To message her..

Thank you for putting her child first OP. Far too many turn a blind eye when they don't know a child personally!

I'd be reporting to police and social services. She needs to hear this through official channels who can then monitor the situation going forwards because he absolutely poses a serious risk. She may be vulnerable, he may have manipulated her, she may not know. But you telling her directly is not really enough because she may not believe you or he may find ways to excuse it away or she may not understand the gravity of the risk. Ring social services and police tomorrow. It may be part of his conditions that he needs to disclose relationships so this can be monitored.

Could have been errors, and also there are some people out there who think you should never interfere no matter what. Hope they never need help.

I would do this. Contact the police on the non urgent number and explain the situation. @TheDenimPoet

but who on earth are the 1% saying SIBU and why?

Did you message her using Facebook messenger? If you’re not friends with her on there there’s a high chance she won’t see your message as it doesn’t usually alert you if a stranger messages you. You should maybe try to alert her another way if you can.

I read that, too. Absolutely dreadful. And did you see how his new wife is the absolute spitting image of his late wife?? To a spooky degree, imo.

That poor lady. She truly felt she had no way out. I wish she'd gone the other way and done a Sally Challen. (Woman who put up with years of dreadful abuse, then snapped one day and beat him to death with a frying pan. 🤭)

ETA: Sorry, it was a hammer, but she'd been cooking him a fry-up when he went out to see his mistress and snapped when he came back.

I don't recall ever seeing "you are not being unreasonable" at 99%. I think the correct answer is obvious to all.

Out of interest, how did you find his new profile on Facebook?

I’d tell her, but also report to police and social services in case she’s been too sucked in by his bullshit. I read a story in the paper this morning about a vile man being prosecuted for manslaughter of his wife, who killed herself as a result of his emotional, sexual and physical abuse. There was loads of contemporaneous evidence including her own diaries and doctor’s reports, showing what he did to her. Nevertheless he has acquired a new wife since the first wife died, and the new wife has a website devoted to how the charges against her husband are terrible and untrue and what a great man he is, and “allegations are not true, justice will prevail” (I really hope it does!). It is staggering how people can be taken in.

Yeah ok fair enough. It is 8 pages though..

I wouldn't go to her. He could state that it was lies and it could backfire on you, especially if you have had previous trouble with his family.
You tell the Police asap, and your local Social work team who deal with offenders. Better coming from them. Please do this ASAP.

For the love of God will people at least read all of the OPs posts before commenting?

She messaged the woman AND contacted the police around 4 pages ago!

Phew!! 🩷

You’ve absolutely done the right thing, OP. I wouldn’t be able to relax knowing that someone like this was anywhere near a child and wouldn’t be able to keep quiet.

Yes send it now
and tell her to do Claire’s Law

Jesus. Was there anything off about him that you can see with the benefit of that most illuminating of things - i.e. hindsight?

100% send the article BUT I’d consider anonymising yourself. You could also go OTT and if you know what area they live in, contact the children’s social care team and make a report if you have the full name of the child or at least the mother perhaps. Because even if she knows she might think he’s changed?

Well done OP!!!!! You're a star!

Well done for acting so quickly he is a devious and potentially dangerous individual. I hope that he gets a visit from the police and that they remove his devices for checking.

YES tell her ASAP! This child needs protecting!!!

Vital to tell the police for many reasons already given. Excellent advice and info from the safeguarding lead upthread. Don't message the lady directly and well done for doing this.

Good work, OP.
Really pleased you have reported this - so many cases of abuse have missed opportunities like this. Well done

yes and you also report him!
he is on the register for a reason!

I knew someone like this new girlfriend and she did nothing to protect the child, even when told about him so 100% report as well