have sweets on hand. But November 5th Bonfire night had withered in the same time frame...so there has been a genuine concern about the Americanisation of "holidays". Which in itself is an American phrase.

Halloween is Celtic not American and we go guising not trick or treating and have always done so.

NotAnotherScarf · 26/02/2026 17:08

JohnnyMcGrathSaysFuckOff · 26/02/2026 13:42

Yanbu at all. I do see this aimed at Irish/ NI names too.

I grew in the US and also note the use of American to mean bad. Anything American (or seen as such) like Halloween or Thanksgiving is "American" and "commercial". Mostly from people who have zero idea what it feels like to celebrate over there.

(Yes I know Hween isn't originally American.)

That comes from the fact that we get a lot of American TV and online content and when I was a kid 50+ years ago no one went trick or treating... now it's bloody mandatory to have sweets on hand. But November 5th Bonfire night had withered in the same time frame...so there has been a genuine concern about the Americanisation of "holidays". Which in itself is an American phrase.

Arran2024 · 26/02/2026 17:07

I am Scottish but live in London. I think gentle teasing of the way I/they say things is just part of our family banter. Btw my London relatives can't pronounce the "wh" sound. They can only say "w", so "whisper" is "wisper". It's not just me who speaks strangely!! And of course the standing joke in our house is that Alexa doesn't understand a word I say!

Playingvideogames · 26/02/2026 17:05

Ahhhh, today’s ‘I’m Irish and here’s another way of saying just how awful English people are while pretending it’s just a casual observation’

Yawn

Elsvieta · 26/02/2026 17:02

True. Although it's always good for a laugh when they claim they "don't have an accent". Or don't understand the difference between accent and dialect.

binnibonnieboo · 26/02/2026 17:01

Elsvieta · 26/02/2026 16:59

People with rhotic accents (Somerset, Norfolk, Americans) would pronounce the R.

Yes two distinct syllables for me in drawer

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Elsvieta · 26/02/2026 16:59

hyggetyggedotorg · 26/02/2026 15:58

Draw & drawer do sound identical don’t they?

Not sure I’ve heard either pronounced differently 😁.

People with rhotic accents (Somerset, Norfolk, Americans) would pronounce the R.

PleasantPedant · 26/02/2026 16:55

@hyggetyggedotorg , draw is drɔː, drawer is drɔːr.

MasterBeth · 26/02/2026 16:55

ScrollingLeaves · 26/02/2026 13:24

I think you are wrong. I am sure a very high proportion have regional accents.

Everyone has a regional accent.

phoenixrosehere · 26/02/2026 16:49

DrinkFeckArseBrick · 26/02/2026 16:25

Agree OP. There are regular threads about how people hate the word 'mom' and 'santa' and how it's crept in from America when lots of places in the UK use those words.

Also any poster who uses any kind of regional phrase, that whilst other posters might not use but can clearly see what it means in the context of the opening thread, there are always a load of comments along the lines of 'I couldn't possibly answer as I have no idea what you mean because of this one sentence out of 20' and the OP ends up explaining themselves / getting into a debate / apologising for their (common usage regionally) phrasing. Its really annoying.

It's a bit like the posters that seem to have no inkling that if someone is posting in the middle of the night about having a bbq, they are likely not in the uk, and the replies are all along the lines of 'a bbq in this weather / at this time of night, are you mad!' rather than the actual issue at hand (kangaroo ate all the bbq food).

Right.

The hate of ‘American’ words 🙄. Where do they think they got the pronunciations from in the first place? The indigenous population sure weren’t speaking English before the co..settlers came.

All the British and Irish pronunciations I’ve heard mentioned in MN, I have heard the same pronunciations in the States depending on the region just like in the UK.

UnctuousUnicorns · 26/02/2026 16:46

AlcoholicAntibiotic · 26/02/2026 16:41

For those people saying they’ve never seen criticism of a southern English accent, here’s a case in point!

For those who can't take a joke, the 😄 represents humour, and that the post is not to be taken too seriously.

(It's still true, though.)

DontBuyANewMumCashmere · 26/02/2026 16:46

YANBU
I am English but north-Midlander (vomit emoji /sarcasm) and was brought up in another country within UK (aarrgghhh).

A lot of people assume anyone with a regional accent is thick or pretentious. Scousers and Brummies get a lot of stick here.

My own DH often makes claims about pronunciation and accents that just aren't true and no amount of pointing out will correct his prejudices!
(Things like 'No one says Mom in UK, it's an awful Americanisation' - no it's not, both my parents say that as they're northern/midlanders)

AlcoholicAntibiotic · 26/02/2026 16:41

UnctuousUnicorns · 26/02/2026 16:40

Mersey, actually. And don't get me started on that baahth and graahss nonsense! If it hasn't got an "r" or a "h" after the "a", then it rhymes with "cat" or "bat". End of! 😄

For those people saying they’ve never seen criticism of a southern English accent, here’s a case in point!