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To struggle forgiving a friend who wasn’t there when I really needed them?

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MyCosyHare · 25/02/2026 21:53

I’m not talking about small stuff. I mean a genuinely hard period where I could have used support and they disappeared. Now they want to carry on like normal. I’m torn between keeping the peace and feeling like something fundamental shifted. How do you move past that or do you?

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AlcoholicAntibiotic · 25/02/2026 22:00

I couldn’t move past it when it happened to me.

Made me completely reevaluate the friendship and realised it wasn’t worth it any more.

gamerchick · 25/02/2026 22:00

I don't move past someone shitting on me.

Plankton89 · 25/02/2026 22:00

HTruffle · 25/02/2026 21:54

Cut them out, I’d say. Sorry to be blunt, but that’s true colours.

Yup. I did this for the same reason.

Onelifeonly · 25/02/2026 21:59

I don't think like that. I accept people for what they can give and allow that they might be overwhelmed in their own lives or unable to step up in the way I might like. However we have no context here, so you could be very reasonable to be unable to forgive. Maybe give it more time and see if the feeling subsides?

SunnyRedSnail · 25/02/2026 21:58

Depends why they weren't there.

HTruffle · 25/02/2026 21:54

Cut them out, I’d say. Sorry to be blunt, but that’s true colours.

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