school say my son has to be in after his accident

Madness what kids have to go through 😔
Let him have a week off to heal and get his teeth done
Bizaare that adults are allowed sick days but kids aren't

12 is not too old for a scooter. Scooters were popular with teens when my kids were teenagers. DD2 still has hers, and she's 19. She won't let me donate it because she is adamant she'll use it again.

www.skates.co.uk/products/blunt-envy-colt-s6-complete-stunt-scooter-black

Just curious that’s all.

Yeah, sure you are

If he is indeed struggling as much as you say, then you ask for evidence from your doctor to say this and submit it to school. They will then have no choice but to record it as authorised.
There isnt a half way house here, if he is still in shock/concussed/suffering from the trauma/experiencing a lot of pain i would be back and forth with medical help to ensure his recovery.

Your original post just sounded like a rant at the school because they are chasing you because you "cant get him in"

There is a difference to being well enough physically and mentally and refusing to not being well enough physically and mentally. If he is struggling as much as you go on to elaborate, get him seem tomorrow and get it in writing the things he is suffering with, just as you have to do with a dentists appointment etc. Schools need evidence. You ringing uo clearly isnt cutting the mustard long term, they need evidence.

Unfortunately governments have made it so schools act in this manner. Hounding pupils for attendance because it is limiting factors for ofsted and funding. No teacher wants a child who is unwell physically or mentally in their class because the child won't learn. Its the way the system is geared that means a tactless emotionless viewpoint is taken on attendance

completEly agree! A broken wrist nearly on the mend maybe but all the damage to his face and shock of the accident makes it so much worse

could you take photos of his face and make sure you save all details / take notes on medical appointments and later on you can request authorised absence- you can say it was a shock for you too

Um...get up earlier.

Just out of curiosity as he seems a bit old at 12 for a children’s scooter, is this one of those electric scooters? You know, the ones that everyone with half a brain knows are illegal and cannot be used without insurance and a license? The ones parents still keep buying for their children even though they know they can be confiscated by the police and it is not legal to ride them? Those kind of scooters? Just curious that’s all.

My original comment was to say he was having a few days and you would review from there. As your post was made today, even if you had done that you have obviously assessed today and determined he needs more recovery time.

Just seen your updates which say more about his teeth and that he also had mild concussion.

Just leaving the NHS advice here https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/head-injury-and-concussion/

Found this regarding tooth extraction - but take into account that your sons was not a standard extraction, and involved multiple teeth.

Be interested to know if those saying he should of home back to school on Monday would have gone back to work themselves.

Is it because of the teeth? Appearances are important to kids.

Wtf, who put schools in charge can you get a sick note off the doctor, poor kid. Broken teeth and wrist in pain and bruised, I would be off work with that and I'm self employed ie no sick pay.

I'm a teacher and I wouldn't expect to see a child in school in this state.

Those are pretty nasty injuries, lacerations to the face, missing teeth, broken bones. And yes, we know kids are meant to wear helmets, but they don't, and I never did when I was a kid. He got busted up. That does happen. And now he's feeling sorry for himself, can't sleep properly, can't eat properly, etc. Perfectly understandable.

Send them anything you've got from the hospital, say you're a bit upset by the lack of pastoral care ... Strange question, but can your son actually do the general stuff, like his flies so he can go to the toilet? If not, simply ask the school how they're going to manage it.

Also sick of people expecting more from children than they would of adults. Adults can self certify for a week and then, as others have said, get a GP note reasonably easily.

All of the "no reason at all" people on the thread saying he should suck it up and be (physically?) forced into school, I could bet my bottom dollar none of them would go to work unable to write, in pain, and missing all their main teeth. There is absolutely no way I'd go to work in that state and I wouldn't expect a 12 year old child to be more resilient than an adult.

I would call his Dr and say what happened and that he is in pain and shock regarding his teeth having to be removed so suddenly.
He is probs feeling self conscious, in pain and PTSD from the accident.... Loosing teeth is traumatic and 4 at front is real bad.
When I had teeth pulled I found it really traumatic - and mine where at the back!.....
having such a bad facial injury must be horrendous for poor boy.
Get a sick note for him.

If you have nothing helpful to say, I'd shut up if I were you. Unless you've had a facial injury including the loss of teeth and subsequent extractions you have no idea of the shock and pain involved. Add in the broken wrist and I can imagine he is feeling pretty rotten all round. There's no way I'd be forcing him back before he's ready just to meet the attendance targets of some shit school!

I’d be concerned about concussion, when my son hit his head falling off his MTB on a Saturday (with a full face helmet), he seemed fine so I sent him to school. He ended up coming home with nausea and a headache. Apparently concussion symptoms can take 48 hrs to show up. I then looked into the guidelines for kids and concussion (look at the ones they do for kids who play rugby etc) and he was supposed to stay away from screens etc for the first few days too. I think he missed a few days of school in the end and a few weeks of MTBing.

www.sportengland.org/news/new-concussion-guidelines-grassroots-sport

Couldn't agree more.

Is he well in himself though? Not many people would be well after losing their front teeth.

How do they know he’s well in himself? Have you downplayed it to a receptionist

can you stall the school by saying you are seeking medical advice on Friday about whether he’s well enough for school

It is literally the easiest thing in the world to get a sick note from a GP most adults do for much less than losing four front teeth and breaking your arm not even a week ago

Money!

Toothache is one of the worst kinds of pain (if they've only cleaned it up, presumably it's still sore), and lots of people with fractured wrists stay off work

These days there's lots of stuff online, and I would have done better wfh for some of my classes, (depending on the teacher and classmates) than actually being in the room, so would they maybe let him do that? Lots of kids are in online schools now, but I'm guessing that isn't an option with yours, as if your school offered online/hybrid learning, you'd have presumably chosen this (it seems only private pupils get that option, not that I've really looked into high schools, but I couldn't afford that).

YES!! 👏

Who the fuck do these schools think they are? I’m the one responsible for my child’s health, wellbeing and this includes consideration of whether they are well enough to attend or need time off for appointments. I tell school when my child won’t be there, I’m not asking for permission.

And he has excellent attendance, but if I as his parent make a judgement that he needs time off for medical reasons, that’s the end of it

Honestly, I thimk at 12 it might just be too much for him at school.
Its his dominant hand thats out of action, so everything he has to do will be awkward and difficult. From carrying his bag, to going to the loo, to eating.
Never mind eating infront of others with no front teeth.
Add in the pain in his arm, the tiredness from disturbed sleep, and the self consciousness of how he looks, and I think that should be plenty to justify him being off.
I'd not be forcing my son to go in just yet.
I'd probably agree a time scale though, and let him know he can be off until next week, then he needs to start going in.
Do you think GP would agree to a quick note? Especially given that he isn't sleeping well, and can't take anything stronger for pain (he's 12 and anything other than paracetamol or brufen is likely to give him side effects).

Children can't have implants - they have to have dentures until their jaws stop growing.

I really feel for this kid, 4 front teeth is a lot and adolescents are already so self conscious.

I think there’s two strands to this - physical and mental. The physical can be dealt with by time and pain management.

Does he have a friend who might come and see him at home at the weekend, tell him what’s going on at school (not lessons, just generally) and act as a bit of a supportive ‘buddy’ to get him feeling like he can go back in again?

Yes they would. If you say you feel too poorly to attend work, how could they say “no you’re not”? GPs sign everyone off at the drop of a hat. They support their patients and don’t give a fuck about employers.