Anti social behavior or boys being boys

This would've been a better thread to start after the police have been round to tell them exactly what they saw on the CCTV.

Not sure what good it'll do before that.

I'd listen to what the police officer said and make sure that any damage was paid for. If there wasn't any damage then I'd probably just follow up with a "that wasn't a smart thing to do, was it?" kind of talk and then leave it there.

It's not so much a boys will be boys thing as a teenagers sometimes make poor decisions and by that age I see my role as more to encourage better decision-making rather than haranguing them for the bad choices.

I despise ‘boys will be boys’, it has been used to excuse sexual assault and even rape, it is used to excuse poor behaviour by male members of the species when they don’t need any more excuses. I say that as a mother of boys.

That aside, I wouldn’t be too worked up about the police calling it anti social behaviour. The kids did wrong, they knew they were doing wrong but sis it anyway, the gate being open is not an excuse, the club were unhappy and the police are going to talk to them but not take it further. Seems reasonable to me.

No it’s not boys being boys.

Its kids trying their luck doing what they shouldn’t. All pretty standard but the have been caught and as much as pushing the boundaries is pretty standard human behaviour the were caught in CCTV and therefore will suffer the natural consequence.

but I think young lads this age are probably always pulling stunts like this and to class it as anti social behavior is a bit much.

So you think "boys will be boys"....

Its not your place to say it wasnt Anti social behaviour; because it wasnt your property. You dont get to minimise the impact because it doesnt seem that bad to you. The impact is defined by the one who was impacted, not by the mother of the boy (being boys). So yes YABU. Let the police come down their talk; and reinforce that they were in the wrong, not "boys being boys".

There is no such thing as boys being boys. That's just an excuse for parents to justify their kids poor behaviour.

I wouldn't worry op. It sounds like the local community copper has some time on their hands, hence the personalised visits.

I'm really not a fan of the 'BWBB' saying. But the 'incident' sounds pretty mild so beyond sternly telling ds not to do it again, my (private) thoughts would be 'meh'.

I couldn't get too excited about this. Explain to your ds the fragile nature of AstroTurf, and tell him not to do it again.

Regardless of wether they jumped a fence or walked though the gate they knew they wasn't allowed to be there and they did not have the permission of the landowner to play football there, doesn't matter if they thought anyone would find out fact is they've done wrong and it is antisocial behaviour as it would be considered both rowdy/inconsiderate behaviour and trespassing.

Hopefully they'll not do it again and think before they do stuff in the future.

Sounds like your son and friends were well in the wrong. You need to let Police and talk to him yourself. I don't buy into 'boys being boys' which actually means zilch and is an excuse mostly used by parents of kids getting into trouble But if Police keep catching them doing antisocial or similar it will not be just a telling off. You need to fix this

Astro turf is very expensive.
Playing on it with the wrong footwear can damage the surface. And actually cause injury to those playing.
So this wasn't a negligible thing to do. They could have caused expensive damage and possibly hurt themselves.

If you obviously don't take his irresponsible behaviour seriously OP no wonder he thinks he can do what he likes regardless of negative consequences.

I suppose you’d have to see the video really, playing football where they’re not supposed to be I’d class as trespassing but if they were being really loud and rough I’d say antisocial. We have a football pitch nearby and when people are walking around it I’ve seen kids play a little on it, I suppose the difference is that the club minds